These words resonate with me. I've noted on many occasions that professional Dominants and Dom leaning escorts do seem to be more popular than their submissive counterparts. Perhaps that's partly due to male demand and desire. But I also wonder about the number of women who abstain from offering submissive services because of very real safety concerns. Especially when it comes to pain and impact play. And being physically restrained as a bondage bottom.
For me, I truly delight in being submissive much more so than I do being a Dominant. Regarding safety and authenticity, I just don't play with people I don't feel compatible with or who exhibit tendencies that they may be maladjusted when it comes to regarding another's consent. Once I feel much safer, genuineness and reveling in truly letting go and relinquishing control is more easeful.
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As a somewhat experienced Dom who has had D/s relationships in the past (long ago and far away, unfortunately) I would definitely like to see more really submissive providers offering the kind of services described here - ropes, spanking (especially with implements), genuine, if temporary, submission.
To me the difficulty is not just about trust, but genuine safety - ladies and gents go to great lengths to protect themselves because there are real dangers and dangerous people, and for this kind of thing to work you really do need to hand yourself over for at least the agreed time, if not longer/more frequently.
What I would love is someone who not only will take a spanking, but will enjoy it (either for real or at least enough to be convincing), take some reasonable risks in turning over control and agree to have her limits pushed.
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