Have Clients Spoilt Your Relationships With Other Men?

[~Arriana Grey~]

PS: Alex Reece, I FKN DIG NERDS Come here!

[Chloe Kensington]

Sisyphus;

"While it's rude to answer a question with a question...I shall. What was it that made the experience 'royal' to you? Was it that the guy in question (lucky bastard!) splashed some cash on something above & beyond your valuable time & companionship? Or....was it that you hit if off with the guy & genuinely enjoyed yourself? You discovered the two of you shared...a gift of gab...you like the same food or music...shared a dance?? Or, is was it some combination of both of those things? If so, how much does the meter need to be in favor of the former vs. the latter to make it all happen?"

Glad you noticed the thread Sisyphus, it is a perennial point after all!

With the guy in question - well we would have hit it off great anyway, we had a lot of things (in some cases quite unexpectedly) in common and he was just very lovely and fun to be with. Plus well-mannered of course. The extravagances were the icing on the cake!

Back to young men in Miami - I was out with a hot one last night and it was kind of funny, and sad, that he'd had such bad luck with women in Miami. I have to tell you that the bleat of a lot of men here is that all the women here are golddiggers. You wouldn't want to hear what the women say about the men.

Anyhow he told me a story of how he went on a second date with a girl and she took him to the mall and said she needed a few things. She tried on clothes and passed them to him and told him to pay for them. He didn't, and he told me his outrage at being treated like a 'Sugardaddy'. He said he'd be generous but not immediately like that.

I thought it was ironic that OK I've got Chloe Kensington going on and lots of women have different lives like that, but I've never heard such a tale of such bad manners in the 'usual' world.

Lastly, no, I wouldn't try anything with the nice guys who take me out. Actually sometimes they travel from far places to hang out and we retain nice friendships (for years) and they know it'll never be anything but that. They seem to think it's worth it!

Chloe Kensington xoxo

[Chloe Kensington]

Glad you like it London!

Chloe Kensington xoxo

[Chloe Kensington]

Originally Posted by RoxanneReynolds

Yes!!! I've been single for 4 years, only been a provider for a little over a year and sometimes I make an attempt to date someone on the side. Last time was the last..... I think. After I realize how boring and bleh and possessive these guys are (not to mention they all say they will NEVER pay for sex) I tell them stories about my slaves. That usually spoils any relationship with them.

He he, you must get some interesting responses!

Chloe Kensington xoxo

[Gotyour6]

I am thinking you are attracted to the lifestyle and not the client.

I know being a sugar daddy that is always the case.

The one SB I have now is spoiled rotten and is getting use to being the "Woman" in the "Relationship" Acting almost like a wife sometimes which I had to stop real fast.

She got Use to the life of what you described in your OP.

You are looking for a moment.
Want becomes the norm of what you are looking for.

This is no different than a housewife sitting at home watching soap operas, meets a guy online that gives her the romance and she leaves her family.

In the end, its a guy and a girl sharing a moment.

[Chloe Kensington]

Sugardaddy - "I am thinking you are attracted to the lifestyle and not the client."

Is this directed to me? If so I have to say you're wrong, you can't enjoy a client's company to a great degree just because of money or fortunate circumstances.

[~Arriana Grey~]

True. If it's JUST a sugardaddy, you can't enjoy the FULL experience between you and that client.....on another note...nowhere in the "job description" does it say we MUST enjoy the full GFE (experience) or fetish/fantasy ect. All in all, and with all due respect, THEY ARE ALL SUGARDADDIES. Whether its an hourly donation that's later used to pay the rent, or a trip somewhere exotic thats used to clear your head...its $$$$ and I know I'm NOT paying for any of it...so whether I like them or not, (and if I dont I wont see them again) but regardless, if WE like them or not, $$$$$$ is what makes us "enjoy" the experience EVEN MORE SO. I wouldn't go out on a civilian date with 60% of my clients "just for fun...There are those that are wonderful and VERY sweet, that I DO enjoy and will say YES in a heartbeat to a trip to Florida...still. It's bc it's beneficial to me. Yes they get all the eye candy and then some alllll they want while we are there, BUT, in the end...it's a sugardaddy who took me out to the beach, paid my roundtrip, took me shopping and threw a little something in my bank account. Even tho it is a lifestyle, and one we choose, I suppose it depends on HOW you look at YOUR personal clients and WHAT you expect from them, and as stated before, no GOOD provider is gonna agree to see a "douchy" client a second time...but that FIRST and ONE time, that 300 donation paid your car's insurance and you got a new pair of heels, They get a good deal, go home to their wives, we get our bills taken care of and MOST can be happy....maybe another reason WHY this can spoil a relationship with an S.O. Esp those providers that have am S.O that depends on them, doesnt provide for them, lazy ect. Of course you'd look at him like o_O wtf is MY problem supporting a man with the same flow men support me??? Personally, I like looking at them as my sugar daddies...bc I know they look at me as a sugarbaby that will NOT hassle them, create drama, NSA and at least for the hour or two they spend with me, they know they are gonna be very well taken care of. Point of most forums, since ASPD. They seek a lady to enjoy and give them that much needed TLC, attention, stress relief, we supply a service that in return benefits us monetary wise.

