Hookers Playing Hard To Get

[phildo]

Dallas Douchebags! LMFAO!

Well told, Berk, well told!

And hats off to Rambo for the slow cooker GPS analogy.

Those two lines right there tell the whole story of why a lot of single people in Dallas stay that way and bitch about it, and each other.

[berkleigh]

Originally Posted by phildo

Dallas Douchebags! LMFAO!

Well told, Berk, well told!

And hats off to Rambo for the slow cooker GPS analogy.

Those two lines right there tell the whole story of why a lot of single people in Dallas stay that way and bitch about it, and each other.

Ugh don't even get me started on the Douches of Doucheville!

Carry on . . . lol

[NYr]

Originally Posted by !!Sexy Erotic Morgan

Before I started in the biz, I played it fast and loose with my pussy. Now, if you ain't paying, you ain't playing.

But now here is the question, did that change before or after you started in this world.

[diud-diud]

I had a young lady as a domestic employee that I was friendly with and we talked while she was working. One day she just came out and told me she was a former escort and that she worked at one studios for a while. Studio one or VIP I can't remember. I remember her saying that it messed her up for a while after that, because whenever she had sex with someone after that she kept feeling like they should give her something.

I remember her saying that some time had passed after she quit the business before she had sex again. She said that because it was a situation where staying the night wasn't possible that when she was getting ready to leave she, said she remembered just like dragging her feet leaving because she was waiting for him to offer her money. Then when she finally left she kept thinking she should have gotten something for doing that.

Anyway she wasn't permanently scarred or anything, but I guess there could be a transition in thinking after the business, assuming you aren't dating while you are working.

[justinslayer]

I guess I have a different problem... Guys.. have you ever met a woman, had sex with her a few times, she wanted something serious and you just wanted to play the field only to find her on ECCIE as an escort a year later on and your like DAMN!!! Happened to me 3 times!! Unlike Elaine from Seinfeld I can't name names.

[redman1501]

I always wondered, how do you ladies go about dating if you do? This is a curiosity question, because I am a curious lad; not a being an ass question so please don't take it that way.

[Guest070818-1]

Originally Posted by justinslayer

I guess I have a different problem... Guys.. have you ever met a woman, had sex with her a few times, she wanted something serious and you just wanted to play the field only to find her on ECCIE as an escort a year later on and your like DAMN!!! Happened to me 3 times!! Unlike Elaine from Seinfeld I can't name names.

Oh wow, that's interesting! You have great hooker radar. Lol

[Y0yoY0]

Originally Posted by diud-diud

I had a young lady as a domestic employee that I was friendly with and we talked while she was working. One day she just came out and told me she was a former escort and that she worked at one studios for a while. Studio one or VIP I can't remember. I remember her saying that it messed her up for a while after that, because whenever she had sex with someone after that she kept feeling like they should give her something.

I can see that.

And, I share in some of the sentiments about the serious, parallel current running in this thread.

It's hard, when you think people don't understand you, and never will, because they don't have any idea what you've been through, or what you've done, or why you are the way you are....and civilian life seems so fucking boring.

Well, sooner or later you will decide to re-join that world, and it will still be hard, but the good ones will accept you and understand you....as best they can.

[littlepickle]

I think true it may be tough for a provider/civie relationship. But I was in the military, and traveled a lot. And I saw alot of friends marriages crumble under the constant moving and being gone. Its the same concept, you tend to isolate yourself in a way when you actually be doing the opposite. True, it may be a business/career for you ladies, but if and when that one comes along and sweeps you off your feet and persists, I have to end it with a Neil Diamond quote from a song. "Turn on your heart light".

[Exec_Enchant]

Originally Posted by berkleigh

Morgan I so agree with you babe!

Being in this Lifestyle has for sure made me put things on hold and distance myself from a few "Real World" relationships I have been involved in over the years.

I have casually dated a couple of guys but I seem to attract these "Dallas Douchebags" therefore I am very dissatisfied with the selection of men I have come across. It's way to hard to even describe yourself and Life to a civilian who knows nothing of the Hobby and lying about it gets you no where either.
As much as I believe "What you do for a living doesn't define you as a person" ... most will judge anyway.

It becomes very complicated engage in a Relationship, be honest and "Normal" ... whatever that is ... and maintain this Lifestyle while morphing back and forth throughout the day from "Mom" to "Berkleigh" to "Friend" to "Girlfriend".

