Question for the Bi men interested in meeting other Bi men

[Mature Companion]

Given that the interaction between two (bi) men is more of a taboo to some and yet a wanton desire for others. I wanted to post this in the Realm forum and IF Elizabeth Whispers feels compelled to sticky it. All the better.


My question is for those Bi men who desire the pleasure of another man.

How would you feel if you had a thread dedicated solely for the purpose of a roll call of sorts (or knowing) which other men were willing to accept PM's or any other form of contact, from other men who are seeking said M/M interaction? Example: (I'm JoeBlow, I'm a bi guy in X city, seeking a bi guy, of X age, race who's into some M/M fun. PM's welcome.)
AND how would you Bi men feel about lady offering up her incall to you two men to discreet use for your pleasure?

This hobby is not just about men seeking women. This hobby is made up of all types of wanton desires from all sexes. And sometimes, someone desires another of the same sex. Yet there's no thread/forum of this kind.
I know a few BI men who would like to see such a thread/forum here in the Realm.


NOW, I also get that even though folks are anonymous behind handles to most. They're not so much to others. And it's understandable if they hesitate in posting in such a thread, for fear of being judged. So the thread would be away for then to KNOW which are okay to contact.

Your thoughts?

[badbottom]

Given that there are definitely providers out there who want nothing to do with bi men, and the social stigma that goes along with it, I see it as a not quite so bad version of the BBFS debate. On the other hand, it would be great for men interested in those types of encounters to have a discreet place to meet.
Another issue I see is that for providers, it on one hand can get them some extra income without nearly the work, but it could also cut into their bottom line, depending on the rental fees for the room and how often they get booked. Hotel rooms are fairly inexpensive, though the convenience of being able to meet anytime rather than deal with checkin/checkout, having your name on file, etc would be some selling points.

I think it would be better for providers to list that they are offering the service of providing a safe meeting place, and contact be made between the provider and the individual men. There are already plenty of places for men to get into contact with each other. Perhaps there could be a code word that men could use on those other sites that would let them know they are comfortable meeting at a providers location. Kind of like "Friend of Bill" for alcoholics or "Friend of Dorothy" for the gay community.

Don't get me wrong, I see nothing wrong with bi men finding opportunities to get together, and wholeheartedly support them and the ladies in assisting them in getting their needs met. I have crossed swords more than once in my life.

In a provider setting however, it might be better to offer MMF and leave it at that, or like I said have a list of providers willing to offer this service.

Relevant video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pi7gwX7rjOw
Yeah yeah, ye-ye-yeah yeah!

[ElisabethWhispers]

Wicked Milf,

It's a great idea but I'm not fond of the idea of making a sticky of it. Or really even having a list.

Just to backtrack a little bit, one of the reasons why we've decided to not have a list of guys accused of BBFS is because of the slippery slope aspect to it. Women getting mad at men and posting something untrue. Oh, there are a lot of reasons why not.

Same with this. Although this is Another Realm and there are ECCIE members such as badbottom who are fine with saying, "Hey, I like a little cock on occasion", it's still something that most men won't admit to.

Frankly, I've been surprised when some of my friends have told me that they wouldn't have sex with a bi guy. But I shouldn't be TOO surprised since I believe that I was once that way myself!

Personally, like yourself, I find two men together to be absolutely HOT HOT HOT. But many, if not most, are not open in the same way that we are.

I'm open to some debate, though. I'm always looking for unique ways to make this a better forum for all.

Hugs,
Elisabeth

[rickyjames]

Fuck that! This isn't a fag site. Create a new website for that gay shit!

[ElisabethWhispers]

Originally Posted by rickyjames

Fuck that! This isn't a fag site. Create a new website for that gay shit!

Welcome to Another Realm! This is a forum where all alternative ideas are welcomed and tolerated. In fact, most of us LOVE interesting ideas and thoughts. The wilder the better.

But using the term "fag" is unpleasant if used in a derogatory fashion and will not be tolerated in this forum.

I'd love to see you post and contribute to this forum more frequently. But please be accepting of others ideas and desires.

Thanks,
Elisabeth

[Guest040113-02]

Originally Posted by rickyjames

Fuck that! This isn't a fag site. Create a new website for that gay shit!

I was going to reply, but then realized that rickyjames simply needs to take his own advice. Could not have said it better myself.

Originally Posted by rickyjames

What is up with the name calling around here? Every single forum and topic gets to this point. Get back in the shallow end where you belong and shut the fuck up if you don't have anything nice to say to anyone. Your own profile on here says, "you treat people as they treat you" and that you don't like "rude people". Perhaps you should change that to, "I'm a bitch and will treat people as i like whether they deserve it or not" since I'm pretty sure calling someone a troll is far removed from the golden rule.

This is a public discussion board where people with various interests come together to discuss sex and escorts! It's not a place to go to crack on others with different interests just to make you feel better about yourself.

By the way... try to expand your small brain enough to see outside of your distorted realm of reality and realize there are tons of people in the world that have a lot of varied interests.

http://eccie.net/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=1559181

[AlexOfHouston]

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Wicked Milf,

It's a great idea but I'm not fond of the idea of making a sticky of it. Or really even having a list.

