Providers in committed relationships?

[Re]

Originally Posted by Randall Creed

And you seem to not understand the word 'commitment'.

Unfortunate, though not unexpected.

Commitment does not mean exclusivity.

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by Kendall4U

OP, you are correct. I don't care. So, why do you care what a whore does or if she's in a relationship? Mind ya business and stop asking personal questions on a whore board. You are WAY to moody and sensitive lately. What's up with that?

I made it clear, this thread was in response when a provider mentioned she was in a committed relationship and started this discussion, you kinda know me by now and know I can be a moody individual that probably needs a DT BBBJ

Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick

No shit. Since did a providers personal life become anyone business?.

Here is the spill: A guy will get treated nice when he visit but I don't give one bit shit about his personal life.

Why?

Cause it is none of my bizwax...that is why.

no one has demanded you to share anything, participate if you choose to

[guest071618-1]

Originally Posted by Kendall4U

OP, you are correct. I don't care. So, why do you care what a whore does or if she's in a relationship? Mind ya business and stop asking personal questions on a whore board. You are WAY to moody and sensitive lately. What's up with that?

I would fuk Kendall whether she is in relationship or not and she would fuk me whether I am in relationship or not (I think), as long as right arrangement is made.

Now would It be possible if there is no green involve???

[FunMonday]

I agree that marital status is none of our business. However, some providers have brought it up in conversation. Obviously quite a few hobbyists are asking inappropriate questions but the provider has a choice about what she discloses.

I'm almost ashamed to admit this but I have had better sessions with hot married providers. Once it's acknowledged there seems to be an edge of naughtiness and mystique. Let's face it some of the providers have very high sex drives that no one man can satisfy so they capitalized these urges.

I'm surprised there's not a thread about the occasional hot milf that pops up that is going through a divorce. She is both very frustrated and very motivated to raise the necessary capital. She takes scheduling seriously and she grinds out a better session more often than not. Unfortunately she soon disappears.

[micktoz]

So many closed minded pricks! It's been said before, it's none of our business what a ladies personal relationship is about.

I see a wonderful hooker in LV that just ended an 18 year marriage in which she and her SO were open in everything. They were originally into the swinging lifestyle and she decided to get paid for it. He would drive her to her outcall appointments. Some of you will call him a derogatory name, pimp. He was just being her husband and making sure she was safe.
Their relationship lasted longer than any of my two monogamous marriages. So, there is no reason for me to judge them. They both knew what they were doing. He had other ladies in his life also. And they were really happy for most of the marriage.

I also see a lady where I live, that is married to her guy for a lot of years. They are also swingers and I have met him. They are really cool together and I always send a thank you to him for sharing his gorgeous wife with me.

I'm not saying that it will work for very many people, but using judgments based on ownership of the women, and that's what you guys sound like, is closed minded and ffing insulting.

Committed relationships that work are based on a negotiated, honest plan. The ones that work change the plan along the way. And if the plan doesn't work any more change the relationship or get out.
Just don't try to own the person!

[Recurve Jones]

Geesh, I never imagined that there would be so many squares on an escort site! The nature of the site itself should negate participation by such people.

[FunMonday]

I think Micktoz nailed it but for every success story there's probably ten train wrecks. I knew a married provider whose husband essentially rejected her after she had hundreds of dicks. So she essentially equated intimacy to a select few to compensate for her husband's lack of desire. This goes into a dangerous territory for both hobbyist and providers. If the couple has kids the provider wife is better off to obtain his consent and accept the money and to get him to fuck a provider friend so he cannot use it against her in a custody battle.

This is why its really best to have the don't ask...don't tell policy.

[FunInDFW]

Originally Posted by Randall Creed

And you seem to not understand the word 'commitment'.

Unfortunate, though not unexpected.

Originally Posted by Re

Commitment does not mean exclusivity.

Might want to look it up, Creed.