I chose not to be with anyone for a long time and then dated someone much younger who lived out of town.
I controlled that relationship because it was out of convenience for me and the reality of it was it was never going to go anywhere.
I've had a few arrangements but none of those were any that I saw myself setting down with for many reasons. I most definitely only let those in enough as I was comfortable and never wanted to mix Business with my Personal Life.
I even got involved with my best guy friend from the Hobby. We knew each other for a few years and seriously talked about getting married, but sadly things did not work out and we ruined a very good friendship.

I ALWAYS told myself I would never get involved in a Personal Relationship outside this Hobby and damn it I broke that rule too!
I've learned that even if he is a civilian or was a P411 member, it does not matter anymore how you met, especially once you develop feelings.
I struggled with this and kept pushing away a man who heavily pursued me from the night he sent me a P411 Appt Request. All because I know how it ends...
Or I've programmed myself to keep things as Business Only and finally realized I may have passed up some great opportunities of love and life.

So after our first appointment, which lasted about 7 hours, I gave in and we will be celebrating our 6 month anniversary this Thursday.
One of the best decisions I have made thus far!

Impossible really is not the word...
It's more of a definite challenge in my opinion, but worth it.
It's not about being compensated, never was, it's been more of a definite challenge in my opinion, but so worth it.

I love this story! It is so hopeful and full of promise. There is love for everyone. It is important to not completely wall yourself off.

[samantha thom]

Originally Posted by redman1501

I always wondered, how do you ladies go about dating if you do? This is a curiosity question, because I am a curious lad; not a being an ass question so please don't take it that way.

No different from anyone else. There are some ladies who are very very involved in the hobby. They see a lot of clients, they don't have very many friends outside the hobby, their lives revolve around providing, no other hobbies, friends, interests, or a real world job. They will have a hard time dating civilian guys.
On the other hand, there are some ladies who are good in balancing the 2 worlds. I refuse to put my real life on hold because of providing. I want to keep living while achieving my financial goal. I do not want to become jaded and lose the real ME by being too involved in the hobby. Fortunately, I found someone who can see me as a real person (ME) and he still loves me even after he accidentally found out what I do.
He is not involved whatsoever in the hobby...didn't even know it existed. Our relationship got even closer and he understood why i had to do this.
He tolerates it but will never approve of it or like it....but hey....I'm an independent type A alpha-female...no man can tell me what to do or not do. LOL

[doug_dfw]

I, too, wish to say to the Ladies who care for our normal instincts, thank you and hope the universe reforms and treats you withe the same respect.

[Jewish Lawyer]

Originally Posted by justinslayer

I guess I have a different problem... Guys.. have you ever met a woman, had sex with her a few times, she wanted something serious and you just wanted to play the field only to find her on ECCIE as an escort a year later on and your like DAMN!!! Happened to me 3 times!! Unlike Elaine from Seinfeld I can't name names.

Well, no, but ironically I've been with several providers who tell me about the boyfriends that just dumped them and broke their heart so they said "fuck it" and then decided to start hooking...

[CandiedKitty]

Yes... I feel this way completely and it's weird well to others we totally understand lol

[Tiffani Jameson]

Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

These days I'm way too busy for a girlfriend, even if she was already a girlfriend, ya know. I'm not referring to the 'chase one down and things leading to a relationship'. I'm talking if she was already at the 'girlfriend' status, our relationship would probably on the rocks due to my schedule. If you're talking THE CHASE of getting one to become a girlfriend. Oh, hell nooo. I don't have the time, energy, or patience these days. The only girls I see these days are the ones I'm 'hanging out with' for an hour or hh at a time.

I would speculate that guys who are 'long-winded' in girl chasing are probably chasing many at once. If a guy is chasing multiple ladies, as long as he has one or two that's easy to 'chase down', I would surmise that it sustains him in the chase for the one(s) that are playing hard to get. So if a guy is willing to wait on your 'slow cooking meal', it's POSSIBLE that he's eating off other plates, if you know what I mean.



I learned towards the tail end of my pussy-chasing days (before hobbying) that that was the way to go.

So what?

When it comes to a man who is willing to court a lady in the first place probably really likes her where it really counts. But again, that has nothing to do with his needs.

It would be wise to assume that any man you're dating and you're not having sex with is having sex with someone. This is why you don't have sex with him right off, so you can give him time to get his affairs in order. You'll know if you've been worth the wait.

I don't have to be a slut in my real life because of this industry. I would assume the same thing of a man who takes the time to get to know me.