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Old 01-23-2014, 10:19 PM   #1
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"I cater to some fetishes".....Okay, I am seeing a lady that has that in her profile. so what does that mean?
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Old 01-24-2014, 01:26 AM   #2
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Have you asked what is on her menu?

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"I cater to some fetishes".....Okay, I am seeing a lady that has that in her profile. so what does that mean?
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Old 01-24-2014, 07:35 AM   #3
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Have you asked what is on her menu?


In the process....
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Usually means "I'll take it in the ass for extra money".
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Old 01-24-2014, 09:03 AM   #5
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Yeah, and for some providers, wearing lingerie or providing GFE is considered a fetish.

Best to always clarify the menu first...
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I almost feel guilty being with the naysayers on here but I often interpret that to mean, Hey ... here is another way to try to get an appointment.

For many ladies, they're willing to do things extra but not particularly enthusiastic.

It varies with the individual. After screening, just tell her what you're interested in. Or better yet, ask her where her interests are. If she's like me, she might not give you a direct answer because of MY marketing strategy.

However, if she's just throwing ideas out there, she might answer the question in a way that you'll find very revealing. And it might answer your own question.

Good luck.

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I almost feel guilty being with the naysayers on here but I often interpret that to mean, Hey ... here is another way to try to get an appointment.

For many ladies, they're willing to do things extra but not particularly enthusiastic.

It varies with the individual. After screening, just tell her what you're interested in. Or better yet, ask her where her interests are. If she's like me, she might not give you a direct answer because of MY marketing strategy.

However, if she's just throwing ideas out there, she might answer the question in a way that you'll find very revealing. And it might answer your own question.

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good advice. I just worry that constant PM-ing will make me look like a stalker, or "creepy", thus negating any chances at having a truly outstanding session.
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Anyone have any REAL fetishes? k9, scat...etc?
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Old 02-02-2014, 10:33 AM   #9
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Do you provide any REAL fetishes?
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Old 02-02-2014, 12:03 PM   #10
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It is a marketing ploy by un-savvy providers trying to distinguish themselves from other providers. As Elizabeth mentioned, it is acts in which the lady will participate but not willingly or enthusiastically-- i.e. expect an upsell for the fetish. Also, I agree that you need to know what is on her menu or what she considers non-fetish activities. Some may consider a BBBJCIM as a fetish. Some may consider MSOG a fetish. I would NOT associate fetish with anal/Greek. I have seen ads by ladies saying they cater to fetishes or are fetish friendly. When I ask about Greek/Anal, almost 90% say no. That begs the question then. What is a fetish? As I said, an unsophisticated marketing ploy.
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A few things that come to mind when I think of the word "fetish:"

water sports, cross-dressing, strap-on play, role play, sub/dom, spanking, wrestling, oil, humiliation, heavy dirty talk, forced repetitive DT/gagging, breathe play, bondage/restraint, flogging/cropping/caning, squirting, squirtshows, aggressive facesitting, extreme tease and denial, cock and ball torture, prostate focus

Do I do all of these things? Some things I require that an extended session be booked. Some I have to build trust and good rapport over several session before I will consider it. Other things that are fetishes, but not such a big deal are shoe, foot worship, and leg-wear requests.

MY SOAP BOX RANT: But, a MAJOR turn-off for me is being approached out of the blue BEFORE introductions or screening about these things. Always be a gentleman, provide your screening information as asked, be ready to set a solid appointment (no "hoping, wishing, maybe, or we'll see"), then you'll have my serious attention. I have been approached by many who just want to get my written answers for jack-off material, and it ends up being a big waste of time without a session. RANT OVER

Fetish friendly can also mean they will are willing to consider or hear your preferences out to secure an appointment.

