You might think she is special to you but really it's your money that is special to her

[Saintliest]

Am I delusional enough to believe that they are truly sexually attracted to me? Maybe one or two were, the rest I doubt. One thing that I do believe though is this; being open, kind, understanding, sincere...and most of all listen....that goes a long way with breaking the shell. For me, I actually do care to know whatever I can about her. I once found out a lady from here in KC used the same hotel as I did in Long Island...I found that pretty neat. I learned from another lady that she used to dance in a club next to a military base that my friend was stationed at. A lady told me about her son, and how tough it is to be away from him. One lady gave me the full tour of her house, and went into depth about how she got this or that. One lived not too far down the street from me when she was younger. Another told me about recently moving back to KC, and what she's trying to do to get herself out and into a good paying career. One, who I accidentally found out through a friend and at first I'm like...damn she looks familiar but why? When I first tried to contact her I let her know that.....and she basically called me creepy and that I shouldn't have done so. 7 months later, she ended up seeing me, and we talked about where we grew up and who we knew. I've seen her twice more, but she went into hibernation for awhile so I let her be. When it comes to all of this...there's a difference between her saying, "Wow that's big and you're Don Juan!" and her saying, "Oh My God, who else do you know from ..........?" or "I made food, want to come over?" or "I know you don't have any cash, just come chill with me and the girls for awhile." (And I did for about 2 hours.) Words of advice....don't be so cynical....be sincere....and listen.

[Saintliest]

One last story. I met a lady from craigslist...thought she was TGTBT....holy shit she ended up to be cute and smart and funny. We talked for quite awhile, she gave me her number and said that when I got home on Friday to call her and meet. She hugged me three different times...and each time she didn't want me to pull away. Friday came...called her....no response. Texted...no response. I was upset, but whatever. About 2-3 month later I get a message at 5am asking if I was there. She said sorry, she was in the hospital but when I got back to call her up and meet. I did...and again no response. Again I was upset...but I later found out why she was so flakey. She ended up moving out of the city to get back with her boyfriend...because she was pregnant. I asked her what she needed the cash for when I initially saw her, and she said she had cancer and expended her insurance. I'm pretty sure she was thinking about abortion, which is what my cash would've helped to pay for, but she decided against it. I now know that they're no longer together, she's still living in the other city....and she's still cute as hell. Amazing blue eyes. I'll never forget her.

[jeff one086]

[bigcockpussylicker]

Originally Posted by Saintliest

One last story. I met a lady from craigslist...thought she was TGTBT....holy shit she ended up to be cute and smart and funny. We talked for quite awhile, she gave me her number and said that when I got home on Friday to call her and meet. She hugged me three different times...and each time she didn't want me to pull away. Friday came...called her....no response. Texted...no response. I was upset, but whatever. About 2-3 month later I get a message at 5am asking if I was there. She said sorry, she was in the hospital but when I got back to call her up and meet. I did...and again no response. Again I was upset...but I later found out why she was so flakey. She ended up moving out of the city to get back with her boyfriend...because she was pregnant. I asked her what she needed the cash for when I initially saw her, and she said she had cancer and expended her insurance. I'm pretty sure she was thinking about abortion, which is what my cash would've helped to pay for, but she decided against it. I now know that they're no longer together, she's still living in the other city....and she's still cute as hell. Amazing blue eyes. I'll never forget her.

LOL
is your self-esteem better??
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Abrn8aVQ76Q

[Saintliest]

The fact that she decided to keep the child makes me happy. I am not a woman so I will never know the burden, but I am glad to know that she decided to keep the child and tie down a good job working at a car dealership. In the few short hours we spent together, I could tell that she was certainly conflicted. She told me about her ex and possibly working it out with him. Obviously it didn't work out, but at least she tried. She moved back to be closer to him, and share custody if it didn't work out. So I give her props for that also. The fact that she was ultra flakey, even going so far as saying that she was in need of a good friend then pretty much ignoring me....yes that hurt and I don't deny it. But, on the flipside, I don't hold that against her anymore and have forgiven her for it, especially after I saw the sonogram. The way I look at it is like this, a month after I pretty much forgot about her, she sends me a message at 5am...that was Eastern Time so it was 4am back in KC...and she was thinking of me, a guy she met late one night and was pretty scared that she may have been making a dangerous mistake.

