Why do escorts hate texts?

[Melissa Madyson]

I do not like to TEXT for the following reasons:1) they DON'T know when to stop texting.
2) They are all usually at work still and are wanting a later appt. that will probably NEVER happen.
3) They are usually time wasters just getting their rocks off while you are texting them back.
4) Could be possible LE just trying to set you up.
5) I don't know anything about you through a text. You can make up ANYTHING via text. At least with a phone call I can listen to your voice and hear what you sound like. (After 20+ years in the biizz, I am a pretty good judge of character.)

That is why I hate texting.

Melissa Madyson

[Guest123018]

Originally Posted by JohnnyCap

Goes both ways; on the way to see a provider I've more than once turned around and went back home because she wouldn't take my call. Texts only can hide things a voice might not. But sometimes its just fine; no hard rules.

I prefer texts but confirming an appt i'll
need a phone call. Also help w/directions etc please call

[BBW Katrina]

Originally Posted by Long nose

One you've seen a provider bcd I don't think they care if u text them . I know I text after I have seen one bcd and its a lot easier to schedule 🍌

Yep. Once I've seen you, no problem with texting. Before that? Go on somewhere else.

[secpro]

That was a good question and some very clear answers. It sounds like the OP got the information he needed. I've been around long enough to know not to ask "what's included?", but I have wondered why so many ladies advertise "no texts" and now that question has been answered.

That said, I understand that often ladies can't answer the phone without interrupting a session, and also it's easier to be discreet via text if you're out in public or with friends or family. For those reasons, I've found that text is often a more reliable way to reach a lady. If I call and she doesn't answer, I wonder what people think about a text that says "let me know when it's a good time to call"? For the ladies who say "no texts", would it be okay with you if a guy sent a text asking when he can call you?

[SpanishMami]

I dont mind a text. Because I dont answer my phone usually & if no voicemail, I'll text "who's this" I dont expect a real name. Couldn't care less. But I dont offer eccie ad specials to nonmembers. I dont send out extra photos, and an Inquirer has got to be living under a rock if he asks for details of services verbally or text messaging. As a general rule, if the guys a first timer its either 30 or 60 minute increments. (even if it is just a bng) just because the callers a member, doesn't mean he/she isn't LE,or a lurking ass creeper... Which is actually more frightening then LE.... Good luck!

[Bijou Neko]

Originally Posted by secpro

That was a good question and some very clear answers. It sounds like the OP got the information he needed. I've been around long enough to know not to ask "what's included?", but I have wondered why so many ladies advertise "no texts" and now that question has been answered.

That said, I understand that often ladies can't answer the phone without interrupting a session, and also it's easier to be discreet via text if you're out in public or with friends or family. For those reasons, I've found that text is often a more reliable way to reach a lady. If I call and she doesn't answer, I wonder what people think about a text that says "let me know when it's a good time to call"? For the ladies who say "no texts", would it be okay with you if a guy sent a text asking when he can call you?

I am a no-texts lady but I would be OK with that. I have also had a gent text "I know your ad says no texts but I really can't call right now, is this OK?" and I replied because he was polite and acknowledged my preference rather than just ignoring it completely.

[ElisabethWhispers]

Originally Posted by Melissa Madyson

I do not like to TEXT for the following reasons:1) they DON'T know when to stop texting.
2) They are all usually at work still and are wanting a later appt. that will probably NEVER happen.
3) They are usually time wasters just getting their rocks off while you are texting them back.
4) Could be possible LE just trying to set you up.
5) I don't know anything about you through a text. You can make up ANYTHING via text. At least with a phone call I can listen to your voice and hear what you sound like. (After 20+ years in the biizz, I am a pretty good judge of character.)

That is why I hate texting.

Melissa Madyson

As usual, I completely agree with wonderful Melissa.

One other thing ... most guys, even when they're thinking that they're being polite, will start with a "Hi Elisabeth" and usually, it's misspelled.

Or they just start with asking questions.

What happened to manners? How about "Hi. This is George. I'm interested in meeting and we haven't met before. What is the next step?"

Or heck, just something like that. An introduction. A name. A query.

Why does it have to be something vulgar? Or often, I've texted. I'm doing it even though I don't like it. Starting to get a decent feeling about the guy because he's at work and cannot talk over the phone or send an e-mail (which I always wonder if that's the truth) and so I get limitations.

Then, he goes to sexting. It's a complete turn off. I don't like to hear from a stranger how he's going to eat my tasty pussy. It's the type of crudeness that does nothing for a female while reading letters on a telephone. Save it for when you get to know me, or we're flirting and being randy.

Although I'm sure men think that we just adore hearing that type of talk. It's the exact same thing as sending a picture of your cock. Rarely does a self picture, taken in the bathroom mirror (nude), causes my mouth to water.

