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Guest030915 · 02-26-2015, 10:08 AM

I believe I already know the answer to this but thought I would put it out there to get opinions from providers.

Let's say I've seen a provider two times and will possibly see her another time down the road. What do providers think about receiving a text (not multiple ones) that says something to the effect of "Hey! How are you? Just thought about you! Have a great day!" Just my way of saying "Hey, what's up?"

I've done this a few times with a few different ladies and they've responded amicably and said I was thoughtful. I ask this because I did this with a provider today. She responded by asking me if I wanted to see her today. After I told her that I didn't and I just texted her because I thought about her, there was no response. Crickets. I guess she was put off that I contacted without wanting to spend money. I know that providers get tons of texts, etc. But if a hobbyist texts you to just say "Hi" is that appreciated or annoying? I'm assuming I did t have the connection I thought I had with this particular provider.

Alyssa XOXO · 02-26-2015, 10:22 AM

It's totally normal for me and I don't mind it at all. In fact, I encourage the gents to contact me (by text) if they need anything (have a question about something whether it be hobby related or not, or just want to talk) because, I feel comfortable and connected enough after session. My only pet peeve are the ones that try to date me.

Guest030915 · 02-26-2015, 10:28 AM

Certainly not trying to date. I've got enough drama in my life! LOL Just wanted to see what providers thought about just casual convo by text afterward. Great feedback Alyssa!

Eva Damita · 02-26-2015, 10:37 AM

This business thrives on social skills, especially now. The black trench coat era of hobbying is fading rapidly. There is a new breed of those wanting the feaux relationship flare for communication, and not the matter of fact businesses tone.

Communication in a stoic manner is no more effective than an emotion-packed one.

A mix of both works for me. Interesting thread . I could expand tons here.

DallasRain · 02-26-2015, 10:48 AM

It is cool with me...I like to stay in touch with friends I see...especially regularly!

boardman · 02-26-2015, 10:57 AM

To all the bitches I've seen and those I haven't seen yet...

Hope y'all have a great day!

Guest030915 · 02-26-2015, 11:12 AM

^^^LMAO! Classic Boardman!

Ur_1_only · 02-26-2015, 11:29 AM

Alyssa I agree with the dating business pet peeve.

It's really disturbing to me when a provider wants to take advantage of me on a RW date off the clock. I guess they just can't help themselves getting the hobby experience with me and wanting it in their RW. Oh well I just carry on that burden.

Lol ^^^^^

tbone77494 · 02-26-2015, 11:53 AM

I would guess most would not see a point in responding unless it was for a session. I also would not be the slightest bit annoyed if they did not reply. Many ladies can barely keep up with replying to session requests let alone adding small talk to the mix.

Alyssa's response is very nice, but I'm guessing very rare.

JustMeCLTXGG · 02-26-2015, 12:07 PM

seems to depend on the girls/ladies. at least my opinion from the few I've met. I've talked to some on here and through text. and a couple of them were really helpful as Alyssa stated, with hobby related questions.

funny, all but one have texted/called me at some point themselves. usually like you said to see if you're up for seeing them. one, however, just randomly texts regular texts. also got one call that seemed like a regular call and nothing was ever asked hobby related but then that person had to go and I never got a call back so I never did get to see where that was going. ha! probably actually got a hobby date I know.

I did the random texts during a holiday and got good wishes back. thought about it once or twice in the context you are asking about but never pulled the trigger. part of me decided to not risk the misunderstanding you spoke of. so far I think I've been lucky at meeting some nice people but I know it's their business. I think they'd be nice if I texted them though. as the one lady, Eva, said, I thrive on social skills! I mean the business thives.

Guest030915 · 02-26-2015, 12:15 PM

@JustMe, good points.

I just thought it was interesting that once the provider found out I wasn't trying to book her she just got silent. As if to say, "If you're not spending money with me why am I wasting my time replying to you".

JustMeCLTXGG · 02-26-2015, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by IceCreamMan

@JustMe, good points.

I just thought it was interesting that once the provider found out I wasn't trying to book her she just got silent. As if to say, "If you're not spending money with me why am I wasting my time replying to you".

if you got the feeling she'd respond I'd say she must put on a good show/session. only you know how it went down.

I know the girls/ladies (whichever they prefer) I've met so far have all been good conversationalists and we had no trouble engaging in communication in person. heck some of them I talked with longer than you'd probably believe. to me that is a good sign. as for the one I've never randomly heard from, even though we went overtime I can see myself maybe why that didn't happen. I won't go into all that. the one thing I will say though, she was the least into kissing. ha! connection? don't know and hell, maybe I just wasn't her type but she's gave me a couple of references.

I think some of the girls are used to guys just in there to maximize their time and maybe that desensitizes them to some degree. I understand it from both sides. also, I've wondered about the whole references thing. seems like that could be desensitizing to. you meet and hit it off and then bam, the ladies getting a request about you wanting to meet another lady. not that she hasn't seen more guys herself but you know? I'm just rambling here. not promoting anything. just saying there is lines, they can blur, then bam smacked in the kisser with one of those lines. probably could be a whole thread on this right? oh wait, there's one starting here! (ok so this last part could be in this thread of the "love" thread I think)

Guest051115 · 02-26-2015, 01:07 PM

My view is very simple. If I've spent BCD time with a provider I can usually tell which ones I can be friendly with vs. the ones that are basically guns for hire so to speak. It's really about how they present themselves. If I've seen a provider BCD and we've developed a good rapport then I expect to hear back if I text just say hello. Those are the ones I'd be more inclined to trust that they have their shit together vs.the ones that lack basic communication skills with someone they've seen BCD.

Super Head 713 · 02-26-2015, 01:25 PM

I have no problem with it as well, I have a few guys that I keep in contact with even if they aren't deciding to meet with me the same day. All it does is make me and the guys bond even stronger so when we do meet again our sessions are even better and it also makes my overnights and dinner dates interesting!

Johanna · 02-26-2015, 02:15 PM

I also have a few (very few) guys I have become comfortable with and communicate with often. I am always delighted to receive a text just to say hello. It brightens my day to know that someone is thinking about me as a person, outside of the context of the hobby. I even keep in touch with a particular one who was a one time thing (as I am out of his frequent-flier budget), but I like him enough as a person to talk to once in a while. We are all people here, and if we have a good connection and we want to, there's nothing wrong with being friends.