[bigcockpussylicker]

Originally Posted by Saintliest

The fact that she decided to keep the child makes me happy. I am not a woman so I will never know the burden, but I am glad to know that she decided to keep the child and tie down a good job working at a car dealership. In the few short hours we spent together, I could tell that she was certainly conflicted. She told me about her ex and possibly working it out with him. Obviously it didn't work out, but at least she tried. She moved back to be closer to him, and share custody if it didn't work out. So I give her props for that also. The fact that she was ultra flakey, even going so far as saying that she was in need of a good friend then pretty much ignoring me....yes that hurt and I don't deny it. But, on the flipside, I don't hold that against her anymore and have forgiven her for it, especially after I saw the sonogram. The way I look at it is like this, a month after I pretty much forgot about her, she sends me a message at 5am...that was Eastern Time so it was 4am back in KC...and she was thinking of me, a guy she met late one night and was pretty scared that she may have been making a dangerous mistake.

are we talking about the same chick?
She had the abortion and works at the mcdonalds on noland road,,,,she was despearte when she contacted you at 5am, you were the 3rd number she contacted.
on the flipside, one less drain on the goberment tab

[JackJohnson]

Originally Posted by Still Looking

I don't know about the rest of the guys but I only pay providers for their time. A lot of them sure like me because they do very bad things with me. And I like it!

NOW THIS is hilarious... and legally accurate as to what occurs. If you're really giving her money for your time... you know there sure a lot of slutty chicks out there who like to spend their time... ummm... you know... playing live action role playing games (LARPS) Maybe we should call it "LARPCCIE" ("Larpkey?"

Of course, I thought the original post was pretty funny too, although I seem to be in the minority, I took it as humor. Maybe I'm wrong.

I do find it hilarious how often folks want to romanticize the hobby, but come on now, if we all tried to admit we're all playing Russian Roullete (condom break... boom... game over), or that we're risking infecting the civilians we spend time with, etc etc... or that ALL of the women who post on ECCIE are so well-adjusted to their work, and its not a result of trauma, etc etc... or all the clients were noble gentlemen seeking Companions like some episode of Firefly it would probably implode on itself and be even more melodramatic...

Although, I would like me some Inara.

Of course it does so on occasion - get all dramatic, because sometimes folks are TOO honest, and we can't have that, well we can, there are just big fights over perceived reality, opinions, all the kind of crap that happens when emotionally laden activity, hot chicks vying for attention (wars started that way), and anonymous board posting meet... muahahaha...

Here's my reason, my favorite psychological term...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance

The struggle for consonance continues. I just thought it was funny



DISCLAIMER: I'm still disclaiming future disclaiminess.

[Jayhawker]

Some replies make me laugh more than others

Originally Posted by Johnny4455

Jayhawker, please give us more insight on how you set the expectations at the beginning of the date? I think I may be making mistakes. Sometimes I encourage the lady to make me feel I am special... I've heard it called IOP or GFE. On the occasions when I experienced it I did feel like I was special (to the lady who had my dick shoved in her mouth and tongue buried in her ass). Are you suggesting I should not desire that feeling? It is not what goes on during a guys paid time with a female...he can ask her to say or do anything he wants. My issue is with guys after the fact acting like they have really made a connection. These females want the money and if they can get it for nothing then they will take it. I have sat and listened to females call multiple guys and tell them heart wrenching stories (their electric is being cut off, they have to pay fines, they don't have a place to stay and if they don't get money ASAP everything is going to be lost)....the guy agrees to give and in my mind I am thinking why the hell are they so dumb. They just gave their money and got nothing. It bothers me more that in their mind they are thinking "she really likes me and depends on me and I was there for her.

