AA it is great to see you finally posting on here. From meeting you I know you are a very intelligent young lady. I truly enjoyed our conversation. There is a lot of good advice in this thread. I would recommend talking to AJ and following her advise. She is a sweetheart and knows what she is doing. This is the second thread I have said that and think I am going to owe Aj a lot of red death
. The boards are a great tool for both sides. You can get an idea about how a guy may be by the way he posts. You can use it to screen. I would recommend maybe being a little more active on the boards. It will give you more exposure, help more in screening and knowing who is who. It will cut down on some of the ones who talk crap. You will find to that more will call out the ones that are stiring the pot or talking crap. As it stands when a provider is not active or shows any voice, it will lead to the ones to talk crap. They know they provider will not say anything and it is free game. This will lead to some guys wondering because all they have to go off is reviews and what others say. I just looked at the showcase and we have 94 ladies in upstate. I have no clue about 3/4 of them. I dont look at weekend line ups, providers adds, or showcases. The only things I see are reviews and if the lady posts. It is some thing you might want to think about. Other guys might be doing the same thing I do.
Reviews will speak a lot about a lady. If they have a lot of yes reviews and no reviews. As previously stated, the yes ones are going to carry more weight. Every one has a bad day or there was not the expected connection between the two. Reviews are observations, and experiences. Some may be exaggerated at times and some right to the point. Most the guys know how to weed through it. Having thick skin is some what required. Some things that will be said you may not like and some you will not mind. Dont let it get to you. The ones that talk crap, well we see it as what it is. Some one taking a minor observation and trying to blow it up to a major issue, when it is not. Which in case the whole stubble thing. It was a minor thing, but the ones stirring the pot got it to become a major issue. In the end he gave her a Yes review, she got offended by comments of the others and told her side. Which lead to him feeling he had to defend himself and it went all down hill from there. Now we are left with a guy that chances are from the Yes review, that he might have gone back to see her again. Now chances are she will not see him, or he will not want to see her because of that train wreck. This is where the thick skin comes in and dont let yourself be baited in.
As far as the observations take them as a tool. If one thing keeps getting harped up by many different guys. Well if it is some thing you can change or willing to change. Then do it. In some cases you can, but if it was some thing like guys wanting greek and you will never do that. Then that is understandable that you would not change. Honestly the only thing I have seen brought up about you have been pictures. Every thing else has been good. Please dont take that as a shot, it is just an observation. If you updated pictures then that issue would go away. If it is a matter that you do not have the means to do it. Hell I would come do new pictures for you for free when I break free. Then that whole issue would be gone and we would not hear about it again.
Just keep your chin up and you are doing good. I know it is tough to take any kind of criticism rather it be an observation or an actual issue. It is human nature to some what take offense to them. You just need to take a step back and look at it as a learning too and how to improve or adjust. The bs take it as it is. Sorry for the long post, but I wanted to make sure I gave you a good response to your inquiry. Take care and have a great day
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