I got involved in a discussion about ladies sending a PM to guys. I'm in a small community (NM), and seemed that there just isn't much interaction. Mostly complaints about why more ladies don't visit, cost, too many guys only looking for BP girls, yadda yadda yadda!
I suggested "why not PM a guy you might be interested in? The ladies can see profiles, see who guys have been with, I'm assuming the ladies might even know some of the providers. Maybe they could ask how the date went (really)! If she thinks the guy sounds fun and safe, give him a "poke", like on Face Book? I have a feeling a lot of guys just might feel flattered. Visiting ladies could do this! We guys do this all the time. It never guarantees anything, but it sure could be fun. Notice, I'm thinking it would be a good idea to PM each other, not surprise calls or messages on a phone.
The ladies weren't too excited about this. Most of the guys were more positive. Just by having the conversation on our local board, I got a PM!!!! It actually worked out and had a blast with someone I might have passes over.
Now, this might now work for a lot of people. Like you guys who think only you can make the move. Or you ladies that are perfectly happy with your level of activity. But for all the rest, just a suggestion??? I sure liked it. Just thinking out loud folks.