what if.....and what will you guys do???

[ivan3923]

Hello my fellow hobbyist:
I am not sure if thats a right place to ask this question, but i really need some tips for situation like this.
On my last review, i mentioned a situation which was, if you set up an appointment with a provider, and she also sent you her pics of her and everything seems fine before you went to her
Once you arrived, when the moment she opens the door and all the sudden you want to change your mind, what you guys will do to escape from that moment???
I mean what you guys will say to the provider??? or you just like me too chicken to do anything and still go into the session even you already know in your heart that the session is going to be bad
I usually asked a lot questions before i go to a provider, some of them are patient enough to answer me, but most of them give me a very bad attitude (i dont blame them, they might think i am cop), for my last two reviews, i had this situation that i want to leave the moment when the provider opened the door, but i dont know what to do (one hand i dont want hurt their feelings, the other being i was too chicken to say anything), that is why i want seek for some helps from you guys, what will you do if you want call off the deal but you already at the door and the provider already sees you???
thanks

[Roger.Smith]

Originally Posted by ivan3923

Hello my fellow hobbyist:
I am not sure if thats a right place to ask this question, but i really need some tips for situation like this.
On my last review, i mentioned a situation which was, if you set up an appointment with a provider, and she also sent you her pics of her and everything seems fine before you went to her
Once you arrived, when the moment she opens the door and all the sudden you want to change your mind, what you guys will do to escape from that moment???
I mean what you guys will say to the provider??? or you just like me too chicken to do anything and still go into the session even you already know in your heart that the session is going to be bad
I usually asked a lot questions before i go to a provider, some of them are patient enough to answer me, but most of them give me a very bad attitude (i dont blame them, they might think i am cop), for my last two reviews, i had this situation that i want to leave the moment when the provider opened the door, but i dont know what to do (one hand i dont want hurt their feelings, the other being i was too chicken to say anything), that is why i want seek for some helps from you guys, what will you do if you want call off the deal but you already at the door and the provider already sees you???
thanks

Normally, I say walk away (if the pics were misleading or fake). In this case you made all the arrangements and she sent you pics. I'm normally against cancelation fees, but you've used up a large portion of the lady's time after did everything right. In your case I would offer compensation and leave.

Flakes and timewasters are annoying.

[ivan3923]

ya...thats what i did for 2 times in a row (i didnt leave, i still go in for the session), but in my mind i already know the session is going to be bad

[harry]

Why do you want leave? Are her photos misleading or inaccurate? Is the incall a mess or
appears unsafe? Or do you just get cold feet? You need to tell us a little more about why you suddenly don't want to go through with the session before we can offer any meaningful advice.

[oldbutstillgoing]

If she has done everything correctly, pictures are accurate or at least a fair image of her, incall is clean and safe, etc, you owe her a session fee. Feel free to walk away at any time. You, like her, have the right to change your mind at any time. You don't even need to have a good reason.

But, just like we get mad when a provider wastes our time, if you book her and show up at her door, and she does everything right, she needs to be paid. If there is something she could do different that might have made you stay, you might talk to her about it. If not then, then a PM later.

[Kendall4U]

You have the right to leave, just as we have the right to end a session if we don't feel right about it. I'd rather be safe than sorry.

[lda523287]

Originally Posted by harry

Why do you want leave? Are her photos misleading or inaccurate? Is the incall a mess or
appears unsafe? Or do you just get cold feet? You need to tell us a little more about why you suddenly don't want to go through with the session before we can offer any meaningful advice.

I think harry asked some good questions. The way it's been described I'd pay her for the session, it appears she didn't do anything wrong. As for as staying or leaving, I still see no reason for leaving. However, maybe with answers to harry's questions that may change.

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by ivan3923

... but in my mind i already know the session is going to be bad

Then that is on you, and not the lady. If there is an issue with the lady then you might want to mention it.

