is it just me? or am I being a PARANOID bitc#? lol

[Luke Skywalker]

I put a lot of info on my P411 profile, and when I send my screening info I ask that providers read it. I never ask anything about BCD activities, I make assumptions from the reviews , and take a chance. I don't find is tasteful to ask, may be this is just me, but I treat the girls like princesses from the first contact throughout. If it doesn't works out, so be it. To date it has worked for me.

[Sophia Dane3.0]

Originally Posted by CoHorn

So if I asked if you would dress like Little Bo Peep, spread peanut butter on me, and sing Gangnam style, it would be okay if I asked tastefully?

Mmmmmmmmm peanut butter! You better send more details through p411 messaging! I can lip sink Gangam Style and do the horse trot but I am still practicing. Give me time soldier!

Originally Posted by SweetMelody

It's never really a good idea to send messages about BCD activities. The communication may be interpretted as an offering of services-NOT good, even in pm's - Just one gal's opinion.

I agree for the most part, but for those who still feel a need to ask because they have had a bad past experience, I think there is a discreet way to go about it. Asking "Are the activities listed on your p411 accurate?" as opposed to "Do you do X,Y, and Z?" is a big difference. I answer the second question with "Please refer to my P411 profile or reviews.".

Originally Posted by luiz7667

I put a lot of info on my P411 profile, and when I send my screening info I ask that providers read it. I never ask anything about BCD activities,

I think that is a perfect idea. That's a great way to express your needs and for a lady to decide if she can fulfill all expectations. I always look over profile details but not everyone fills them out completely.

[MasterBaiter1996]

I have never asked any graphic questions. I look at the ladies profiles and P411 and go from there. The meeting has to be comfortable for both parties. If a lady did not feel comfortable with me, I would be fine with her telling me so and I would gladly move on.

[ManSlut]

Originally Posted by SweetMelody

hmmm. Thanks. I had no idea that that made guys uncomfortable. I always ask what they're driving so I can watch for them from my patio and they could see me. I figured it would draw less attention than him wandering around, looking lost.

SweetMelody, if I am seeing a well established, reviewed provider, asking me what I'm driving will not break the deal, but occasionally I delve into BP or ladies who are new with no background info and that question is a "do not pass go or you may go directly to jail or get robbed."

I appreciate the assistance to the door, but I wear Big Boy Pants now and can read building #'s, apt #'s, curb & house #'s.

[SweetMelody]

Originally Posted by ManSlut

SweetMelody, if I am seeing a well established, reviewed provider, asking me what I'm driving will not break the deal, but occasionally I delve into BP or ladies who are new with no background info and that question is a "do not pass go or you may go directly to jail or get robbed."

I appreciate the assistance to the door, but I wear Big Boy Pants now and can read building #'s, apt #'s, curb & house #'s.

I hear ya, Manslut. But, sometimes, when a gentleman is approaching a much anticipated rendezvous, he may not be thinking with the proper head, lol. I've had gentlemen look right at me and wave and still walk up to the wrong building. I don't love the sweethearts any less for it.

[boomvang]

[QUOTE=Sophia Dane;1052157241]Great question! I think as long as you ask tastefully and well in advance then it's not a red flag type issue for me and yes, I prefer communication like that to go through p411 pm. However, it does make me nervous when someone waits until an hour or so before the appointment to ask when they made the appointment a few days in advance. For me it stirs a little paranoia.

How would "tastefully" ask about TUMA? I'M JUST PLAYING LADIES.

[Sophia Dane3.0]

Um......You got me! LOL. In that instance I think it's best to make that a clear "expectation" on your profile details and do some thorough research.

[boomvang]

I have JOKINGLY threatened to print the "Things in enjoyed in private" and tape it to my headboard.

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by SweetMelody

I hear ya, Manslut. But, sometimes, when a gentleman is approaching a much anticipated rendezvous, he may not be thinking with the proper head, lol. I've had gentlemen look right at me and wave and still walk up to the wrong building. I don't love the sweethearts any less for it.

We get distracted easy ... Hey look a butterfly ... Laundry is done ... Where is that taint ... Got to eat some breakfast ...

[mansfield]

Originally Posted by SweetMelody

It's never really a good idea to send messages about BCD activities. The communication may be interpretted as an offering of services-NOT good, even in pm's - Just one gal's opinion.

So after reading this thread I pulled up my P411 "favorites" list and out of 15 providers on that list, 9 of their profiles had some version or another of "ask for details, PM for special requests, tell me about your fantasies" etc.

Looked through some recent ads here and see a lot of the same, "ask about this or that, special request yadda yadda".

Yet here in this thread I'm reading that it's a complete no-no and oh my gosh, only a newbie would do such a thing!

My point is, I can see why a guy would think it's OK since it's written all over the place that it's perfectly fine for so many people.

On occasion I have asked for this or that, and I will continue to do so (tactfully and only in P411 messages after I've had some basic screening, not ECCIE PM or phone text). If a provider chooses not to respond to those questions that's fine, but asking is, to me, much better than going on hope and wishful thinking that some subtle hint will be picked up and understood.

And Sophia Dane has a very good point, this stuff should be in great detail in one's P411 profile, both sides. Problem I've run into though is not many providers seem to actually read it.

[HoneyRose]

Originally Posted by CoHorn

So if I asked if you would dress like Little Bo Peep, spread peanut butter on me, and sing Gangnam style, it would be okay if I asked tastefully?

Little Bo Peep was my Halloween costume Anyone who met me at the Halloween party, or who visited me in October was greeted by LBP. I may toss it into the mix of lingerie I normally entertain in.
Here are the pictures:http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?...highlight=peep

[giasanto38ddd]

I ask what kind of car will be in the drive way for outcalls Im terrible with directions and it makes it easier once on your street so I dont look lost and can be discrete. I ask what kind of car your in when you are coing to see me but not till your pulling in just so I can make sure your by yourself and that im opening my gate fr you. On another note the question that made me nervous was could we do greek. In case everyone does not know certain code words have been added in courts to be able to use for conviction of illegal activities. Me answering that could have resulted in me getting in trouble" (which i dont want) The answer to that question is easily answered throuogh a simple click of a button.

[ilickit]

You're good Gia. He screwed up.
One post stated that post p411 screening, questions re: services were ok. I agree and disagree. If I had questions about service, I would ask her via p411 pm, if service questions would be ok. And I'd certainly ask well ahead of time. Gia acted professionally.

[giasanto38ddd]

Awww thanks lickit