..."hobby"...But it feels better than saying I am a sex addicted whore monger. See admitting you are saying it is a 'hobby' simply to make yourself feel better I can accept. I just get bothered by some guys acting as if they are in someway better than others without realizing they are paying a female for sex.

Originally Posted by Mizzou82

Sir,

your problems with women, paying for sex, relationships, or whatever your issue is, have nothing to do with "the hobby" I personally don't have any problems....well except that you called it a 'hobby'

It is a pretty simple deal. No one can make you do DATY or BBFS, so how is it an issue with you? Do you expect every civie girl and every provider to practice safe sex every time? No one should be doing bbfs it puts everyone at risk. With the number of diseases going around providers lives are at risk and why should anyone be so uncaring about the very people they claim to have such respect for?

Originally Posted by johnsontedt84

We are all here to have a good time and share our experiences. I don't understand why it has to be so negative. To the OP sorry for feel that way about the ladies you've met but you shouldn't cast aspersions on everyone because of a few bad experiences. It is not about a bad experience it is more about seeing guys become suckers and getting used but thinking they mean something to someone who they mean nothing to.

How would you like them to treat you if that is not working for you? It is a money transaction...it is nothing more nothing less. I expect them to treat me how I ask them to. ...making assumptions about them before getting to know them will likely lead to a unpleasant time for both parties. There is no provider that has any idea what I think of them. I don't think bad of them I just see the business for what it is.

Originally Posted by Saintliest

Am I delusional enough to believe that they are truly sexually attracted to me? Maybe one or two were, the rest I doubt. One thing that I do believe though is this; being open, kind, understanding, sincere...and most of all listen....that goes a long way with breaking the shell. For me, I actually do care to know whatever I can about her. I once found out a lady from here in KC used the same hotel as I did in Long Island...I found that pretty neat. I learned from another lady that she used to dance in a club next to a military base that my friend was stationed at. A lady told me about her son, and how tough it is to be away from him. One lady gave me the full tour of her house, and went into depth about how she got this or that. One lived not too far down the street from me when she was younger. Another told me about recently moving back to KC, and what she's trying to do to get herself out and into a good paying career. One, who I accidentally found out through a friend and at first I'm like...damn she looks familiar but why? When I first tried to contact her I let her know that.....and she basically called me creepy and that I shouldn't have done so. 7 months later, she ended up seeing me, and we talked about where we grew up and who we knew. I've seen her twice more, but she went into hibernation for awhile so I let her be. When it comes to all of this...there's a difference between her saying, "Wow that's big and you're Don Juan!" and her saying, "Oh My God, who else do you know from ..........?" or "I made food, want to come over?" or "I know you don't have any cash, just come chill with me and the girls for awhile." (And I did for about 2 hours.) Words of advice....don't be so cynical....be sincere....and listen. Can I ask you a question? Of all the situations you described how many of them have stopped charging you and spend time with you just because you are you?

[Jayhawker]

This is writing I can truly relate to...


[QUOTE=JackJohnson;1055650359]NOW THIS is hilarious... and legally accurate as to what occurs. If you're really giving her money for your time... you know there sure a lot of slutty chicks out there who like to spend their time... ummm... you know... playing live action role playing games (LARPS) Maybe we should call it "LARPCCIE" ("Larpkey?" lol...right...HILARIOUS...so basically, like you wrote, everyone who says they are paying for time have really met a lot of sluts...because they sure are willing to give up the goods rather quickly...lol...

Of course, I thought the original post was pretty funny too, although I seem to be in the minority, I took it as humor. Maybe I'm wrong. Glad you found the humor in what I wrote...I thought it was a touch a nerve type funny...

