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Guest012211-3 · 03-17-2010, 04:52 PM

Ok, obviously I'm leaving in a few weeks to venture off into the RW, and I'm excited about dating for the first time in years. I've been a provider for 10 years and I've learned a thing or two BCD...

Now let's say I meet a special someone and decide to 'go all the way'...should I tone it down a bit at first? Would utilizing my special skills be too much or raise a red flag? I certainly wouldn't want someone wondering where I learned those moves, but I don't want to be a prude either.

Can a woman be too hot in bed in the real world??

Nitwitboy · 03-17-2010, 04:58 PM

No, but you should tell him about your past. Chances are, your new found cooking skills will buffer the shock. who knows, he might even tell you some things after your disclosure that you were not expecting. Waiting for the last week Nicole. Will not miss out on the experience.

Tony Patella · 03-17-2010, 05:13 PM

Skills are skills, and any man will appreciate them. The most likely assumptions would be that you enjoy sex and have a fair amount of experience.

Since you'll be offshore, why bother dredging up an irrelevant past. Some things are better left unsaid.

Guest100610-2 · 03-17-2010, 05:15 PM

I disagree, just because you are great in bed doens't mean that you were a slut.
Not everything needs to be told about your past...... If the escorting world is truley in your past. Leave it there.

Somethings are meant to be left unsaid. Thats just my thoughts. I say don't fake it. If your good you are good.... Blow his mind...... Nothing wrong with being great in bed.

elpocitopolloloco · 03-17-2010, 05:16 PM

Nicole,

I would love to give you some final, post-graduate lessons before you become a civilian.

However, to your question, you should not tone it down. Be who you are...if that SO brings the best out of you...that's great for both of you. If you blow his brain and his mind in the process, it will make him that much more loyal and strive to perform at his peak to get you to your peak.

If he becomes curious about the nature of how you acquired such prowess, I recommend having a copy of Tickle His Pickle or the Sex Bible lying around...or perhaps a couple of adult films that you like.

I would only unpack the luggage of your past when you feel that you can be that vulnerable and trust him enough to accept you as we do.

Stay beautiful,
Lp

PS. No, A 'real' woman can never ever ever ever be too hot in bed, or in the shower, or up against the wall, on a pole, on the kitchen table/counter, in a chair, at the pool, on the beach, in the mall, folding laundry, grocery shopping, yawning, walking the dog, combing her hair, getting the mail, going to school, texting in traffic (okay scratch that last one from the record.)

Guest012211-3 · 03-17-2010, 05:29 PM

Thanks everyone. I would never tell about my "past"...there is no benefit whatsoever, and I will even deny it if asked directly.

I'm so out of touch with civilian dating/sex..I guess some lucky fella is in for a great time, LOL.

ElisabethWhispers · 03-17-2010, 05:35 PM

As you're administering your sweet ways of love with your mouth, slowly look up at him and sweetly say, "If I'm doing anything wrong, please let me know. I just wish to make you happy". Be very soft and have a sincere and innocent look.

He won't know what hit him.

He'll love it. And you.

I would worry that these guys will fall in love with you so quickly that it might become a problem while dating. Sadly, I don't swing that way but I still find you alluring and I've never even met you!

He probably won't wonder how you know what to do. He'll just think that he's a lucky bastard to have found you. Hope this helps!

Elisabeth

Guest060812 · 03-17-2010, 05:54 PM

All I can think about is how lucky this future new boyfriend will be when you meet him. I think I hate the guy already......

berkleigh · 03-17-2010, 06:05 PM

Your "past" does not define YOU as a person.

If anything, take from this as a good experience and use it to your advantage.

IMO, somethings are better left unsaid...no ones business unless you volunteer it.

If I don't see you again before you leave...Take Care

cookie man · 03-17-2010, 06:08 PM

Nicole
I've wondered about this for you too.

This guy needed to tone it down a bit...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x6bJoQplOk0

Sometimes I wonder if a provider has sex withdrawal when they stop having sex on a daily basis.
Some lucky fella is going to be in for a great time all the way around. You should be careful not to break a lot of hearts.
You've got a lot going for you Nicole. Smart, sexy, confident, compassionate...an overall beautiful presence. It is possible for civilian ladies to be incredibly sexy and knowledgeable in bed. Surveys say waitstaffers and bartenders are usually the best in bed. It is a big plus. However out there in the relationship world where getting to know someone last more than an hour session, so many other factors come into play. Be yourself...be fun...be sexy and have a great life!

Guest060812 · 03-17-2010, 06:51 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8uMs...eature=related

Mister Tudball · 03-17-2010, 07:07 PM

I agree with Omaha, yes, you are too sexy. But then, you have to be yourself; who else you gonna be? Now just be aware that you may frighten some poor dudes off by overwhelming them. That's okay. Better to find out they can't handle all your sexiness early. No doubt, though, you'll find somebody who can. The fun will be on looking. All the best on your future endevors, darlin'.

Nitwitboy · 03-17-2010, 07:09 PM

With the right girl, the admission would not matter whatsoever. It makes no difference whatsoever. We pretend it does, but you have married men on this board and they stay married for kids, money, community status etc. Single as I am, if I fell in love and it was disclosed then I would absorb it and move on. What is really worse, cheating while in love or a past that includes escorting? I am trying to picture the woman I love rolling over in bed post orgasmic telling me she used to be an escort or my wife rolling over telling me that she is fucking someone else. I guess it all boils down to the emotion behind the fucking. Scenario - Nicole meets me and we have nothing in common as it pertains to the hobby - Hey Nitwitboy, I was an escort in my younger years. Or, Hey nitwitboy,, I am no longer in love with you and I am having an affair. Cheating is a betrayal and it hurts like hell, but a past as an escort does not necessitate a future of promiscuity and for me would be much easier then yet another failed relationship due to an affair. Especially if I was married. do not get me wrong guys, I am not judging married men on this board. I have never been married so I cannot pretend to comprehend why you hobby, my simple point is that i would rather Nicole tell me about her past and why she did what it took to make a life than hear about one single affair after we were married and that my wife was in love with another. Sex is easy, love is difficult.

Judge Smails · 03-17-2010, 07:16 PM

Interesting question. Of course the guy is going to be blown away ( pun fully intended) by certain skills and will immediately fall in love. I guess if he asks then or later where such skills were learned, then chances are he is a jerk and you get the benefit of knowing that before too much is invested.

I think it more likely that you might find a soulmate based on your ability to talk on any number of topics and your sense of humor

Good luck

iggy · 03-17-2010, 07:19 PM

My thought is let him take the lead BCD and you follow suit, You know the male likes to THINK he is in charge.

When you feel it is time is right KNOCK his socks off.

But what ever you do DO NOT tell him of your previous experience, most RW guys cant handle such news. If you care for the guy, save him the agony of deciding how he feels, about it, and you.

The Very Best to your new endeavor.

Iggy,