1st messages not to send

[Guest071717]

"GFE or PSE? CIM/Snowballing on the menu? "

Things not to ask in a first contact with a companion.

Man oh man. I will say 99% of my contacts are awesome, but there is always one in the bunch.

Anyone have other Not To Say on 1st Contact.?

Peace, Love & Safety !

Addison

[Danielle Reid]

"Can I lick your ass?"

Umm, no I have no idea who you are and you didn't even have the courtesy to say "Hello" first. Who the hell wakes up thinking "I'm gonna lick ass today"?

[tandyscone]

Originally Posted by Danielle Reid

"Who the hell wakes up thinking "I'm gonna lick ass today"?

Umm, probably somewhere between 30% and 70% of the male population. lol.

Seriously, are these things that should not even be mentioned in a first contact, or is it the way in which they are mentioned?

[Danielle Reid]

Originally Posted by tandyscone

Umm, probably somewhere between 30% and 70% of the male population. lol.

Seriously, are these things that should not even be mentioned in a first contact, or is it the way in which they are mentioned?

That's nasty honestly. I don't want some random tongue punching my asshole. Makes me feel like I need to wipe my ass. Fuck that

Why would a guy think it's ok to say "hey let me lick your ass"? Umm negative sir. First I need your information plus references.

And no, you're not suppose to start having phone sex within the first 5 seconds of a call...or on the phone period. We discuss dos and don't in private or you can read the reviews which is the reason they are written in the first goddamn place you sick pervert booty eating cunt nugget

[CoverMe]

Originally Posted by Danielle Reid

....you sick pervert booty eating cunt nugget

That would also be a bad way to start a 1st message.

[PsychedelicMut]

Licking someone's ass is not the same as licking someone's bored out, filth ridden anal sphincter.

An "asshole" is buried deep within the crevasse formed by any voluptuous "ass" worth licking.

Addressing either during initial contact would definitely be inappropriate. Unless the two parties have established a connection that warrants such a question, then it is probably always uncalled for.

[Guest071717]

Agree. There had been no communication. I opened message and it was as quoted.

Uh, really. There was not a response given.
Hey, just say hi. Let us chat as bit.

Manners get you futher than rudeness. I am a sucker for nice gentlemen.

[Guest071717]

But as we all know, there are some that are rude.

Anyway, have you gentlemen had a lady be like that? I think it can go both ways.

I know I pissed a guy off once, when after a couple of dates, I got forward. It really bothered him.

[tandyscone]

Originally Posted by Danielle Reid

That's nasty honestly. I don't want some random tongue punching my asshole. Makes me feel like I need to wipe my ass. Fuck that

Why would a guy think it's ok to say "hey let me lick your ass"? Umm negative sir. First I need your information plus references.

And no, you're not suppose to start having phone sex within the first 5 seconds of a call...or on the phone period. We discuss dos and don't in private or you can read the reviews which is the reason they are written in the first goddamn place you sick pervert booty eating cunt nugget

For the record, Danielle, my first private contact with a provider, whether by PM, email, or text, always starts with me introducing myself. If it is by text or by email, I give my Eccie handle. I will give my references and then either say what in her profile caught my attention, or mention the ad she posted that prompted me to contact her. If she mentioned specials without specifying a specific amount, I will ask what the special is. Then I tell her how long a session I want to schedule and when. The only time I mentioned a specific act was when the provider's profile specified that she wanted advance notice if certain activities were to take place.

I have never attempted phone sex with a provider, and other than as mentioned above, I have never mentioned activities beyond what I have already seen mentioned either in a provider's profile or in a review until the end of the first session or later.

I apologize if my attempt at humor rubbed you the wrong way, but I would appreciate it if you wouldn't jump to conclusions at what I thought was a politely worded question.

[James1588]

Originally Posted by Addison Nash

Agree. There had been no communication. I opened message and it was as quoted.

Uh, really. There was not a response given.
Hey, just say hi. Let us chat as bit.

Manners get you futher than rudeness. I am a sucker for nice gentlemen.

I understand what you're saying, and I agree about the desirability of chatting. I try to book well in advance (weeks to months) and am happy to "talk" (voice, text, email) as much as a lady wants to.

However ... let me share a prospective client's point of view. If we read this board and pay attention to what most of the women say, we "get" that we're not supposed to make explicit conversation or inquiries before actually meeting you. But we also get something else: that timewaster is an escort's dirty word. So we're going to assume that the less chatty we are, the better. And a virtuous initial contact would be something like, "Hello, my name is So-and-So, I post on ECCIE as 'James1588.' I'd really like to meet you, and I wonder if I could book two hours of your time on such-and-such a date. My P411 client ID is (blah-de-blah,) my two most recent references are (etc., etc)."

So, yes, we need to keep it clean. But don't be surprised if we also keep it brief.

[Guest071717]

I totally agree. I don't mind chatting it up some to get to know each other. I do GFE, and I prefer it some. I have some appts booked months in advance, but we still chat because I want us to have that experience.

I am getting ready to do a small tour in June/July and even offered to do skype meet & greets so everyone is comfy.

But when someone, that has never contacted me, starts an email out with 'snowball etc', Is not cool. I obviously did not respond.

My point on this post is..... What kind of crazy/rude uncalled for things can you think of that are NoNos for a 1st contact. I also work online and I hear the weirdest first liners. BAN BAN BAN.

LOL. BTW- Thx everyone for welcoming me into the community. I love it.

Addison

[James1588]

Originally Posted by Addison Nash

...
My point on this post is..... What kind of crazy/rude uncalled for things can you think of that are NoNos for a 1st contact. I also work online and I hear the weirdest first liners. BAN BAN BAN. ...

Well, let's see. I'm guessing that you'd be happy to do without any acronyms or initialisms in an introductory communication. Probably a good rule of thumb would be that anything requiring the Urban Dictionary to decipher is best to leave out.

I know! I know! How about requests for a discount? Especially if it's fairly crass and insulting. Like: "$300 an hour -- really? Nobody's worth that! You know, SeXXySuzyStaXXX on backpage is advertising $50 an hour; how about doing a little better than that?" Yeah, that's it! Why, any lady would just melt down into a sweet puddle of love after getting a suave, charming introduction like that ... wouldn't she?

[Guest071717]

LMAO. You got it !!!!

[Danielle Reid]

Originally Posted by CoverMe

That would also be a bad way to start a 1st message.

That's the 2nd message

[Danielle Reid]

Originally Posted by PsychedelicMut

Licking someone's ass is not the same as licking someone's bored out, filth ridden anal sphincter.

An "asshole" is buried deep within the crevasse formed by any voluptuous "ass" worth licking.

Addressing either during initial contact would definitely be inappropriate. Unless the two parties have established a connection that warrants such a question, then it is probably always uncalled for.

You must eat ass