I do find it hilarious how often folks want to romanticize the hobby, but come on now, if we all tried to admit we're all playing Russian Roullete (condom break... boom... game over), or that we're risking infecting the civilians we spend time with, etc etc... or that ALL of the women who post on ECCIE are so well-adjusted to their work, and its not a result of trauma, etc etc... or all the clients were noble gentlemen seeking Companions like some episode of Firefly it would probably implode on itself and be even more melodramatic...Thank you for bringing to light my whole issue...romantizing the hobby...I don't think it is right to try to put glitter on this. Some poop you just can't make smell better no matter how much air freshener you use.

Of course it does so on occasion - get all dramatic, because sometimes folks are TOO honest, and we can't have that, well we can, there are just big fights over perceived reality, opinions, all the kind of crap that happens when emotionally laden activity, hot chicks vying for attention (wars started that way), and anonymous board posting meet... muahahaha...you are taking the words right out of my mouth.

[Saintliest]

You didn't read anything at all that I typed, did you.

[Jayhawker]

Originally Posted by Saintliest

You didn't read anything at all that I typed, did you.

I did read what you wrote and even quoted it what you wrote in my reply.

If I missed the point please enlighten me.

[Guest090920]

Originally Posted by Saintliest

You didn't read anything at all that I typed, did you.

Because it was nearly impossible the way the posts were written.


Here's some advice:
(1) lose the .... periods will suffice.
(2) your word of the day is "paragraphs".

You can do it, we know you can.

[everyman kc]

Amusing yourself this evening pcpl ? Such closed energy lol. ..how's the makeover with "The Car" coming along?.................Thanks for sharing your story Saintliest. Life is made of moments.

Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

are we talking about the same chick?
She had the abortion and works at the mcdonalds on noland road,,,,she was despearte when she contacted you at 5am, you were the 3rd number she contacted.
on the flipside, one less drain on the goberment tab

[Jayhawker]

Originally Posted by scorpio31

Because it was nearly impossible the way the posts were written.


Here's some advice:
(1) lose the .... periods will suffice.
(2) your word of the day is "paragraphs".

You can do it, we know you can.

Thank you for the grammar lessons on an informal board. I imagine the literary world is now a better place with your corrections.

We know you can do at least one thing...

[JRLawrence]

Originally Posted by Jayhawker

To these providers you are nothing more than a dollar sign so stop thinking you have real meaning to any of them. You act like she is telling you something different then she is telling the next guy. Every sound she makes with you she makes with every guy. She tells you that you are the sweetest she tells every guy that. She tells you that you feel better than anyone she has been with well guess what...she says it to every guy and making you think you are the biggest she has ever had...ARE YOU SERIOUS...you silly clown many of these women have traveled from city to city, sleep with guys every single day so they have had well over 300 penises (being conservative) in her and you think you somehow came along and blew her back out...you really are a schmuck. Ohhhh and stop acting you are the only one she gives bbfs to...like I read on another thread you may put in your review cfs trying to hide you did bbfs thinking you were special to her but please know if she played Russian Roulette with you then she's played it with other guys. Silly guys acting like they got bbfs as a special because she feels comfortable with you...lol...she did bbfs with that disgusting guy who will sleep with just about anyone so yea, your mouth and your penis followed that bbfs special guy.

I know there will be those who claim this is so honorable that bbfs could never happen because of course these are the most cleanest of individuals participating...well if I was dumb I'd go for that but thankfully I am not.

I don't see any quotation marks in your comments. FYI that is these little marks, " to start and " to end the quotation.

When the quotation marks are used, one may use three periods (...) to show that a part of a sentence is omitted. When four periods are used (....) it shows that there has been a complete sentence, or more, omitted. The use of five or more periods within a quotation is improper. The use of periods for emphasis is improper.

But what the hell, with a handle like Jayhawker we have an idea of which school you are implying you attended. But then, maybe you didn't attended college at all you could use the handle just for being a sports fan. After all, a lot of people call themselves jayhawkers just because the shoveled some cow shit on a Kansas farm.

Get real!

The editors of this newspaper need a refresher course in grammar: syntax, sentence structure, and the rules of language.



JR