Sugar daddy/is there really such a thing?

[Veronica Sun]

I watch dr Phil and Maury and countless other talk shows where these attractive women seem to get just what they need and give just what he needs, why can't I find that?? I am willing to do my part but it seems and maybe I'm wrong but the other party wants to do the bare minimum but expect the sun moon and stars. I'm having a tough time so I am mostly venting and please please don't take offense , but if there are any guys who would love to take care of or help me and get the same times 10000 in return send me a PM!! Anyway just wanted to get that off my chest!! Xoxo

[jim1995]

Good luck and I hope you find what you are looking for babe.

[Sandy]

Have you tried sugarbabies or something like that?

[kenzsquatch]

I tried the SB thing with a provider and found that the more generous I was the more demanding she became and the less time she had available. Hobbiests just like providers get frustrated and have been burned.

[MrHappy4u]

It seems that Sugardaddy/Sugarbabe and Client/Provider needs and personality types are polar opposites. SD/SB is more of a relationship. The hobby is more of an affair one hour at a time (as a former provider termed it). It's a rare occurrence those two viewpoints merge.

The sugardaddy sites are an interesting place to visit.

[niteswimmer1]

Originally Posted by Veronica Sun

I watch dr Phil and Maury and countless other talk shows where these attractive women seem to get just what they need and give just what he needs, why can't I find that?? I am willing to do my part but it seems and maybe I'm wrong but the other party wants to do the bare minimum but expect the sun moon and stars. I'm having a tough time so I am mostly venting and please please don't take offense , but if there are any guys who would love to take care of or help me and get the same times 10000 in return send me a PM!! Anyway just wanted to get that off my chest!! Xoxo

I would be inclined to think that most if not all of those shows are more staged, rehearsed, and even just made up for entertainment purposes. I doubt if it really happens in "Real Life" like they portray very often. I only know personally of one such arrangement and the guy had enough money that what ever she wanted wasn't an issue to him. He bought her clothes, food, owned her condo, her car, and her furniture, etc. She traveled with him and was there with him whenever he wanted her to be. She let him down only once. The second time he moved her out and moved on to a new lady.

[Danielle Reid]

I had a SD once and it was a pretty good arrangement. I was #2 but could've been #1 if I wasn't so busy with school at the time. He covered my needs plus extra. Bought me the car I wanted in my name. Paid for my insurance, rent, bills, etc. he was weird though. Lasted about a year or so before I decided to try a real relationship (plus I doubt my mother would be happy with her 22 year old daughter marrying a 62 year old man).

[Ginger Doll]

I've had several over the years. My most notable SD was very high-paying but also very annoying, a very jealous person. I still remember the 80+ calls a day, just to verify that I wasn't with anyone else. Eventually, the money wasn't enough to keep me there... and he paid me 8k a month, so that's saying something.

In my experience, the problem with most guys who are doling out very large amounts of money is that they seem to adopt an ownership attitude... Like you're their piece of property instead of a person.

After that escapade, I realized that my sanity is worth a lot more than money and I would much rather have several regular clients who treat me with respect versus dealing with someone like that ever again.

[Imsecretlyaninja]

Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

I've had several over the years. My most notable SD was very high-paying but also very annoying, a very jealous person. I still remember the 80+ calls a day, just to verify that I wasn't with anyone else. Eventually, the money wasn't enough to keep me there... and he paid me 8k a month, so that's saying something.

In my experience, the problem with most guys who are doling out very large amounts of money is that they seem to adopt an ownership attitude... Like you're their piece of property instead of a person.

After that escapade, I realized that my sanity is worth a lot more than money and I would much rather have several regular clients who treat me with respect versus dealing with someone like that ever again.

I don't blame you, I couldn't take that kind of pay cut either...

[anita]

A sugar daddy is nice if you don't fall on the possessive type. Someone married is better, he won't try to turn it into a real relationship. That's the problem I ran into, the arrangement and spending time together creating memories is great but I don't want a real relationship.

Try some of those sugar daddies websites, or add that option on your website/profile. From experience the ones that spend a lot don't want you seeing other guys. Which I don't mind at all but I just don't want to feel like I am in a cell and he is the security guard. It's supposed to be fun lol.