Just to backtrack a little bit, one of the reasons why we've decided to not have a list of guys accused of BBFS is because of the slippery slope aspect to it. Women getting mad at men and posting something untrue. Oh, there are a lot of reasons why not.

Same with this. Although this is Another Realm and there are ECCIE members such as badbottom who are fine with saying, "Hey, I like a little cock on occasion", it's still something that most men won't admit to.

Frankly, I've been surprised when some of my friends have told me that they wouldn't have sex with a bi guy. But I shouldn't be TOO surprised since I believe that I was once that way myself!

Personally, like yourself, I find two men together to be absolutely HOT HOT HOT. But many, if not most, are not open in the same way that we are.

I'm open to some debate, though. I'm always looking for unique ways to make this a better forum for all.

Hugs,
Elisabeth

Its too bad that not enough guy are out in the open about this. I have always enjoyed watching MM or participating in a MMF. For some reason a lot of folks just aren't too fond of this. I have always believed that the only way to explore my sexuality is to have no prejudice against anyone or any fetish.

We are all different people and are bound to like different things. The key is to respect that fact and we can all get along. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean everyone else will agree with you.

[captnzen]

Since forced bi is an exciting aspect of my jones for verbal humiliation...it usually leads to chats w/dommes & providers (either before or afterwards) about the prevalence of that as a hot button issue (whether in fantasy or otherwise) for hobbyists....it seems it's a not uncommon topic/source of interest out there...

[hookem69horns]

I can't say for certain that I'd do the guy-guy thing but I definitely want a guy-guy-girl or guy-girl-guy, and I'd definitely check my inhibitions in at the front door, and am open to playing with him ... I, for some reason, just prefer having a sexy lady in bed with us, kinda directing the play ... and I'd definitely enjoy being dominated by a woman and her man!

As to the Thread itself ... my concern would be what has already been said, how would other providers react to me if I was actively and openly seeking a bi experience ... my first love is all the sexy ladies in DFW ... hope that makes sense!

And Alex ... next time I'm headed to Houston I would love to have you get one of your guys together, and the three of us can enjoy each others company!

[Mature Companion]

This thread wasn't meant to offend anyone. I was asked my opinion on the topic and then I offered to put forth the question to the masses on their behalf.
Seems there are some folks who would be offended by it. And it seems that some folks are a bit judgmental when it comes to the BI men.
But it's okay for all the hetero's to have threads/forums dedicated for there pleasures.

Alex,
I agree with you.
However, sadly many folks aren't as accepting of those who enjoy others of the same sex. Unless it's 2 women. (shaking head).

I'll just start a yahoo group strictly for screened hobbyists seeking other bi men.

Originally Posted by AlexOfHouston

Its too bad that not enough guy are out in the open about this. I have always enjoyed watching MM or participating in a MMF. For some reason a lot of folks just aren't too fond of this. I have always believed that the only way to explore my sexuality is to have no prejudice against anyone or any fetish.

We are all different people and are bound to like different things. The key is to respect that fact and we can all get along. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean everyone else will agree with you.

[AlexOfHouston]

Originally Posted by Wicked Milf

Alex,
I agree with you.
However, sadly many folks aren't as accepting of those who enjoy others of the same sex. Unless it's 2 women. (shaking head).

I'll just start a yahoo group strictly for screened hobbyists seeking other bi men.

I guess its just one of those things that's a double standard. I've never been into other women, but like I previously stated bi men just turn me on.

This is the Another Realm people shouldn't be offended by what they find here. I mean this is an alternative realm for those who seek out of the norm fetishes or encounters.

[Mojojo]

Originally Posted by AlexOfHouston

This is the Another Realm people shouldn't be offended by what they find here. I mean this is an alternative realm for those who seek out of the norm fetishes or encounters.

I've always thought that what the hobby was about in general. There are things in this forum which don't interest me (MMF being one) but most of the stuff in here makes very good read. Alex you hit it right on the head.....now you get to rub it

[ElisabethWhispers]

Originally Posted by AlexOfHouston

I guess its just one of those things that's a double standard. I've never been into other women, but like I previously stated bi men just turn me on.

This is the Another Realm people shouldn't be offended by what they find here. I mean this is an alternative realm for those who seek out of the norm fetishes or encounters.

Just one person made a negative comment but I'm sure others were thinking of it. Actually, others are more open than before. A topic like this on ASPD would have had guys throwing tomatoes and God know what verbal garbage at us for even thinking such a thing!

Yes, it's a double standard but hopefully, in time, it'll get better. On ECCIE, thankfully it already has!

Since I believe that there are guys who are basically straight who like to play around with men on occasion, often I just don't think of that as gay at all. Just alternatively inclined!!!

But to segue a little bit, people are still getting killed for being gay all of the time. If you know anyone, especially a young person, who is gay and needs some support, here is a group that seems to know what they're doing:

http://www.itgetsbetter.org/

If I remember right, it's a group started by Dan Savage (Savage Love) and it's a support group of sorts for a portion of this population that needs it.

Hugs,
Elisabeth

[ElisabethWhispers]

Closed at the OP's request. If you reconsider and wish for this thread, which is a good one, to be reopened, just let me know!

EW