Happy Hobbying!
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A few things that come to mind when I think of the word "fetish:"

water sports, cross-dressing, strap-on play, role play, sub/dom, spanking, wrestling, oil, humiliation, heavy dirty talk, forced repetitive DT/gagging, breathe play, bondage/restraint, flogging/cropping/caning, squirting, squirtshows, aggressive facesitting, extreme tease and denial, cock and ball torture, prostate focus

Do I do all of these things? Some things I require that an extended session be booked. Some I have to build trust and good rapport over several session before I will consider it. Other things that are fetishes, but not such a big deal are shoe, foot worship, and leg-wear requests.

MY SOAP BOX RANT: But, a MAJOR turn-off for me is being approached out of the blue BEFORE introductions or screening about these things. Always be a gentleman, provide your screening information as asked, be ready to set a solid appointment (no "hoping, wishing, maybe, or we'll see"), then you'll have my serious attention. I have been approached by many who just want to get my written answers for jack-off material, and it ends up being a big waste of time without a session. RANT OVER

Fetish friendly can also mean they will are willing to consider or hear your preferences out to secure an appointment.

Happy Hobbying!
I usually take it a step further and actually see the lady for a regular session, then if I want to see her again I'll ask about any extras or fetishes she does. That we both know each other a bit and know if we want to try something less vanilla.

The only exception to this is if she mentions it in an ad then I may inquire.
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I usually take it a step further and actually see the lady for a regular session, then if I want to see her again I'll ask about any extras or fetishes she does. That we both know each other a bit and know if we want to try something less vanilla.

The only exception to this is if she mentions it in an ad then I may inquire.
That's the BEST way to do it IMO. Spice-is-nice did this with me when we first got together. We did a GFE session the first time, and at the end we had great conversation which organically drifted to ANOTHER REALM type of discussion. Its been over a year and a half of splendid exploration with him, which has taken both of us to places we never imagined. I mention him in particular because we are open on the board about our playtime. Likewise, with others who are not active on the board, I've built quite a repertoire and taste for fetishes on an individual basis.

So if a lady puts it out there that they will cater to some fetishes, its a good sign she won't slam the door in your face without at least considering your request or being willing to build up to it like me.
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Places we hadn't imagined indeed, YM. And it takes 2 kindred spirits to explore as widely as we have. We have done some very kinky things, but always in a loving spirit, and trusting in each other--which has enabled us both to fly. And still exploring. . . . .

So, love letters to YM aside, I agree wholeheartedly with the idea of getting to know someone a bit before springing your kinkier fantasies on them. And in person conversation is by far the best way to explore those things.
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A few things that come to mind when I think of the word "fetish:"

water sports, cross-dressing, strap-on play, role play, sub/dom, spanking, wrestling, oil, humiliation, heavy dirty talk, forced repetitive DT/gagging, breathe play, bondage/restraint, flogging/cropping/caning, squirting, squirtshows, aggressive facesitting, extreme tease and denial, cock and ball torture, prostate focus

Do I do all of these things? Some things I require that an extended session be booked. Some I have to build trust and good rapport over several session before I will consider it. Other things that are fetishes, but not such a big deal are shoe, foot worship, and leg-wear requests.

MY SOAP BOX RANT: But, a MAJOR turn-off for me is being approached out of the blue BEFORE introductions or screening about these things. Always be a gentleman, provide your screening information as asked, be ready to set a solid appointment (no "hoping, wishing, maybe, or we'll see"), then you'll have my serious attention. I have been approached by many who just want to get my written answers for jack-off material, and it ends up being a big waste of time without a session. RANT OVER

Fetish friendly can also mean they will are willing to consider or hear your preferences out to secure an appointment.

Happy Hobbying!
I agree completely with you Lovely Lady, During my active times I can honestly say that those who were of the "fetish" persuasion were well versed in the polite way of inquiring about those areas.
Though the discussion of "fetishes" is a tad more "open" now days, many of the ones you mentioned are still very taboo and scary for the average hobby person.
And the ones whom I did wander off into the dark corners of their imagination with always arranged a more casual meeting first.
You just never know if someone is going to "smell" just right until you meet the first time.
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