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[ironhead1970]

I have a problem I'm a hopeless romantic I love some of the lady's I meet buy I can't get off with someone I just met. Don't know what it is or why and I know you need to make your money so what can I do?

[Lilly2340]

Originally Posted by ironhead1970

I have a problem I'm a hopeless romantic I love some of the lady's I meet buy I can't get off with someone I just met. Don't know what it is or why and I know you need to make your money so what can I do?

whoever she is, you need to talk to her and tell her that. or she wont know.
maybe yall can work something out financial/beneficial for both/ but also intimate.
that u can afford and she agrees with.

ive been in this situation.. it sucks but if u talk about it and see how she feels. u never know

[rockerrick]

He's not in love Lilly, he wants to know how he can orgasm with a stranger.

ironhead find a CIM provider and try saving last 10 min to manually get yourself off while she sucks on you.

[Guest081519]

Originally Posted by ironhead1970

I have a problem I'm a hopeless romantic I love some of the lady's I meet buy I can't get off with someone I just met. Don't know what it is or why and I know you need to make your money so what can I do?

There are many reasons why this may be occurring.

What age range do you fit?

Have you always had this problem (civilians included)?

Do you loose your libido?

Are you taking medication that could mess with your libido?

How do you arrive to orgasm when you are with someone you know?

How do you bring yourself to orgasm when you are on your own?

Normally, how long does it take for you to orgasm?

Does it take you the same time to orgasm when a partner as it does on your own?

Do you loose sensation when using condoms?

Do you watch porn often?

Do you have problems arriving to orgasm while watching porn?

[Lilly2340]

Originally Posted by rockerrick

He's not in love Lilly, he wants to know how he can orgasm with a stranger.

ironhead find a CIM provider and try saving last 10 min to manually get yourself off while she sucks on you.

ohh ... ok.
lol

[nerdy123]

I actually understand this problem. I was injured, and it takes a bit of time for me to get off. This is why even for a bng I will pay for a half, just to insure their time is compensated for. Go for longer sessions and try to do some fantasy fulfillment. Teacher fantasy, schoolgirl fantasy, etc..

Also, it helps to find providers who get into their craft a bit, and get excited about it. Ladies who either do GFE well, or make themselves into your personal porno. A little bit of both works for me.

One of my ATFs, who is still around UTR, would start a session by talking to me for an hour or so, just catching up and chatting, before the clock started. Then it was so friggin on!

[Mike6082]

When you're ball deep in a provider imagine it's your wife.
The opposite works for me, so I know it works.

[Cheesecake7]

Interesting thread!

I fall in love every time I meet a provider with whom I click (which happens most of the time as I accept their rules and limitations and just go with the flow). Thankfully I have grown wise enough to fall out of love after 90 minutes (or whatever the allotted time is). But sometimes if I see a provider several times in a row within a short period it gets weird. If I start thinking about her day and night it is time to go elsewhere for a few months to get back to reality. To me the whole encounter is always a mind-body-spirit thing. I cannot completely separate my penis from my heart. If I meet a beautiful person in all her complexity it is never just about fucking. I see escorts more as temporary Total-Happiness-Providers rather than "whores".

My problem is that most providers that I have met fit exactly the type of woman that I dig. I love women that are smart, self confident, adventurous, sassy, don't take any shit, take care of their body and are unapologetically shameless about their sexuality. I also cannot help but admire the way providers stay organized in their chaotic lives, balancing kids, nosy neighbors, relatives, hotel managers, BFs, screening us to avoid meeting some pervert or staying out of trouble with LE (ever thought about how to do a tax return or maintain your credit rating as a provider if this is your sole income?).

I don't think either hobbyists or providers are screwed up per se (unless they ARE screwed up). You are responsible for the decisions you make. I am divorced and am very happy with my current life. I am not interested in a relationship and I absolutely hate the singles scene. So for me the hobbying has been "cheaper than a girl-friend and less hassles than a wife". And it as provided me with outrageous sex with some of the most beautiful and self confident women I have ever met.

So thank you to all providers that have contributed to my happiness (and "relaxation"). It has been wonderful.

BTW, happy Mothers Day to all providers. I hope that your children appreciate what you are doing for them. I have met more than one provider who was providing to get enough money to send their child to a better school etc.

[Camille Fox]

I've heard something really interesting: you can always make love without BEING in love.



Camille

[Cheesecake7]

Originally Posted by Camille Fox

you can always make love without BEING in love.

That describes very well what I was trying to say