[MobyDick100]

Originally Posted by Kendall4U

You have the right to leave, just as we have the right to end a session if we don't feel right about it. I'd rather be safe than sorry.

Yes, Yes, Yes. Amen Kendall! Even though you are a provider you understand that you can't have it both ways. If you as a provider have the right to end a session, then fairness and consistency demands that you extend that right to the hobbyist as well. Yes, you allocated a time slot, but so did the hobbyist who also is allocating 250 bucks.

How demeaning I think it would be for a provider to be intimate with a guy they sense does not really want to be there. Likewise, I don't want a disappointing session with a reluctant provider. That is demeaning to me. If a provider finds me to be just too old, ugly, creepy or has bad vibes or safety concerns, by all means I want her to just say no. I'm doing quite all right....I will survive.

[OldGrump]

If it is a safety issue, leave. If you aren't as impressed with her as you were in the first place, pay, stay and see how it goes. You'd be surprised how hot a lady can appear to you once you get to know her a little and go beyond the surface.

[Jewish Lawyer]

Originally Posted by ivan3923

Hello my fellow hobbyist:
I am not sure if thats a right place to ask this question, but i really need some tips for situation like this.
On my last review, i mentioned a situation which was, if you set up an appointment with a provider, and she also sent you her pics of her and everything seems fine before you went to her
Once you arrived, when the moment she opens the door and all the sudden you want to change your mind, what you guys will do to escape from that moment???
I mean what you guys will say to the provider??? or you just like me too chicken to do anything and still go into the session even you already know in your heart that the session is going to be bad
I usually asked a lot questions before i go to a provider, some of them are patient enough to answer me, but most of them give me a very bad attitude (i dont blame them, they might think i am cop), for my last two reviews, i had this situation that i want to leave the moment when the provider opened the door, but i dont know what to do (one hand i dont want hurt their feelings, the other being i was too chicken to say anything), that is why i want seek for some helps from you guys, what will you do if you want call off the deal but you already at the door and the provider already sees you???
thanks

I would pay 3/4 of the fee if she looked like the photos and the incall was clean. She hasn't done anything wrong, but she doesn't have to break any laws, or have sex, either. I can understand why you just went through with it, but I don't think a bad review would be fair if she tries hard, because I don't see where she is at fault.

[Guest110416]

I understand you do not want to cause friction and reputation is everything in the hobby world, but if the situation is that you have changed your mind and want to leave, I would explain that to her, the best way possible, pay her at least half if not the whole session fee as she did get all ready for you and she could have seen another hobbyist in that time slot but had to turn them down for you (that is what she will say anyway).

The asking of questions is totally within your right to do, depending on the questions you are asking and/or how well your reputation is, e.g., do you have a p411 account, if so, how many oks?

[Guest102215]

Stay the fuck away from bp Ivan

[ck1942]

Assuming it is not a safety/security issue, or the provider knows your s.o., perhaps

tell her your back hurts and if she could massage your back a bit, you'd absolutely love that.

You'll be face down, so you don't have to look at her. But y'all can have some convo and perhaps you will feel better about doing a "flip" and maybe accepting a bj.

Been there, done that.

[ftango4]

I Have walked many times. Too many scenarios to write up. As mentioned above, depends on what the issue is.

Eg.,If it's not the lady in the picture she be better be younger, weigh less and be better looking. Other wise it's "Gosh maam I don't think I went to the right place. Sorry big mixup."
Understand that many ladies don't show face or use "facsimiles" for discretion. No problem.

Sometimes it's the incall. I think I know most areas of Dallas that are good and bad, but on occasion have stumbled into a bad complex, or spot managers or whatever does not smell right. I call the lady and tell her something came up. Being paged to the ER. Whatever. Just leave. Or you get to the door and the place is a mess or stinks or the lady can't stand-- Just say sorry this is not going to work and leave.

However as mentioned above, if is all is in order and you just change your mind when you hit the door, pay the lady and tell her you have a tummy ache or an emergency or whatever. Apologize and leave.