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DSK · 06-01-2016, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Velvetangeltouch

Lol, I call bs... You like strange and you like sexual.. And the fact is if things are good at home it easier to sneak out the house without the wife nagging. Men like things they won't be blunt and ask their wives for.. So getting honest and to the greedy stuff it comes to men like sex and like variety. And the hobby opens doors for that!

You nailed it!

albundy · 06-01-2016, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Velvetangeltouch

Lol, I call bs... You like strange and you like sexual.. And the fact is if things are good at home it easier to sneak out the house without the wife nagging. Men like things they won't be blunt and ask their wives for.. So getting honest and to the greedy stuff it comes to men like sex and like variety. And the hobby opens doors for that!

^^^

I wish it was BS. It's been over 2-1/2 years since the last time me and the SO had sex. This is NOT an exaggeration.

I would MUCH rather be able to fuck my wife. She's hot as shit, I wouldn't need a piece of shit rubber to fuck her, wouldn't have to worry about "catching something" (presumably. LOL), and there would be real feelings there. Not just an "illusion of passion".

A chick on the side has too many things that could go wrong. Especially if the chick gets feelings for you or runs her mouth. Jerking off gets old. Divorce means not being able to see and raise my kids daily and having to shell out a shitload of money to the ex and at the same time, try to get on with my life. All of these options suck.

The answer? Hookers.

rexdutchman · 06-02-2016, 08:02 AM

Normal I would say, Stress slows everything.

Iaintliein · 06-02-2016, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by albundy

^^^

I wish it was BS. It's been over 2-1/2 years since the last time me and the SO had sex. This is NOT an exaggeration.

I would MUCH rather be able to fuck my wife. She's hot as shit, I wouldn't need a piece of shit rubber to fuck her, wouldn't have to worry about "catching something" (presumably. LOL), and there would be real feelings there. Not just an "illusion of passion".

A chick on the side has too many things that could go wrong. Especially if the chick gets feelings for you or runs her mouth. Jerking off gets old. Divorce means not being able to see and raise my kids daily and having to shell out a shitload of money to the ex and at the same time, try to get on with my life. All of these options suck.

The answer? Hookers.

I had a similar discussion with a gorgeous young lady pre coitus a few days ago. There are lots of reasons men hobby but two big categories are; players who want strange and guys who wouldn't hobby if they got what they needed at home. Of course the two do overlap and the degree of each varies.

She was concerned about ever having a real world relationship because as a provider it seems men will always "step out". I'm in your camp but at a better place, frequency at home is less than I'd like but enough . . . usually. Then a few weeks get "skipped" and I'm PMing someone I know.

So yes, had my wife always kept things in the right priority I'd have never found ASPD let alone ECCIE. Monogamy with a beautiful woman you also happen to love is the ultimate, but chastity with a beautiful woman you love is the absolute worst.

Some hunt for trophies, others just to survive.

rexdutchman · 06-02-2016, 08:27 AM

^ what he said +100%

Guest050619-1 · 06-02-2016, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF

what is it with the SO not putting out ,, I hear this a lot ...?

You hear it (because) in all likelihood, it's just the way it is. For many married guys, it's sadly true (for a myriad of reasons).

Iaintaliein summed it up for me....as a young single, I hunted for trophies....today, as an older fella, it's just to survive....

FunInDFW · 06-02-2016, 08:40 AM

One might think conversely in that if your home life is full of stress and frustration, you would need an outlet for that. An outlet that is hot, does naughty things, and enjoys having the stress relieved down her throat perhaps?

Kendall4U · 06-02-2016, 08:43 AM

I think the majority of the SO's, do in fact, fuck their husbands. Maybe not daily, but it happens. I feel like the guys say they don't to get a little sympathy for them "stepping" out. I think I can count on one hand the gents that have said they get sex at home, but they like variety and here they are. Contrary to popular belief, women like sex. I don't believe you guys are as deprived at home as you say.

Iaintliein · 06-02-2016, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Kendall4U

I think the majority of the SO's, do in fact, fuck their husbands. Maybe not daily, but it happens. I feel like the guys say they don't to get a little sympathy for them "stepping" out. I think I can count on one hand the gents that have said they get sex at home, but they like variety and here they are. Contrary to popular belief, women like sex. I don't believe you guys are as deprived at home as you say.

The definition of deprivation is different for each individual. At once a week I'm not satisfied but I'm not driven to roam. Everyone's situation is different but each individual is the definitive expert on their situation.

It sounds like my esteemed associated Mr Bundy would be overjoyed even in those times I'm dis-satisfied (two-three weeks between sympathy fucks), conversely I'd have once again given up half my worldly positions and gotten a divorce long before the 2 1/2 year mark he referenced.

Pictures are more accurately painted when not using too broad a brush. Saying all men are here lying about their home life is as wrong as saying all women enjoy sex. From personal experience many enjoy the power of saying no more (que, if only you were better in bed, she's probably getting it somewhere else canned response).

rexdutchman · 06-02-2016, 08:59 AM

I can only speak to my life, what I said is 100% honest and true. I agree some guys get more at home ,then they would let you think, however I think there is a lot of guy that don't. I agree with IAINTLIEN 100% just my .02

darkwader · 06-02-2016, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Kendall4U

I think the majority of the SO's, do in fact, fuck their husbands. Maybe not daily, but it happens. I feel like the guys say they don't to get a little sympathy for them "stepping" out. I think I can count on one hand the gents that have said they get sex at home, but they like variety and here they are. Contrary to popular belief, women like sex. I don't believe you guys are as deprived at home as you say.

women may like sex and most wives may fuck husbands but usually the sex comes with conditions and baggage. men can put with those hassles if there's good sex to go with it, as long as it's once in a while. female drama wears thin when one has to live with it for years, and the ability to tolerate that bullshit takes a nosedive in middleage which is why you see a lot of guys in their 40s start to step out for purposes of sex.

L.A. · 06-02-2016, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Kendall4U

I think the majority of the SO's, do in fact, fuck their husbands. Maybe not daily, but it happens. I feel like the guys say they don't to get a little sympathy for them "stepping" out. I think I can count on one hand the gents that have said they get sex at home, but they like variety and here they are. Contrary to popular belief, women like sex. I don't believe you guys are as deprived at home as you say.

It's been YEARS!! Maybe somebody will take pity and give me a sympathy fuck.

By the way, isn't "happy wife" an oxy-moron?

Iaintliein · 06-02-2016, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by darkwader

women may like sex and most wives may fuck husbands but usually the sex comes with conditions and baggage. men can put with those hassles if there's good sex to go with it, as long as it's once in a while. female drama wears thin when one has to live with it for years, and the ability to tolerate that bullshit takes a nosedive in middleage which is why you see a lot of guys in their 40s start to step out for purposes of sex.

Bingo! Begging is NOT foreplay. . .

Kendall4U · 06-02-2016, 11:45 AM

I didn't say ALL you gents are lying nor did I say ALL women love sex. I implied that I think there is more fuckin' going on at home than some of you gents let on. I know my ex NEVER had to beg for sex and I didn't hold it over his head to coax "good" behaviors from him. I truly feel badly for you guys that have that going on at home. That's just sad.

On an upbeat note, I just got back from vacation and am in dire need of some great sex. Any takers

Velvetangeltouch · 06-02-2016, 01:16 PM

Kendall4u hits it so on the head. As for anyone being offended guilty dog barks first!! Js and since I've been doing this I've heard more bullshit in the last couple months that I have in a lifetime.. Lol