[Chico Malo]

My 2cents and I am by no means the judge of anybody, just my opinion; A man who is okay with his SO providing is not much of a man. If you truly love someone you are not okay with them being with another man for any amount of money. I am basing this on my own personal experience. I was only truly in love once, we dated for a year and lived together for two years. She was dancing and providing when we meet. I never took a penny from her and I told her not to spend her money on me. I didn’t like what she was doing but that’s how we meet so I didn’t say anything but she knew I didn’t like her seeing other men and eventually after I started taking care of her she quit and got a RW job. It works both ways, on an out of town business trip I had a lady in a club come right out and asked me to take her to my hotel. I turned her down and the guys that were with me were telling me I was an idiot. I ended up taking the girl to my room, she was naked on the bed and I was sitting on the edge of the bed fully clothed and apologized to her that I couldn’t do it. I had never seen a woman get so mad. When you are whole heartily in love with someone they are all you desire and need. I messed up letting her go, wanted to make sure it was real and would be forever because of past relationships. I went by the old saying, if you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were."? Later my brother said the saying is, let her go and if she comes back nobody else wanted the bitch either.

The short version, if you are truly in love with each other you have no desire to see anyone else and will NOT share your SO with another man for any amount of money.

Like BLM69 stated no problem when you don’t really give f&ck about your partner.

[micktoz]

And there we have the love addiction version. I don't think that is loving the person. I think that is loving the endorphins caused by the emotion.

Everyone reacts to "love" in different ways. I think truly loving someone means accepting most of their traits and caring about their needs and desires.

The control issue is a you problem not a love problem.

Just my 2c and I am judging. Because without judgment I might make the same mistakes.

[Laura Lynn]

Just because a gent accepts what a lady has chosen to do for extra $, does not necessarily mean he is OK with it. It does show that he is willing to work on a relationship and loves her unconditionally, without judgement. Something most of you fuckers cannot comprehend.

Him accepting it does not mean he's her management. I'd say he's only a pimp if he's promoting her, forcing her and/or a dead beat unemployed leach.

Personally, I do not discuss my relationship status with a hobbyist because it is none of his business, just like I don't discuss his relationship status.

[pmdelites]

just cos one has an opinion about something does NOT mean that everyone has to agree with or follow along ("herd or mob mentality").

similarly, just cos one has an opinion about something does NOT mean their opinion is invalid, esp if it's based on personal experience.

if you cannot understand or even think of ANY reason why a person engages in extra-relational sex or why they are in a relationship where the other person engages in extra-relational sex, or assume certain roles and behaviors cos one of them does,
then i would suggest you at least acknowledge your pre-conceived or limited understanding of relationships.

according to dictionary.com, i dont see exclusivity anywhere in the definition. i take it to mean an agreement, pledge or promise between two or more people. it is up to THEM to define the agreement!!!
it may or may not be similar to a commitment you'd make.
and that's OKAY - as long as no one is getting hurt (physically, emotionally, etc.).

commitment
1. the act of committing.
2. the state of being committed.
3. the act of committing, pledging, or engaging oneself.
4. pledge or promise; obligation:
5. engagement; involvement:
6. perpetration or commission, as of a crime.
7. consignment, as to prison.
8. confinement to a mental institution or hospital:
9. an order, as by a court or judge, confining a person to a mental institution or hospital.
10. Law. a written order of a court directing that someone be confined in prison; mittimus.
11. Parliamentary Procedure. the act of referring or entrusting to a committee for consideration.
12. Stock Exchange. an agreement to buy or sell securities. a sale or purchase of securities.

[verygood69]

Originally Posted by Smokin

I'm not married anymore, but I do like slutty women.

Amen +1000

[Kayleehotchick]

One word for this thread.

Hypocrites.

[Nina the Dicknapper]

Originally Posted by DarlingDiana

Hummmm? Double standard.... so married men can be in committed relationships with their wives and have "fun" on the side but not cool if a provider has a hubby at home while she indulges in hobby "playtime"?????

Not sure why this question is so one sided?