[theotherguy1]

Originally Posted by anita

A sugar daddy is nice if you don't fall on the possessive type. Someone married is better, he won't try to turn it into a real relationship. That's the problem I ran into, the arrangement and spending time together creating memories is great but I don't want a real relationship.

Try some of those sugar daddies websites, or add that option on your website/profile. From experience the ones that spend a lot don't want you seeing other guys. Which I don't mind at all but I just don't want to feel like I am in a cell and he is the security guard. It's supposed to be fun lol.

I discovered that I turned into a jealous person when trying the SD/SB arraignment. I think because of what I was giving her including my time it became more of a relationship in my head. I discovered I am better at the Pussy on Retainer type relationship. That way both of us are happy, I get it when and how I want it and she has a steady income. I had her account number so I made direct deposits on a weekly basis. No going out to dinners, shows, buying gifts or remembering birthdays type stuff. I was not a complete asshole so I did give gifts when I wanted to but I didn’t have to worry about her getting mad at me because I forgot her birthday or anything like that. When she was not with me I didn’t concern myself as to what she was or was not doing. I was only concern when I attempted to contact her. She did have a friend with benefit type arraignment but I was first. She did have a few emergencies that I had no problem taking care of but that’s all. She did have a death in her family and I ensure that I handle as much as she need me to and I was there for her whenever she needed me during that period. During other times I didn’t try to mentor her or direct her life. I listen to her problems and just acknowledge her concerns but kept my solutions/opinions to myself unless she asked directly “what would you do” or “what should I do”. Other than that it was a nod and a “sorry to hear that”, “I hear what you are saying”, “I am glad to hear that” “I am happy for you”. I kept my “Go Bag” packed in my mind at all times so I could get out of the relationship in a moment notice if necessary. We did text back and forth but it was about stupid stuff not “where are you going” “who are you with” or anything like that. Mostly I kept her laughing and sometimes confused.

[anita]

Originally Posted by theotherguy1

I discovered that I turned into a jealous person when trying the SD/SB arraignment. I think because of what I was giving her including my time it became more of a relationship in my head. I discovered I am better at the Pussy on Retainer type relationship. That way both of us are happy, I get it when and how I want it and she has a steady income. I had her account number so I made direct deposits on a weekly basis. No going out to dinners, shows, buying gifts or remembering birthdays type stuff. I was not a complete asshole so I did give gifts when I wanted to but I didn’t have to worry about her getting mad at me because I forgot her birthday or anything like that. When she was not with me I didn’t concern myself as to what she was or was not doing. I was only concern when I attempted to contact her. She did have a friend with benefit type arraignment but I was first. She did have a few emergencies that I had no problem taking care of but that’s all. She did have a death in her family and I ensure that I handle as much as she need me to and I was there for her whenever she needed me during that period. During other times I didn’t try to mentor her or direct her life. I listen to her problems and just acknowledge her concerns but kept my solutions/opinions to myself unless she asked directly “what would you do” or “what should I do”. Other than that it was a nod and a “sorry to hear that”, “I hear what you are saying”, “I am glad to hear that” “I am happy for you”. I kept my “Go Bag” packed in my mind at all times so I could get out of the relationship in a moment notice if necessary. We did text back and forth but it was about stupid stuff not “where are you going” “who are you with” or anything like that. Mostly I kept her laughing and sometimes confused.

I don't blame you for being jealous at time. Jealousy is a human emotion, and is bond to happen sooner or later when spending so much time with someone. I would say if you mostly kept her laughing and gave her her space when she was not with you, you handled that special relationship very well. But yes, that type of arrangement doesn't suit everyone.

[theotherguy1]

Originally Posted by anita

I don't blame you for being jealous at time. Jealousy is a human emotion, and is bond to happen sooner or later when spending so much time with someone. I would say if you mostly kept her laughing and gave her her space when she was not with you, you handled that special relationship very well. But yes, that type of arrangement doesn't suit everyone.

It worked out well for both of us but she had an old legal issue that popped backup and she is now taking a long vacation at the cost of state for something that was completely stupid.

[Guest112516]

Www.seekingarrangements.com I've had excellent SD/SB relationships