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fun.time.hobbyist · 04-02-2010, 11:14 AM

All,

Do you have any pointers on how to handle divorce? By hobbyist standards I'm a young pup. My wife and I have decided to split after 8 years together. It's been a loveless marriage for some time now. Without going into details it is an amicable spilt and one that is for best of both of us. Despite being relieved, I feel a large void. It's not like I hate this person, we just weren't compatible. In the end it just became to hard to put up the fake smile and pretend all is ok.

How do you fill the void of this life altering event? I don't even remember what it is like to be single. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer

hotlips_houlihan · 04-02-2010, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by fun.time.hobbyist

How do you fill the void of this life altering event? I don't even remember what it is like to be single. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer

First, you remind yourself that everything happens for a reason. Stop taking pity on yourself with the "I don't remember how to be single" thing. Embrace it. Because for the first time in 8 years you can actually do you-when you want, how you want. Then you get laid...a lot...by many beautiful women. Soon, you will find that the smile on your face is no longer a fake one. Not long after that you will remember what it's like to be single, and question why you were married for so long. And when the time is right, you will not be single anymore. But in the meantime, head up, pants down, dick hard.

Good luck!

Meg

Lauren Lane · 04-02-2010, 12:12 PM

You are a strong person with an amazing personality. It will be different at first because you will be solo at the hacienda. BUT, you can now come and go with no questions. You can talk freely on phone or internet with out prying ears. Heck you can have cereal for dinner in your lounge chair in front the the ball game wearing nothing but your boxers, AND NO ONE WILL COMPLAIN. No more forced trips to Hobby Lobby or Bed Bath & Beyond. No does my butt look big in these pants questions.

DUDE, embrace it! Luv Ya

Torito · 04-02-2010, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Lauren Lane

Heck you can have cereal for dinner in your lounge chair in front the the ball game wearing nothing but your boxers, AND NO ONE WILL COMPLAIN.

DUDE, embrace it! Luv Ya

Damn! Nobody told me I had to wear my boxers.

Torito

Lauren Lane · 04-02-2010, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Torito

Damn! Nobody told me I had to wear my boxers.

Torito

EXACTLY my point. Your house, your solo, your rules

fun.time.hobbyist · 04-02-2010, 02:42 PM

Meg & Lauren,

Thanks for the advice. I guess it's just not as easy as I thought it would be to move on and close this chapter of my life. Don't get me wrong, I've been wanting out, but when you look back it's a lot to say goodbye to. The hardest part has been saying bye to her family who has been great and loving. In time, I'll be living it up and having a blast.

FTH

Rebel · 04-02-2010, 04:38 PM

FTH,

Been there got the T-Shirt, it def. will get better with time, just have to look forward and all will be good! Good Luck.

fortwortholdguy · 04-02-2010, 06:50 PM

The best part about it is when you get the urge to rub one out you don't have to hide in the bathroom and quietly do it on the toilet with a Playboy that you secretly rolled up and hid under the sink...

Just dial up some internet porn on the old PC or laptop and start enjoying yourself!!!

looiecypher · 04-02-2010, 07:19 PM

Just drink lots and lots of beer and hobby till you drop.

pyramider · 04-02-2010, 08:14 PM

Get your own attorney.

shelbythebest · 04-04-2010, 04:00 PM

If all else fails.. just call me.. 940 536 7065.. we can get into something.. as johnny ringo used to say *alot* everytime we got together .. we had one hell of an adventure... he didnt have too many dark days or bored moments during the time either... Im an upbeat person.. nothing fixes void except staying busy and changing your routine..

options there.. good luck..

Bestman200600 · 04-04-2010, 05:52 PM

Get a good attorney. Volume divorce attorneys suck. PM me if you want a name.

Brooke Cumsalot · 04-04-2010, 11:10 PM

cant wait to see u again love... FTH ur my top 3!! cant wait hunny...

TexTushHog · 04-05-2010, 02:06 AM

Take care of the legal details first. Get a good board certified family law attorney. And make sure it stays amicable is possible.

As to her family, I don't know why that contact has to end. Stop by and say hello to your old in-laws. Or drop them a card when appropriate. I think you'll find that any rancor there will face over time.

As far as being alone, you'll have to deal with that on your own terms. I'm terrible at giving advice on that, as I'm not one who much prefers to be alone for long periods of time. But even if you're not very religious, find a singles group at a church. Join a wine tasting singles group. Anything other than just going out to a bar -- which I find horribly depressing.

fun.time.hobbyist · 04-05-2010, 05:09 AM

Good advice everyone. I've found the gym has been a good distraction for me. Quite a few interesting people there. It's been an emotionally draining period of time. I'm certain life will be better when it's all said and done.

Brooke,
I can't wait to see you either. I'm sure you have some cures for my ails