Men who do their research

[geecue]

Originally Posted by Sandra Dee

This is an old topic I once wrote about but would like to revisit it again.
I'm 48yrs old, not the most beautiful woman, but very attractive non the less; great body for my age, but there are much better younger bodies than mine; good skill set, though many other women out there that could probably put my deep throat to shame. I'm smart, funny...even charming, but realize charm to one man may not be to another. I have magic with some clients, and then sometimes nothing with others. Why is that?
'That is' because I'm uniquely what a certain niche of men want. To them it's magic...to the others, they just don't get it...they don't get me. They didn't do their research before they chose me. We don't choose our clients, they choose us, and hopefully they did their research so that they chose wisely. My website is loaded with stuff about me to help them decide if I'm what they want, but sometimes I think they ignore it and book me anyway. Why is that? Why would they waste their time and money?

Wow 48 yrs old, IMO you have the body of a 28 yr old.

[fine dimes21]

Isn't that the truth pyramider. I hardly hobby once so often. I enjoy reading the threads sometimes more so than hobbying.
When I do I research alot. Stuff probably other guys consider or not, are they truly Gfe? Or more PSE? How is the communication, location and all.

It isn't until I pm them, email them. If we don't click I don't proceed. I am a communication type of person, if one can't make the simple responses, chances are it won't happen or I won't have a good time. If it was one thing I learned the hard way early on is bad communication usually ends up in having a bad time, from my personal experiences. I can't speak on they other board members.

If I am on the fence with all the research, I stay on the fence. Each client is different and that goes with the ladies. I find the ones I think I would click with and I truly want to be with.

[Sandra Dee]

Yes you're right ladies, I probably should research more about my clients, not because it has to be fabulous for me...but more so that I can at least give them the heads up that I may just be an 'okay' provider for them. After all it is their hard earned Hobbie dollars. It's just hard sometimes to find the extra time to do the extra research. Yes I know, I'm making excuses...and excuses are like assholes, everyone has one..
Will take the advise into consideration.

[Howl at the Moon]

So many of the sites that ladies put up look the same. I am not talking about the kits and templates, I am talking about the time put in to make the site specific. Yes- we dawgs go to the pictures first- and then if there s a specific experience we want, we may head to services. While I found Sandra's pictures compelling, it was the writing that drew me in. In the end, not only did her thoughts and ideas on the site make me want to meet her, it was all the more fulfilling and fun because Sandra is exactly who she says she is. So we were predestined to have a great time.

I do not care if you are a 22 year old hardbody or a 50 year old BBW- tell me who you are and describe the experience you want to have and create. If it is not for me... well you saved us both some time. But if you are who I am looking for (which should be a good experience for you as well) then your site itself will do the matching. If I want to try something out of my comfort aone... or if you get an email from someone who you do not think "gets" you but want to meet anywyay, well then you are going in with your eyes open. But if your site looks like everyone else's, then you are likely to get client for whom your time is more of a commodity than a particular experience with you.

I cannot speak for anyone else here... but I am not here for a commodity, same as everyone else in the biz experience.

[Howl at the Moon]

Actually, I want to correct myself. I am certain that each experience with every lady on the board is unique. I do not meant to intimate that time spent with any of the women who brighten our lives would be a commodity. All the more reason to spend some time and energy to have your site represent your unique personality. If the sites look the same... the it is hard to get a sense of your unique personality and presence.

[Cpalmson]

From a guy's perspective-- even after doing countless hours of research, there comes a point when the little head starts thinking for the big head. This is especially the case when a guy is horny, has a small window of opportunity to play, and either can't find exactly what he is looking for or down to option C on the list. So yes, in some instances it comes down to she looks okay, she has good reviews, she's got a pulse and she can see me in 2 hours or less.

[Still Looking]

I opened up your show case pictures and took a look. Little SL started screaming.... you started the launch sequence so let’s go. You can't stop once you start! Still Looking is.... "Still Waiting".

Average age of SL providers is about 20-25. You are at the top of my bucket list. We're going to have so much fun, the guy who pulls me off of you is going to be King of England! (God I love that line! LOL)

[Ed Highlight]

Originally Posted by Cpalmson

From a guy's perspective-- even after doing countless hours of research, there comes a point when the little head starts thinking for the big head. This is especially the case when a guy is horny, has a small window of opportunity to play, and either can't find exactly what he is looking for or down to option C on the list. So yes, in some instances it comes down to she looks okay, she has good reviews, she's got a pulse and she can see me in 2 hours or less.

CPalm, this may be true in some cases but Sandra Dee is not an Option C kind of lady and you won't get her on short notice or with a small window of opportunity. The information is out there to make a long range, advanced plan/decision. If your expectations don't match your experience, it is likely that you didn't do your homework.... That's what I think Sandra is saying.

And sometimes guys are just trying to compile a list/resume of well-reviewed, high profile ladies (to see what all the fuss is about) and not necessarily as interested in the experience as they are in the numbers.....That's all.

What do I know??...I'm blinded by a great set of cans!!

[joesmo888]

well I am totally new to this type of thing and it might not be so easy for a newbie to pick the right person.. but if someone isn't new to it then yeah they might just want to try something else with someone they typically don't go for.

I don't think you should take it personally at all.

[loboy]

To add to what I said earlier I do tend to research a lot on someone before I decide to contact a girl because usually once I contact them then I feel bad if I don't go through with it and meet them...Even though it seems like it's just the little guy doing the thinking, for me I'd rather have the experience be a pleasant one rather than just the bang, but I'm still new so still experiencing what it is that I like and such...

[Eva21]

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[loboy]

Originally Posted by Eva21

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Directed at me?

[wildwooly1]

Lets face it there are different strokes for different folks
some guys are here for conquest and to see as many ladies they can..others are into hard bodies and good looks and some are in it for the woman theirselves and just enjoy being with a intelligent funny lady and then there are some looking for the whole package.
So its not so much them not reading up on the lady - its what they are after -
a guy looking for young hard bodies is not going to appreciate the wisdom and talent of an mature provider but he sees all these reviews of guys that do and thinks wow she must be something special....well usually she is but those guys don't know what to appreciate ..they think its all about looks and body.

[124816]

Ms Dee In a world where exaggeration seems to be the norm your self deprecating comments are refreshing

HOWEVER if your show case is truly representative of your current physique then I must strongly protest your conclusions.

The vast majority of providers half your age would kill for your physical appearance.

From the tone of your writing they should also be incredibly envious of your intelligence and maturity.

Originally Posted by Sandra Dee

This is an old topic I once wrote about but would like to revisit it again.
I'm 48yrs old, not the most beautiful woman, but very attractive non the less; great body for my age, but there are much better younger bodies than mine; good skill set, though many other women out there that could probably put my deep throat to shame. I'm smart, funny...even charming, but realize charm to one man may not be to another. I have magic with some clients, and then sometimes nothing with others. Why is that?
'That is' because I'm uniquely what a certain niche of men want. To them it's magic...to the others, they just don't get it...they don't get me. They didn't do their research before they chose me. We don't choose our clients, they choose us, and hopefully they did their research so that they chose wisely. My website is loaded with stuff about me to help them decide if I'm what they want, but sometimes I think they ignore it and book me anyway. Why is that? Why would they waste their time and money?

[Valerie]

I really have nothing to contribute to this thread but just wanted to say that I've heard LOVELY things about you Sandra from numerous clients ...That is all...