How to be a better client?

[inspector farquar]

Originally Posted by Camille Fox

Besides all the other things already mentioned, sending an initial pm that talks a bit more about yourself and it is warmer than the "are you available?", goes a very long way establishing a rapport with the provider prior to the appt.

Best of luck!


Camille

Such a fountain of wisdom!

[JustCallMe_G]

Originally Posted by FucknToTheWeeknd

Having a connection is fantasmic

Your ROS comments are public in your review of her. I guess mods are sleeping.

[Agent210]

A lot of great answers! I would add simply don't be a dick, it goes a long way.

[handyGiraffe]

Just follow the golden rule.

Shit happens----If you expect everything to be perfect every time you play--- you are a fool. Be flexible but not stupid...if you are uncomfortable with a situation...walk away.

The best way to stay clear of drama is to keep your mouth shut. Refine your time on the board to reading reviews and screening potential visits with those who have seen a particular girl.

The best way to consistently have a good time in the hobby is to screen the girls as intently as they screen you. that is why the reviews are published...read the reviews.

+1 what coverme said
+1 what oldyeller said

[SA Angel]

Originally Posted by John4229

A specific recommendation based on my own experience is SA Angel – my first visit with her, we sat on the couch and chatted for a good twenty minutes, and she let me know that the clock doesn’t start until we move to the bedroom. I’ve also had good social experiences with Enticing Orchids and Marjorie Steele in that regard. Not that there aren’t others (don’t want to sleight anyone I’ve forgotten), those are just the three that come to mind.

Aww thanks sweetheart. You made it easy to be comfortable with you by just being you.

To the OP - I hate to sound trite but just be yourself. Book an hour at least and maybe ask if you can start with convo and light massage during. Just lay on your stomach since if you are shy you might feel more comfortable talking without looking at the other person. Let her just rub you lightly to get your juices flowing while you start talking. Everyone has their own distinct personality and something that makes them beautiful on the inside. Use this time to find the things that you like about her personality and if you are kind and respectful by the time you turn around to kiss her she'll know something about you that makes you more than just a body.

Good luck and if you take my advice please be aware of the time yourself.

[4funn]

Originally Posted by John4229

A specific recommendation based on my own experience is SA Angel – my first visit with her, we sat on the couch and chatted for a good twenty minutes, and she let me know that the clock doesn’t start until we move to the bedroom.

Originally Posted by SA Angel

Aww thanks sweetheart. You made it easy to be comfortable with you by just being you.

Not trying to change the topic but..man!, THANK YOU SA Angel!!..
I have not have the privilege but I wish some of the ladies will see this and understand that it just makes sense to practice this "little details" to better their business in general..
No hobbyists likes to pay $2-3+ bills an hour "for talking".. even if is just a fraction of the time we still pay top dollar for a simple chat

Some of you ladies get it, some others don't (or won't)..!

[JustCallMe_G]

Originally Posted by 4funn

No hobbyists likes to pay $2-3+ bills an hour "for talking".. even if is just a fraction of the time we still pay top dollar for a simple chat

Some of you ladies get it, some others don't (or won't)..!

Good to know how you really feel.

[SA Angel]

Originally Posted by 4funn

Not trying to change the topic but..man!, THANK YOU SA Angel!!..
I have not have the privilege but I wish some of the ladies will see this and understand that it just makes sense to practice this "little details" to better their business in general..
No hobbyists likes to pay $2-3+ bills an hour "for talking".. even if is just a fraction of the time we still pay top dollar for a simple chat

Some of you ladies get it, some others don't (or won't)..!

Just a point a clarification. It is my policy to set aside extra time for OTC conversation for a new client's first encounter. That doesn't mean I allow someone to grope or try to make out with me during that time. This is purely for my own comfort and just how I personally like to do things. Every lady approaches the hobby in her own way and not everyone is a good fit. I'm sure the man with VERY limited windows of opportunity would find my insistence on talking a bit first a major con.

