Bolstered by my second glass of red wine, I will dive into this one ;-)
First of all, for many women (including myself), it IS NOT always 'business all the time'. Sometimes, it is - and it really isn't anyone's fault. Sometimes there isn't that chemistry or spark, or a bad case of nerves for one or the other. I recently had a client who I found very attractive, he was very kind but I felt I failed him because his day job was one of my favorite fetishes - and I was intimidated. Dumb, right?
One thing that I strongly feel can't be underestimated when a man and woman meet, is the role of pheromones. Scientific research states that it is a HUGE factor in attraction. We could literally be looking at someone who is our physical ideal and if they don't 'smell' right to us, then it is difficult to generate that strong sense of attraction. OTOH, I have met men that were not 'my type' physically - but, that 'smell' thing kicked in (I usually notice it in their skin/breath, fyi) and I am dumbstruck with desire. Same applies for men in and out of the hobby.
We all have our 'type' that would turn our head if we were walking through a mall, in a restaurant or passing on the street. Maybe it is a color of eyes, freckles, hair color and so on. Maybe there is a fixation on someone who reminds us of our 'first love'.
I personally like men who have eyes that 'sparkle' when they smile or talk. I LOVE dimples to the point of embarrassing myself, I LOVE blue eyes and I can trace those preferences back to a place in time.
If a client and I have that hormonal-based + smell + quirky attraction to a feature chemistry then it is more than just 'business only'. When I was 30, I knew this to be true, but now, at 50, I KNOW this a part of my sexuality and arousal.
As a side note *and yes, then I will go back to my corner
* - I am an actress/singer and one of the biggest motivations I have for getting on stage and baring my soul and ass to the wind, is that my audience feel I am performing for them. Individually. I want each person to feel I am standing in front of them while I pour out my song or lines. I want them to be moved, motivated, stirred from within because my focus was on them and something I did resonated in their soul. That is a GREAT thing - not a bad thing. So, if you diminish what a provider does by considering it all 'acting' - I ask you to consider why you go see a film or musical? Do you REALLY think porn actresses make those same noises at home w/ their BF? uh...no.
If a provider is an actress then it is because we WANT you to feel special and that you are the focus of our attention. It is a gift we give - not a form of hype.
There is a good thread re: this on the Main Discussion board, fyi...
Ok...I hope this made sense. Night fellas!
~A~
All work and, well, mostly play:)
