A little feedback

[mckinneyman]

I was wondering if anyone here has taken a trip/vacation with someone from ECCIE as friends only ?

If you feel like sharing the experience, I would like to hear about how things went.

I have placed a request/in search of post offering this type of situation and wondered if there have been like experiences.

[seanj317]

I did, we were pretty close at the time, I would say emotionally involved. The trip was the best single day I have ever had. With someone I cared about and love bcd with.
She was everything I could hope for in a gf on that trip.
Unfortunately we don't see each other anymore, for unrelated reasons.

YMMV though. I would say it very much depends on you quality of you previous gettogethers with her and how well you click, otherwise she has to be on IOP alert all day and that has to be tough. For me and her, we were already close so it worked well, no expectations.
SeanJ

[ktiix]

Seems like a bad idea to mix business and leisure

[TinMan]

I wouldn't do it unless I had spent enough time with them BCD I thought it was someone I could get along with for more than an hour or two. The only thing worse than being alone on a trip is being with someone you discover you really aren't compatible with.

[oldbutstillgoing]

Are you going to pay her for her time away from work? Are you hoping for sex? How long of a trip?

If she is with you and not making money, she still has bills to pay. If you're thinking paying for the trip is enough compensation, rethink. It just does not work that way.

[ktiix]

Originally Posted by OldButStillGoing

Are you going to pay her for her time away from work? Are you hoping for sex? How long of a trip?

If she is with you and not making money, she still has bills to pay. If you're thinking paying for the trip is enough compensation, rethink. It just does not work that way.

This was along my line of thought, these girls more or less work on a cash only lifestyle (sure a few work normal jobs and save) but I'd bet a few weeks of not working would have a majority of them getting calls from finance places and landlords.

Plus what constitutes a vacation for some/many (new places, faces, drinking, and food) is just business as usual for them minus their income.

Thought I'd elaborate on my earlier post.

[HoneyRose]

I wouldn't do it if I were you.

You're going on a four-day trip with a stranger.

I've travelled with a girlfriend once in a while and discovered how hard it is to be with another person several days running even when I KNEW THEM.

Little idiosyncrasies that pass unnoticed at a lunch or dinner together can grow irksome after several days. (I am embarrassed when some uses curse words for example; or they speak loudly to people who don't speak English. Those are MY examples. You might have others~~ like someone wanting to stay up all night and sleep all day).

Even if you meet the candidate for lunch to decide before going, after you get there you may find out she drinks like a fish, and is a mean drunk; or she snores; or she has emotional ups and downs and is either too loud and exuberant in public or gets sad and goes on crying jags.

and those are just the tip of the iceberg!

What if she steals from you (copies your credit card number while you sleep or such)? Or charges things to your room (jewelry from the boutique)? Or gets arrested? Or doesn't show up at the airport when it's time to leave (going either direction)? Or damages things in the room that you then have to pay for?***see footnote.

Why don't you take a brother/friend/co-worker? Then you only have that first section I listed (the iceberg tip) to worry about, and probably not that more severe stuff.

***to be blunt: You said that the woman you intended to marry turned out to have a bad character. So whatever tools you are using to judge a person's character are off. You may be idealizing people~ thinking they are like you. thinking they will act like you would.

[TxTraveler]

I've done this before w/ 2 different ladies that were truly sweet. Trips were off the clock and enjoyable, nice gfe. I moved away or would still be with the first. Current one is different but nice as well.
I always got to know the lady "very well" before taking the plunge.

[oldbutstillgoing]

OP, you really need to elaborate on what your looking for. But getting someone you don't have a long, established history with to do this OTC is a pipe dream. If she is not giving you a free session from time to time, why would she go on a trip and do it? The ladies either have the money to go on vacation when and where they want with who they want, or they don't have the money or time to take off for a trip.

Even if you found someone who would, there are a host of issues to consider before taking someone on a trip.

[Charlie Brown]

I do it all the time and I've never had a bad experience, did one this week in fact....however !

It's never with someone I haven't seen many times.

It's never with someone I don't genuinely like and I sense the same from them.

It's fully discussed in advance, particularly the length of time and the agenda.

Allow for private time - " I need to make a call, be back in a jiff " - discuss that in advance, it seems small but can get crazy if the other is really into the moment a little too much.

If you've got something odd about yourself, discuss it advance - maybe snoring - or snoring and farting at the same time. Had a girl fart while we were walking to dinner. I shouted out " I didn't hear anything, did you "......and we both got to have a genuine laugh together and it lightens about anything.

It's also understood we both have opt out rights and a free discussion on making sure we're not doing something one of us really doesn't want to do.

And the sex.......it's the best ever, when we're not too tired due to the travel stress.

Lastly, don't go " cheap ". Speed some money, you're not going to live forever and one of these trips can be really something special. Leave the lady wondering when you'll ask her to go again...now that's fun!

[mckinneyman]

I posted this offer in Requests/ISO a couple of days ago. It answers much of the questions placed in the various posts here.
I am fully aware of the "risks" as well as the possibilities of just having a nice time.
I do appreciate all of your posts and responses.
I do not expect anything from whomever goes with me. This is a vacation. If she needs a vacation from this hobby, that is fine by me. I plan on being on a great beach, enjoying the sun the reef, food and just the ambiance of the island in general.

[oldbutstillgoing]

Originally Posted by Charlie Brown

I do it all the time and I've never had a bad experience, did one this week in fact....however !

It's never with someone I haven't seen many times.

It's never with someone I don't genuinely like and I sense the same from them.

It's fully discussed in advance, particularly the length of time and the agenda.

Allow for private time - " I need to make a call, be back in a jiff " - discuss that in advance, it seems small but can get crazy if the other is really into the moment a little too much.

If you've got something odd about yourself, discuss it advance - maybe snoring - or snoring and farting at the same time. Had a girl fart while we were walking to dinner. I shouted out " I didn't hear anything, did you "......and we both got to have a genuine laugh together and it lightens about anything.

It's also understood we both have opt out rights and a free discussion on making sure we're not doing something one of us really doesn't want to do.

And the sex.......it's the best ever, when we're not too tired due to the travel stress.

Lastly, don't go " cheap ". Speed some money, you're not going to live forever and one of these trips can be really something special. Leave the lady wondering when you'll ask her to go again...now that's fun!

are you saying you do this otc as the op asked?

[Jaci]

I have been on trips rangeing from 2-7 days and they have worked
out nicely!!!!
And of course I never show up at the airport carrying a dingey backpack
or scuffed stiletos!!! lol
I have the proper travel attire11
Kisses, Jaci