Good review vs. Bad review vs. Yes and No recommendation

[Guest082718]

Ok looking for input. When a lady and you have a good session, you should give her a good review with a yes.

But here is where things get complicated. When should you do a no recommendation. I know sometimes it sucks to have to say a lady didn't meet your expectation, but what criteria should get a no.

If a session isn't all you expected how should that be handled.

Also, is it a TOS violation to let a lady read your proposed ROS before posting if sent via email.

[BassCat]

To me if the girl trys to make me happy during the session I will give her a yes but in the private section I make it clear what the issues were if there were any. Such as old pics, or body odor etc. To be honest I dont like to leave any type of negative comment in a review because I know the ladies see them and I dont want to hurt anyones feelings but you have to be honest so the next guy knows what to expect. Ultimately that's what this board is about.

A lot of times if I have a session and its not great but the girl tried to make me happy I just wont review her. Lately I have been feeling like thats not fair to the next guy who might make a better decision should he know what I experienced. It kind of puts you in a bad place when you enjoyed yourself but say her pics were old. I mean you had a good time but she looked nothing like she did years ago when the pics were taken. I mean is it just a dick move to say "hey we had fun but she is fat now and looks nothing like she did when she took her profile pics". Part of me feels like yeah your being a dick that girl gave herself to you and this is how you repay her. Then part of me says 'why is she using pics that are years old that she knows damn well she looks nothing like" so you should warn the next guy so he at least knows what he is getting into.

I dont know its a no win situation for sure. I see guys who give no's strictly for the old pics alone. I cant do that if the girl tried to make a good session.

[Road Lizard]

Giving a 'Yes' on a review is fairly straightforward for me if she tries to please me, her attitude/IOP is good, none of the unmentionables are present, she matches up reasonably with previous reviews and yes, looks pretty much like her pics.

A 'No' is pretty straighforward also. If there is an element of danger, bad attitude, doesn't put any effort into the session, farts continuously, and yes, misrepresents herself in pics.

I'm not quite as forgiving as BC is about obviously outdated pics because her pics are a big reason why you contact her in the first place. She's putting that out there and it says 'this is what I look like and what you should expect' and if you show up and she has aged noticeably or much heavier than her pics, you were sold on a false pretense. It's deceptive and she should be held accountable because she's getting you to contact her based on a lie. Again, if she is reasonably close to her pics, it's still good. I don't expect her to look exactly like her glamour shots but I don't want to question if it's really her either.

[Moonchild]

If provider did her best in services and we just didn't click. I wouldn't necessarily call that a "no." I've read reviews where this was this case. I've shared time and it wasn't what I expected based on previous "yes" reviews. I just chalk it up to a bad day or a YMMV thing. I generally do not write a review for those.

So when reading reviews...yesses and no's don't hold a lot of weight with me. I just read for services provided and consistency. If a providers has several no's that are similar and frequent. Then I take that into consideration.

Sharing review with provider...I would ask what is the purpose? Especially if it will a "no" review? If a yes review, are you asking them to proof read and maybe edit? If so, would a person be open to editing it. I have done this before and always ask if they feel I should edit any parts. In this case I don't think it is a violation.

[aNameinGulfport]

A no has to be bad. Too bad to justify any amount of money.

If I am indifferent or there were issues outside of normal then no review.

I had a date that resulted in Mr. Happy going totally limp. First the AC was stuck on a bad temp. And then there was an explosion. OK, no a real explosion, just an idiot driving drunk in the parking lot. But the noise was disturbing to Mr Happy.

So how does one write a review that says "nothing happened but it ain't her fault other than choosing Motel Cheap" ?

[Road Lizard]

Name, I probably wouldn't write a review on that one because it really wasn't her fault other than location.

I missed something earlier, there's also a YMMV factor and/or chemistry also. I saw someone once, she was very pretty, did the best she could but we just didn't match up well so I didn't write a review. I couldn't say that she did anything wrong and at the same time, nothing was really right but she seemed good for other guys and I didn't want to mess that up because it really wasn't anyone's fault.

Stuff like that just happens and the woman shouldn't be penalized for it.

[JohnnyYanks]

Originally Posted by Mr Lickher Right

When should you do a no recommendation?

Short answer: when you can't honestly recommend your experience be repeated to another.

Now, YMMV informs us no two experiences will be identical. But, just like a YES recommendation doesn't guarantee a fellow monger will have a similar experience, neither does a NO recommendation mean a session with this provider will be awful.

It is YOUR (hopefully well-considered) opinion, based on what YOU just experienced.

