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Originally Posted by kanadakane12
... where is the common respect of thanks but no thanks....
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Kana,
I know most of your post was a rant. That's great, for that's part of the purpose of these forums. Air out your thoughts and feelings and let those will similar interests and values help you sort them out. I'm glad you felt the liberty to do so. From my perspective, and I hope from yours, you're getting some great advice.
It remains one of the great tragedy's of society that the
common idiot is allowed to play in the same streets where you travel. Make a comment or two such as yours and they come out of the woodwork to demonstrate that Mum never taught them the language of common decency. You will just have to learn to smile at--and ignore--these poster children for ignorance.
The truth is, there is no "body standard" in the hobby or elsewhere in our culture. We have groups who wish to say there was, even work to propagate that, but in the end no such standard exists. Our individual worth lies outside of our outer shell. As you've heard remarked in previous posts, great attitude, humble spirit, good communication skills, and a focus on your individual strengths should form the basis of your self worth.
It is true that there will be some who prefer a different body style. And we're glad because our own preferences make us unique. But it is equally true that not everyone shares those preferences--even in this hobby. The key, again, is to understand those as preferences and not standards upon which to be judged.
Don't judge the ladies herein based on the one vile creature you experienced. Usually, those types have horribly low self images themselves and project that to you in order to lift themselves up. It is sport of the most detestable kind and behavior fit for grammar school children. Common decency forms the backbone of a society and it forms the backbone of these forums.
And don't judge the men who judge you. They operate from a platform of great intellectual deficit. Their ignorance probably is as repulsive to most ladies as they say differing body styles are to them.
As someone suggested earlier--to my applause--men have their own way of screening. Largely, it is silent. I don't discuss my techniques and requirements with anyone. We all have our bucket lists, yes. We also have our DNS lists. Most ladies would be surprised who is--and who isn't--on our lists.
Keep your head up. Get involved around here and have lots of fun. Ignore the cretins and hang out with the freer, happier spirits. You'll do great. We're glad you're here.
All the best,
JDN
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So sorry to burst that fantasy, but Grey's Anatomy is about as realistic as Grimm's Fairy tales. 
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