Lady on the rag

[Keyhole Arc Blow]

I have a provider lady friend who was venting to me today and an interesting situation came up.


She has seen this gent for almost 2 months and they always have 4 hour appointments once a week. Well she had told the gent that morning she was on her lady time and she wasn't feeling good or sexy. He said it fine he still wants to see her. Well 4 hours later, I guess she left and he didn't give her anything at all. They went back and forth through text for over an hour where he keeps talking about their "special relationship" and she made it clear she wasn't having sex so she didn't earn the money.

Who was in the wrong, how would you have handled it. What say you ladies and gents!

[scsholar]

Not sure what the issue is or what the exact problem was overall?

Sounds like the guy has fallen for her and that she may want to unattached herself to him.

Right now based on limited info, I say it was him.

[Taylorjames]

Imo.. They are both at blame. She is at blame for not collecting when she walks through the door. He is a piece of crap for not paying for her time. I don't care if sex was involved or not the point is he is paying for her time. Just my opinion.

Taylor

[jj_cool]

Getting emotionally attached always gets complicated. That would be breaking the #1 Golden Rule in this hobby.

[john_deere]

pay up front.

always.

[scsholar]

Now after clarification on thsee posts.

Clearly the man. What an asshat

[Texanbychoice]

Originally Posted by Keyhole Arc Blow

He said it fine he still wants to see her.

Clearly the man is wrong. He told her he still wanted to see her. He is wrong.

Originally Posted by Keyhole Arc Blow

She has seen this gent for almost 2 months and they always have 4 hour appointments once a week. ..... Well 4 hours later, I guess she left and he didn't give her anything at all.

She has gotten comfortable with him and probably broken her rule of collecting donation for time up front. So this shifts part of the responsibility onto her. Not that the man is not entirely wrong for stiffing her, but she takes a small portion of the responsibility for not TCB at the start of the session.

Originally Posted by Keyhole Arc Blow

where he keeps talking about their "special relationship" and she made it clear she wasn't having sex so she didn't earn the money.

The client is confused about his role and the relationship in general. He sounds like he is treating her in his mind like a GF but when time comes to pony up he is a cheapskate. They both need to re-evaluate the situation they are in.

I have read and I am sure off the clock relationships do develop over time. But if you are going to insist on the provider coming over, assume she is on the clock and pay, or verify its off the clock. Then this would not have happened. And even if its off the clock, be a god damn man and buy her a coffee for C's sake.

Sounds like a mess and glad its not mine.

[D_Friday]

He said it fine he still wants to see her.

Did he mean, "I don't care if we have sex or not" or did he mean "What's a little menstruation between close friends?"

If it's the former, then he stiffed her. It's all on him. If it's the latter, did he really stiff her? In the latter case I would spread the blame around. But if he likes her as much as it sounds like, he should have shown her the money, if only to preserve their special relationship.

Sounds like what we have here is a failure to communicate.

[DallasRain]

quote..
I don't care if sex was involved or not the point is he is paying for her time. Just my opinion.


DITTO!!!!!!!!!!

[D_Friday]

Originally Posted by D_Friday

[I]But if he likes her as much as it sounds like, he should have shown her the money, if only to preserve their special relationship.

By the same token, he sounds like a cash cow if he's been seeing her regularly for 4 hour appointments, on a weekly basis. That's an elite client. So it might be a good business decision on her part to overlook this, if only to preserve their special relationship. Chalk it up to experience, and communicate better next time.

[Guest020617-1]

There is not even a real question here.