Anyone heard Poly?

[Piracanto]

I stumbled upon the Polyamory Weekly podcast and I've been listening for a couple of weeks....
The subject was already interesting to me, but they seem really into it.

Anyone has experience in the subject? just looking for perspective.


I know my wife would go Bobbit if finds out this curiosity of mine... But still, I am the way I am....

Cheers!

[Guest042015]

BDSM sometimes includes aspects of polyamory which I have had some experience with. I think with the right mindsets it can be successful, I've been invited to join some relationships, but have never seen anything that would fit my needs.

It takes a super open mind and communication in order to accomplish small things. Many of us struggle with communication with just one person, which is where these relationships get super complicated.

I find it intriguing and would be interested in knowing more, even if only to learn.

Any tidbits you care to share about interesting things you've learned?

I think this topic would get more conversation and participation in Another Realm, and I encourage you to post it there as well!

[Piracanto]

Originally Posted by DDMcGee

Many of us struggle with communication with just one person, which is where these relationships get super complicated.

Totally agree on that. Honest and fluid communication is a rare thing, I think, and it would be a definitive need on a Poly relationship.

Originally Posted by DDMcGee

I find it intriguing and would be interested in knowing more, even if only to learn.

I feel the same way. I'm attracted to the idea, and I want to know more, regardless of if it would become a reality or not.

Originally Posted by DDMcGee

Any tidbits you care to share about interesting things you've learned?

It's a broad topic, that can be mixed and confused with Swinging (Which I love BTW), Bi, Kink, BDSM, etc. So I'm barely starting to scratch the surface now.
Still, so far I've learned:
- It's not just about the sex. It's an actual loving and caring relationship. Sex is just a bonus.
- Is not for everyone. Just as about anything else.
- It's Ok to feel jealous. Poly relationships aren't jealousy-free, but it's important to communicate those feelings to the partner. (This was a big one for me, I assumed jealousy didn't exist on Poly).
- One partner can be monogamous, and the other Poly. The 1st one just needs to be Ok with his/her partner being Poly.
- Poly can work on long distance relationships.
- Communication is Key.
- There can be some rules and guidelines, but nothing should be imposed by one partner to any other partner.

I find the topic really interesting. It's one of those assumptions (Monogamy) that we have deeply ingrained in our culture, and knowing there's more, makes me feel less odd.

Originally Posted by DDMcGee

I think this topic would get more conversation and participation in Another Realm, and I encourage you to post it there as well!

Will do, thanks for the suggestion!!


And to keep the conversation going, would you care to expand a bit on this?

Originally Posted by DDMcGee

I think with the right mindsets it can be successful, I've been invited to join some relationships, but have never seen anything that would fit my needs.

I'm interested in knowing how did you get invited? (You know, how did they consider you and how they "proposed") and assuming you would consider being Poly, what would you say fit your needs?


A little bit from myself.
I'm married, and I also have a long distance girlfriend. My GF not only doesn't mind me being married, but since she's Bi, she would like to have a relationship with my wife as well, if possible. GF agrees even on living in the same household, if it's allowed. She has a BF as well.
Now, communication with my wife is not the best, and the rare occasions we've talked about the subject, she's clearly scared, but a little interested. I have not said anything about my curiosities, since once I express them, there's not going back. I'm trying to learn more, before breaking it to her.

Ok, thoughts?

Thanks!

[Guest100114-1]

Check this out on showtime:
http://www.sho.com/sho/polyamory-mar...ating/season/2

Lots of "real" drama related to relationships. Sounds like a good idea but I couldn't do it. It's a pretty cool show with lots of sex lol.

[BoomShakaLaka]

I personally dont believe in Monogamy... I have been in a poly relationship before and it was awesome till one woman got jealous of the other one.

[flinde]

Line up Mrs flinde' 1 thru 4. throw in a couple dozen girlfriends. Maybe 100 one nighters. And the hos, and flinde is as polyamorous as any grass eating Austin fuck.