expectations vs spontaneous meetings

[melannie_star]

so when two strange people meet drunk in a bar.. it is often the spontaneous factor along with the alcohol, that end the night with a kaboom.

Though when you are calling a lady like me for a midnight snack .. who is a for sure thing...
is it because of a spur of the moment and spontaneous factor or is it with expectation of what you are used to getting..

Are you an open minded individual or do you prefer the same good ole TLC that you consider to be right for you personally.

I am an open minded type of lady who loves the stranger things in life.. though understanding that many are not like myself.. ...

This is a question for those who like what they like and let it be known.
I know we all have different preferences.. so I thought would be a nice discussion about an unanswered topic.

Do you prefer your usual cup of tea or do you often find yourself wondering if the lady at your door will show you something a bit different with a twist of excellence?

[FunInDFW]

Originally Posted by melannie_star

Are you an open minded individual or do you prefer the same good ole TLC that you consider to be right for you personally.

I don't really know if this is a 'this or that' type of question and more of a 'do what you're both comfortable with' one. I think everyone(?) can be both give the right coupling.
There are some ladies who have a nurturing personality that I've met and it's be rather 'vanilla' TLC which has been great. That's not the say the same ladies can't be open minded to some pretty freaky/kinky stuff, just might have to get to that point together.
Then there are those that I've see for the first time and straight up ask you the kind of wild shit you're into, say what they're up for, and you two turn into something else when getting the fuckery on. And again, not to say they can't be nurturing for 'vanilla' TLC.

So for guys I think there's what they'd be up for doing vs what they're comfortable doing with you.

Originally Posted by melannie_star

Do you prefer your usual cup of tea or do you often find yourself wondering if the lady at your door will show you something a bit different with a twist of excellence?

In the civvie world it usually veers on the really kinky/freaky*. Hobbying has been hit or miss, with many not coming off in our talks as wanting much of a twist. Personally, I wish every provider was up for that and delve into fun that isn't of the 'norm'. Many a PM have not been returned when asking if their role play or fantasy fulfilling repertoire delved into some of the things I've wanted. I'm always on the lookout for a lady that can make my mind think we're doing something we're not actually doing.

*edit - maybe it's the alcohol loosening up the inhibitions and realizing they're turned on be these things deep down, carnally.

edit 2 - I'd go on to say that finding a provider that is open to spontaneity like this, and is up for the same wild stuff you're in to is what would make them an ATF.

[Chung Tran]

Originally Posted by melannie_star

Do you prefer your usual cup of tea or do you often find yourself wondering if the lady at your door will show you something a bit different with a twist of excellence?

my summary answer is the less often I hear "no" from a Provider, the better.. that means I get what I was looking for, and it's rewarding if she throws more into the mix that is different and excellent.

[playerplano]

Great THread Melanie gets guys thinking LOL !

I think a provider who takes things a little farther or has been reviewed as looking to go a little farther is a good thing. Some guys are afraid to go too far and might not try without your encouragement.

[Sir Lancehernot]

I've never been able to get laid nearly as often as I'd like (three times last year), or could afford to. Primarily, because of that, each experience for me is something to be anticipated, savored, treasured, and remembered. I don't want to mess it up by attempting something that might turn out badly (or at least not as well) for me or for her.

For example, I'm a big fan of facials in porn. I've often thought I might like to try that, to see whether the in-person visual stimulation is as good as, or better than, the physical sensations associated with a standard orgasm via intercourse, or, the Holy Grail, CIM. But do I want to use one of my limited annual non-self-induced orgasms on something that I may not enjoy as much as something that I know I will enjoy?

If I was actually able to spend my hobby budget, I could experiment and come back next week and either go back to the same old same old, or try something else.

There's also the issue of whether a guy hobbies only for the sex, or whether seeing providers is how he gets as close to experiencing feelings of intimacy as he can in his life. But that's another thread ....

[bistraight69]

I've been to the bar and it's all good when I only have to spend $50 on drinks and a little bit of wit and charm to get some pussy, but if I strike out I have to call you for some $300 an hour play. It has nothing to do with spontaneity, it's all about economics!!

[bistraight69]

Misfire

[MILFEater]

My answer would be yes.

Okay, to explain better. I see a regular where it is generally a very GFE session. It is more of a no strings attached girlfriend. We do try new things to keep things interested. Generally it is catch up on things, lots of pleasuring each other as little jokes thrown in. Love asking her a question that requires a couple of sentences to answer as I DATY and listening to her try and answer as I distract her. This falls into the same category as comfort food.

Now on the other hand, I do like to mix it up and see others to broaden my experiences and experiment with other things. This area delves into fantasies and some of the kinkier thoughts.

[DarkeyKong]

Originally Posted by melannie_star

Do you prefer your usual cup of tea or do you often find yourself wondering if the lady at your door will show you something a bit different with a twist of excellence?

Welcome back Mel! I would have to say the reason for my hobbying is always looking for different experiences! This is what makes it exciting to me. If I wasn't looking for different I would probably not hobby, or hobby a hell of a lot less.

[SD2011]

I like sensual sexploration with someone who is naturally erotic and not afraid to show what she likes, wants, for her own pleasures etc.

Good thread!

[uhaveme]

That twist of excellence is what most would probably like!!!

[plove35]

Pre marriage and hobby I enjoyed the random bar hook up. Those hookups always were fun without boundaries.

With the hobby, I go in with all these ideas (especially trying different positions), but almost always never doing any of them. I get reserved and.let her lead because I do.not want to do something that will end the session and get me on the DNSL of other providers.

Whenever I do get back in the game,my first session hopefully goes as I have in my head

[Lena Duvall]

I prefer to provide an out of the ordinary experience. I think there are so many lovely providers who fall in line with being the "girl next door" type. I know when gents get in touch with me, they are looking for something outside of the "usual cup of tea" experience.

[johnclark]

Originally Posted by melannie_star

so when two strange people meet drunk in a bar.. it is often the spontaneous factor along with the alcohol, that end the night with a kaboom.

Though when you are calling a lady like me for a midnight snack .. who is a for sure thing...
is it because of a spur of the moment and spontaneous factor or is it with expectation of what you are used to getting..

Are you an open minded individual or do you prefer the same good ole TLC that you consider to be right for you personally.

I am an open minded type of lady who loves the stranger things in life.. though understanding that many are not like myself.. ...

This is a question for those who like what they like and let it be known.
I know we all have different preferences.. so I thought would be a nice discussion about an unanswered topic.

Do you prefer your usual cup of tea or do you often find yourself wondering if the lady at your door will show you something a bit different with a twist of excellence?

Are you telling me you've got a kinky side you haven't shown me?

[melannie_star]

Wanna find out?