Daty Rules: If ladies offer advice will guys get upset?

[Guest051115]

Originally Posted by Out_of_Bounds

Receiving verbal instruction is accepted and helpful and will not be discouraged. But I usually go with her body language and moans of pleasure on what works for her.

Agree. In addition to the fact that each provider will have their own sensitivity levels, I view most (maybe 80-90%) providers as sex experts and so I'm willing to take their advice (as needed).

I do know that sometimes when I'm meeting a provider for the first time there's naturally some apprehension and heightened awareness (which is why I like to talk first) which can sometimes come across as being less than enthusiastic. The only other thing that would make me feel that way is a clear case of bait-n-switch.

[GlobeSpotter]

I didn't read all of this....but I think it was MaxShaft that said it best.

If she's not bucking and flopping like a fish out of water, you're doing it wrong.

ps: I'll happily take direction

[Bluewaterrunner]

Originally Posted by Texas Playboy

Every woman is different. There are really some who don't like it at all, and would rather just lube up and start pounding away. They should just say so. I am an enthusiastic daty-giver, but it's exasperating to go down on a woman who is pretending to enjoy it out of a sense of politeness. Or, even worse, just lays there like a deadfish, with the session clock ticking in her head.

Y'all screen us for any number of things, what I am mostly looking for in reading these reviews is whether the provider truly enjoys and is open to being pleasured and having a good time. If they don't, I will avoid, and certainly won't repeat that kind of session (and I just had one of them last week btw).

On the other hand, if a provider is truly GFE and is the right mindset to have fun, then I consider it my job to pay attention to her body language and figure out what things I am doing that she likes ... and do those things a lot. Personally I would prefer to be given at least a chance to figure it out myself, and then to be corrected sweetly if I am missing the mark. If I walk in the door, discreetly leave the donation, and then I get a verbal "user's manual" to how to please her, well to me that is just reinforcing that I am with a pro, instead of creating the illusion of real world "I'm getting lucky sex" that I am seeking.

I enjoy receiving as well as stimulating pleasure. I feel that if both parties are having fun and getting off it's a much better session for everyone. I must know a little about what I'm doing down there. I have yet to have anyone I've seen give me any instruction while performing that act. Only thanks and praise when finished although I would welcome her advice to help sharpen my skills in that area if she didn't like how I was doing it.

I've found the return on the investment to be well worth the enjoyment I get out of it. I to will not see someone again if we don't mutually enjoy the session.

[Guest051115]

Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

I didn't read all of this....but I think it was MaxShaft that said it best.

If she's not bucking and flopping like a fish out of water, you're doing it wrong.

ps: I'll happily take direction

^ Maybe in some cases. I've eaten enough pussy and watched enough porn to know that some women will just shake, cry, and nod their head NO repeatedly when they really mean YES. like oxtails and gravy - that's some good eating

[DaChef]

I've been told. I'm pretty darn good. 😛

[GlobeSpotter]

Originally Posted by Zanzibar789

^ Maybe in some cases.

Good point. You're head feeling like its in a vice can be a good sign, too.

[Guest051115]

Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

Good point. You're head feeling like its in a vice can be a good sign, too.

^ LoL. I will say this, the most visually stimulating for me is when she's reverse standing over me with that fine ass and then she slowly lowers it to my face. That just drives me wild. However, I have more energy when she's on her back and I can push her legs back and lick from ass to clit. No hyperbole but every time I see that it's like looking at the sunrise above the clouds while in flight.

edited for perspective:

[Alyssa XOXO]

Originally Posted by Texas Playboy

Every woman is different

Very true. What worked with the last cooch may not work so well for the next one. Just like BBJ, every single one is different.

Originally Posted by ICU 812

if she wants it a different way its her call.

I am always accommodating and my body language will guide you. I have no problem offering you cliff notes while you're down there. Only a few (that I'm aware of ) have actually had their egos hurt because they didn't like me verbalizing (since they obviously weren't paying attention to my attempt to squirm "away" from their mouths ) that it "didn't feel good". My clit is very sensitive and it doesn't feel good when you "attack" it. For the ones that don't care to DATY, I'm okay with that because, I get the most wet by sucking your dick; I love BBJ

[Guest022315]

Eh just put teeth on the clit and watch for that reaction Ladies love it

[Alyssa XOXO]

Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

Good point. You're head feeling like its in a vice can be a good sign, too.

^^^ This

[citizen44]

[Guest082318]

I watch lesbian porn like a football coach studies game film. I have my plays set but have no problem if the lady calls an audible.

This would be a good panel for TrickCon 2014.

[linsane]

Not really, I actually want tips, how else will I get better at it?

[fire engine red]

Originally Posted by YummyMarie

Cute illustration. No flicking for me. I like consistent broad strokes up and down and circling my clit. Firm tongue pressure. Do I sometimes offer a direction? Absolutely, but usually if I do, I'm pretty comfortable with that person already. I can tell when a guy is just going through the motions because he doesn't want to feel like a selfish lover. I don't bother correcting them because they want to get to the main course anyway. But if the guy is genuinely into it, and I can tell he truly wants me to enjoy it, they accept my suggestions enthusiastically, which takes the whole experience up a notch.

OH BABY, I remember!!
I do remember!!
You trained me well!!

[Guest051115]

Originally Posted by linsane

Not really, I actually want tips, how else will I get better at it?

Lol I appreciate the candor. One thing I learned growing up is you gotta be careful with that porn those pornstars have an IOP that will fuck up your life in the real world.