I personally just can't get excited about the prospect of getting frisky with someone who I don't even like.....and yes I have apologized and sent sent clients away with their full donation if I find I don't like them as a person.

[a10bomb]

Originally Posted by Bbbj Receiver

Well, if you don't connect with ANY providers and you have seen more than one or two, you might consider that the problem is you. Here are a couple of things to always keep in mind:
1. Always be clean.
2. Keep pre-appointment contact respectful.
3. Smile, it's infectious
4. Compliment her when you show up.
5. Check her showcase and bring her a gift that she will appreciate.
6. Respect her limits and make sure that she is aware of yours prior to the session.
If you follow these rules, there is no reason that you should not have good sessions in my opinion, but of course, you know what they say about opinions.

Originally Posted by OldYeller

7. Show up on time (and leave on time).
8. Get the donation paid immediately.

9. Don't get known as a person who cancels a lot (from what I hear that seems to be a problem here in San Antonio)

Originally Posted by John4229

You might catch some static for using words like “connection” and “intimate” around these parts – I have the sense that many clients are in it for a purely physical thrill-ride and will look down upon anyone who expresses social/emotional needs. But some get where you’re coming from and are in the same place.

The sad truth is you may be looking for something in the wrong place – if you want a deep emotional connection that only comes from a real relationship. If you want a more comfortable experience – not true intimacy but a less awkward encounter – that’s probably do-able, and I’ll give you a few tips:

First, find a provider who’s known to be more social and isn’t straight-to-business. It’s pretty much the same as finding a barber or bartender who will chat and socialize, not just cut your hair and serve your drinks. Some providers like to take a bit of time to get to know you before the action starts – if you read provider reviews, some reviewers will comment on that. It’s generally the more mature providers who cater to more than the basics – the teenage PSE fuckdoll type is focused entirely on the physical activities and isn’t much for conversation.

A specific recommendation based on my own experience is SA Angel – my first visit with her, we sat on the couch and chatted for a good twenty minutes, and she let me know that the clock doesn’t start until we move to the bedroom. I’ve also had good social experiences with Enticing Orchids and Marjorie Steele in that regard. Not that there aren’t others (don’t want to sleight anyone I’ve forgotten), those are just the three that come to mind.

Second, book a longer session - an hour at least, maybe longer. If you go for a quick visit or half-hour, it’s strictly business and no time for small-talk before or after. The hour gives you time to relax and not feel pressured to get to work- and the provider wants you in-and-out because you’re not paying very much. Spend the money and don’t look at your watch or act disappointed when you spend 25 minutes of “your” hour chatting.

Third, be candid with the provider and let her know that you’re nervous and want to spend a little time getting to know one another first. Good providers cater to your needs and preferences if they know what those preferences are – but they are not mind-readers. But like any other activity in a session, you do have to tell them rather than hoping they will guess what you want, or they’ll fall back to their standard routine, which may not be what you want.

And last, seeing the same provider multiple times helps. Your second visit will be more casual than your first, your third better than your second, etc. I don’t do that often because I don’t hobby often and want variety rather than depth – but there are providers I’ve seen repeatedly and feel a bit more comfortable and intimate with.

That’s all I’ve got – perhaps a few others who’ve been in the hobby for longer can offer a bit more advice. Do let us know what you find – write reviews as you go and speak to more than just the physical activities in your ROS.

Very wise words from all!!

I am naturally a very shy person even more so when I first got into hobbying a few years ago luckily I have met some amazing ladies when I first started that helped me get out of some of that shyness...ladies you know who you are . But I will say there will always be a bit of nervousness. I am reminded of my acting days (in college never professional) whenever I had a show or even some dress rehearsals I was always nervous for the first few minutes until I got into my rhythm. I forget what actor said it on the show Inside the Actors Studio (I think it was Jack Lemmon or Robin Williams) if you don't get nervous then you're not doing something right. I still get nervous whenever I see someone new. But follow the advice that the above gents and some of the other ladies have given and you will do fine and while you may still get nervous that nervousness time will get shorter and shorter.