Just my thoughts on it. I like the topic, though. You're asking an honest question. And now, you're learning a few better ways of going about meeting someone new and otherwise.

Good luck with it all.

Sincerely,
Elisabeth

[Tall Tex]

Just wanted to mention you will need to look for Newbie Friendly. If you don't see that, don't bother knocking. You need to build up your reputation first. Most girls ask for 2 references if they are not newbie friendly. For the newbie friendly ladies, be prepared to tell them what they want to know so they feel safe.
also: Don't be cheap! Tip handsomely. Drop a nice bottle of some liquor they need... just ask if they need something for their liquor cabinet.

Don't make like you know everything as a newbie. Ask them to take the lead and see where it goes. Many ladies have a list of things they enjoy. Take note of what is NOT on it. Or if you have forgotten and try something verboten, they will likely say, "don't do that." Then you DON"T DO THAT. Don't beg or ask again.

Be a gentleman at all times. If you think something is not going well, ask what you are doing wrong. They will likely tell you, but if you don't say you are a newbie, they may take a strong dislike. Just keep your newbie status intact even awhile after you have references. I have found kindness and understanding follow.

Be discreet at all times. Do a drive by of the area before stopping to check for any state or federal license plates with someone sitting in them... duh!

Have fun!

[Old-T]

This is one of those questions that makes me scratch my head and wonder whether we are truly evolving as a species.

I don't know where the initial belief came from that the ladies here do not like/respond to texts, and that they prefer phone calls. That is a huge overgeneralization. I hate to burst anyone's notion to the contrary,but the ladies here are PEOPLE. Just like the rest of us in most ways, except far prettier. Some like e-mails, some text t-shirt, some phone calls. I suspect a little of that is personal preference but most of it is their life situation. I actually know more ladies who want text or e-mail over phone call co initial. Contacts--they only provide phone numbers after screening. They consider phone calls more invasive and they prefer not to get calls while working their day jobs or when with a date. One specifically told me "I think it is impolite not to answer my phone, but it is expected that an e-mail will have a delay before being responded to."

Treat each lady like an individual, read her website to see if she has a preferred contact medium, and contact her that way. Why would you want to start out by ignoring her prefernce on something like that? Even if the initial setup is via e-mail I have almost always had a phone conversation or two before meeting. Most the ladies prefer to have a sense of who I am just as I like to here them speak. Tone and spontaneity convey a lot.

I think your problems are not the medium but the content. Again, treat the ladies like "real people", not "escorts" and they are more likely to reply like real, warm, human beings.

[SinsOfTheFlesh]

Originally Posted by secpro

That was a good question and some very clear answers. It sounds like the OP got the information he needed. I've been around long enough to know not to ask "what's included?", but I have wondered why so many ladies advertise "no texts" and now that question has been answered.

That said, I understand that often ladies can't answer the phone without interrupting a session, and also it's easier to be discreet via text if you're out in public or with friends or family. For those reasons, I've found that text is often a more reliable way to reach a lady. If I call and she doesn't answer, I wonder what people think about a text that says "let me know when it's a good time to call"? For the ladies who say "no texts", would it be okay with you if a guy sent a text asking when he can call you?

You bring up a very valid point. While I don't like a text as the initial form of contact, I don't mind one at all if I miss a phone call. A text like you describe is perfectly OK with me. In fact, often times if I miss a call, I will send the guy a text saying "Sorry I missed your call, please call back when it is convenient", that way, if he is in company or otherwise unable to take my call, I don't call at an awkward time.

[AmishGangster]

If she wants my cash, she'll answer my polite, properly worded, to the point text.

[zerodahero]

In my experience most providers on ECCIE prefer texting to talking

Hell it seems that way for all women period

[watchoutthegameisrigged]

As one poster not long before this post said, ladies here are PEOPLE! Treating them as such will play HUGE dividends. Nobody wants to be treated like a piece of meat! Respect their preferences and rules. The Golden Rule applies here just as it does in the real world. Treat others as you would wish to be treated. And do your research and seek out the ladies that apply that rule to the hobby. If you do that you will very rarely have the need to write a bad review. This is not brain surgery or rocket science. But you do need to work at it a little.

[Worldtravler]

First contact, I send PM requesting date and time that I would like to see her along with references. Once screening is complete I send PM along with my number telling her I will text her the night before appointment to confirm and again a couple hours before appointment to make sure we're still good. If she screened well there really is no need for a phone call. If I wanted to talk to someone on the phone I would call one of those sex hotlines. I here from some providers some clients feel the need to have endless phone conversations that gets very old quick,do to the fact that they have real life's and real families the last thing they want is to have a 30 minute conversation with you when there trying toget shit done.

[MOCHAakaMOCHA]

I'm one that prefer texts (text only for first contact and at least until screening is done)/emails/pm to phone calls for screening/other communication etc.