I've not given any NO reviews. Mainly because I shop VERY carefully. I also buy longer sessions (less stress) with experienced providers who I've corresponded with quite a bit before our session. I also set session expectations differently than others. I think both of us feel like we "know" each other a bit beforehand which helps eliminate common miscommunication.

I've also had a couple of less than enthralling sessions I wouldn't want to repeat with providers I'd have no problem recommending. Oftentimes my session expectations differ from what I perceive the general population prefers. I wouldn't penalize a provider for my peculiarity. An honest, detailed, ROS is especially important for these examples.

Excellent topic, OP.

[Guest082718]

I see one thing that guys would give a no on are outdated pictures. Should you just say that in the description area since not everyone can see ROS.

I know a lot of guys want to be "nice" and no one wants drama, but remember a lady knows what she looks like presently and in her photos. Doesn't she have a responsibility to be honest?

Also, would a choice box in the review creation page be and option? Like accurate pics yes or no? If no there could be several additional options like "older than appears" heavier than appears, etc. And maybe a yes or no box on would you repeat.

J Yanks good suggestions on doing your homework ahead of time.

It seems as the criteria for no is you wouldn't wish that experience on anyone vs. she tried very hard, but we didn't mesh.

[beguilingvoice]

Don't put things to boost your ego or white knight for her. YMMV is always a possiblity. But if her last few reviews say CIM, I think she does CIM.

[Pmon]

For me, a No would have to be someone who completely misrepresented herself, tried to pull some shit, or made little or no effort. I've been with a number of ladies I'll never repeat with, but they were legit and tried their best. They just didn't have the skills or know how to be a good provider.

[JohnnyYanks]

Originally Posted by Pmon

... They just didn't have the skills or know how to be a good provider.

So you have no problem recommending this sort of provider to your fellow board members?

It seems to me a YES from you has zero value.

[Moonchild]

Yes and no have 0 value with me. I've had many visits with someone that has a no and I had the best time ever and vice versa.

[Pmon]

Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

So you have no problem recommending this sort of provider to your fellow board members?

It seems to me a YES from you has zero value.

You're assuming I review ladies who fall in to that category. Bad assumption. The ladies I give a YES to deserve it.

If I don't click with a legit provider, I won't do a review unless I feel the need to warn others of misrepresentation or bad behavior. I see no need to share a less than stellar experience when you or another gent might have the time of your life with her.

[Guest082718]

In fairness to all I think what should happen in the case of a bad session is as follows:

1. If, as Pmon suggests and there is misrepresentation or the girl tried to pull something, that IMO almost needs to go in alerts. If it was hounding for a tip, a constant I don't do that, there were things like bad hygiene, that's not an alert, but IMO would warrant a no review, and if a lady has these issues, she should be ready for such;

2. If the girl really tried, but didn't satisfy first things first, discuss with the provider. If possible, in person before leaving. You don't have to be a jerk about things, just politely let her know the session wasn't what you expected and WHY and be as specific as possible with her. Sometimes the lady just may be having a bad day. Plus, how can she do better if she doesn't know what to fix?

3. If the girl provided all the services advertised, and no one said anything about YMMV, her pics were accurate,and she tried to show you a good time, I suggest doing a yes, but then immediately edit the recommendation and say "Yes, but I won't repeat". And be specific as to why you didn't enjoy the session in the ROS. After all if you discussed your issues with the provider it's not like you have anything to hide from her if you followed suggestion 2.

4. Admit that not everyone will click. If that's the case it doesn't make either of you bad people. After all she may have had something about you that caused her to be less than enthusiastic, like you resembled an abusive ex, her deceased brother etc. (LADIES if there are issues like this please let us know when we arrive).

5. Was any of this your fault. Did you have bad breath? If so, don't expect much kissing. Did you try and cross a line she clearly says no to. Were you rude to her? Did you haggle and want a 3 hour session for a 1 hour price? Not saying any of this happened, but make sure you have clean hands first and foremost.

6. If after a thorough assessment, the lady warrants a no, give her one. Remember, you don't have to be a jerk about it. But honest reviews and open dialog are the key to making this board work. And also, I have seen a no review where someone said "yea same experience I had last week". Ok so you wouldn't speak up because you didn't want drama, but had you shared your experience you would have saved someone cash. How would you feel if the role was reversed.

I know it's a lot, but as I get answers to a thread I start I am going to summarize my thought and suggestions. I am by no means correct, and welcome additional thoughts. But IMO threads like this are to learn from.

At the end of the day

"All we really got is each other"

Danny Glover, Flight of the Intruder.

[SirWonderful1906]

Flight of the Intruder - I love that movie 😂😂😂