[Golden Princess]

I couldn't agree more on why the provider/client relationship is so wonderful. I think in partly that it is a fantasy and we are on our best behavior trying to please each other for the sake of the fantasy experience. It's only a temporary high that lets us be who we want to be ourselves authentically, or an escape from reality, but so much fun while it lasts when out on a date. It's truly addicting till the next adventure. The possibilities are endless that keeps us guessing and wanting more.

~The Golden Princess

[Chloe Kensington]

Originally Posted by Golden Princess

I couldn't agree more on why the provider/client relationship is so wonderful. I think in partly that it is a fantasy and we are on our best behavior trying to please each other for the sake of the fantasy experience. It's only a temporary high that lets us be who we want to be ourselves authentically, or an escape from reality, but so much fun while it lasts when out on a date. It's truly addicting till the next adventure. The possibilities are endless that keeps us guessing and wanting more.

~The Golden Princess

I agree!

I hate to say it but dates with a client are often more fun than 'regular' dates - maybe because 'regular' dates usually over-estimate themselves and tend to see women as just dying to marry them, usually for monetary reasons. Which may or may not be the case.

At least in Miami that's the impression I get. I can't say I had that impression in other parts of the world that I've lived in, but maybe times have changed?

[RedLeg505]

Originally Posted by ~Arriana Grey~

They seek a lady to enjoy and give them that much needed TLC, attention, stress relief, we supply a service that in return benefits us monetary wise.

This has been an interesting thread to read. But that sentence right there pretty much boils it down and explains why I hobby. I'm married. I love my wife, everything is great EXCEPT the sex life. I miss the TLC and romantic little things we used to do. So now I get to do those little things, provide treats and be thoughtful and semi-romantic during a time with a provider. Then, when its done, its done. No entanglements, no "girlfriend" calls, no threats to tell the wife, etc..etc..etc that can come with getting a RW girlfriend. I get what I need, provider gets "hopefully" a nice time with a sweet thoughtful guy and the $$$ she was looking for, and no hang ups, no expectations when its done.

If the provider made it especially fun (and that's very subjective and I'm not sure I could explain what makes a session *especially fun*), then I'll contact them again for a repeat. But I'm not looking for the "love of my life".. in fact, I hobby to AVOID such a thing.

[Guest101314]

Originally Posted by dreamvacationdates

Remember one thing.... your getting older, one day the client well in going to dry up and you won't be getting all the callers anymore, so if you're still single you'll have to deal with the reality of dating civie guys, don't become so jaded that you end up alone.

No matter how beautiful or sexy you are, one day that's going to fade and the next pretty young thing will be the toast of the town and in this business that's for certain. it going to be a good ride, but all good things do come to and end.

Truth. I've always been a firm believer in investing. Our pretty looks will fade, then what?

[Nakia]

Reading this thread is quite interesting! I love the points that the Providers and Hobbyist both make. But it's kind of hard to say no when you are being showered with gifts right!?!? Then from the Hobbyist point Guys isn't it kind of hard for you to say No to a hot woman that's in front of your face! lol!!!

[snowman123]

Originally Posted by Tatiana M.

I totally agree. The dynamics between a civie date and a hobby date are completely different. Regardless, the hobbyists I've met (in general, of course) have always treated me better than any civie boyfriend. Being with a hobbyist who treats you well for that hour or two, plus getting paid, has made going back to the BS of dating civies difficult. And thats why I drop so many civie boyfriends. I've finally realized I don't need to be somewhere I don't want to be. I'm not jaded! All of this is a good thing! I have a leg to stand on now -in relationships. I know my worth. Plus, once someone treats you well, regardless of WHO they are, or why your hanging out with them, it's hard to go back to hanging out with people who treat you any less.

As a client, I do treat the escort well, but not for the reasons you might think. Did you ever notice that if you strike up a conversation with the girl in the meat dept. at the grocery store, your service gets a little better. You are nice to her - her service has value to you because you consume what she has to offer. You want to be invited back for more and perhaps better service. Maybe after a while she throws a little extra bologna in the bag to show her appreciation. It is very little work with good pay off.

It is also part of the fantasy of my relationship with the escort - this is how I would treat my lover in my fantasy world! I want her to be glad to see me the next time I show up. It is part of my pleasure to be able to give pleasure. Give some to get some.
Does it effect my real world relationships - absolutely! After I see a provider there is the endorfin release that makes me feel 10 feet tall and bulletproof. This is what I am seeking. I feel more confident and I get sh*t done. I am more able to tell my SO what I want from our relationship - it HAS made it better. But I also know that if I get caught this relationship will come to an abrupt end. Risk vs, benefit.
Seek adventure and it will find you!