Age old question

[pickupkid]

So could you fall for a provider? I f so why?

[proudoftexas]

I hate to tell you this, but I can almost feel the collective board's eyeballs rolling when I saw this post.

But maybe we'll get some good discussion out of it. Not my expectation, but you never know.

Could you? Have you?

[Guest022718]

Originally Posted by pickupkid

So could you fall for a provider?

ummmmm.......yes

Originally Posted by pickupkid

I f so why?

For the same reason you can get addicted to crack. Brief, intense high. A strong desire to repeat the experience.

What you should have asked:

Originally Posted by pickupkid

Is this a good idea?

Hell, no. Neither is the crack, BTW.

[pickupkid]

ok ... I'll broaden ....first there is the idea of all the men she has been with..second will you allow her to continue working. JEALOUSY, Do you pay for it? what about her feelings...does she care about you?
What are the providers feeling about falling in love with a client?

[pyramider]

Taint makes men tipsy. Tipsy tards let the little head do more thincking and decision making ... I hope one can see where this all leads.

[proudoftexas]

Are you falling in love with a provider, pickupkid?

You can tell us. Your secret is safe here.

[pickupkid]

no

[Guest121613]

I have accepted that I have affection for some providers, one in particular, and consider them to be friend and vica versa. But business for her, or family for me always supercedes our friendship, so the reality is a line needs to exist.

[justin_pitt]

don't think so....

[Cpalmson]

I guess anyone can fall anyone else. There are a myriad of reasons why. There have been a few providers that I just love being with for various reasons, but I've never "fallen" for one-- a variety of reasons. In the abstract, I think most guys would like the idea of being with a hot looking lady who is exciting in bed, but for most, the realization kicks in that is just won't work.

As for the second part of your question, I don't think the number of men she has been with should be an issue. After all, most of us guys have been with multiple women, so it would be kinda hypocritical to "judge" her by the number of men she slept with. Allowing her to continue working, that is a sticky subject. I think it depends on the type of relationship. If it is permanent/long term, then I think quitting should be on the table. If it is an open relationship, then whatever is comfortable for both parties. As for paying for it, of course not. When two people "commit" to a relationship, there is no paying for it. Well, I hope she cares about you; otherwise, she's not going to get into the relationship. That also answers the question about her feelings.

[TheJudge69]

You should ask Nick11796. He married an escort and he has made several posts on ECCIE sharing his frustrations because she has trouble leaving her former life behind her or because they bump into her clients out in public. I still think she is soooo HOT!!!

In my opinion, providers have every right to be loved. They are people too with real feelings. It seems like many hobbyists fall for some provider. Providing an illusion is what good providers do best. The big question is does the provider and hobbyist fall for each other. If so, the real issues are (1) can you accept her lifestyle and/or (2) does she want to retire and have a more conventional lifestyle. In any case, one partner needs to make some sort of sacrifice. If that is acceptable, then the couple may have a chance. However, the having the cake and eating it too scenario will not work. Someone always gets hurt.

Ok.. court is now adjourned.

[Willen]

Let's start with the fact that Pickupkid has been around the block more than once, i.e. more than most of us. So, when he asks this question, I assume it's based on way more than "She blew the hell out of me, and says she really likes me."

I am certain that some providers choose to leave the hobby for their own reasons, i.e. they feel they have some choice. Sometimes they leave because they have found someone they feel fulfills them, and I mean physically but most especially more than physically. PUK, none of us can help you with this. The odds are against the success of your relationship, but who can say you have no chance. You've been around. Trust your instincts, but also the advice of those on the board in whom you have confidence.

Good luck!!

Will

[pickupkid]

I'm sorry you think this is personal ..it is not ..I ;am not .

[Doris day]

I dont think its possible to have a relationship with a provider/client. I decided I was done with relationships when I started doing this work. If I started dating someone that didnt know what I did, I would always be afraid of them finding out. That would be a huge stress! And if i dated someone that did know, I dont think I could respect him, especially if we lived together and the money I made was counted on to support us. Their has been a few that i thought to myself, If only we met under different circumstances, but then I come back to reality lol. If those things works for others, great! This is just my opinion.

[wildwooly1]

depends on how good of blowjob she gives..lmao
I fall in love every time I get one!