Church? Bad idea. The odds of you meeting someone pretending to be 'churchly' are far greater than you meeting a 'churchly' person. Call me crazy but if I'm going to fall in love with the alcoholic ladies man, I'd rather know it upfront than be shocked later.
Being single sucks! Ugh...the one that really gets me is the 2 for $20 at Chiles. I don't even have the 2nd person to fully take advantage of the offer. I don't even like Chiles but that '2 for 20' has now become a reminder - WHY ME?
When I can't stand it, I think of life on the other end of the spectrum - trapped in a marriage I didn't want to be in. Every day was like Groundhog's Day. I knew what was going to happen - that's worse. Tonight is Thursday...I'll be home in my pjs reading BUT tomorrow is Friday and anything can happen. There is some excitement in that, believe me. When I really miss having someone and begin to tear up, I have to remind myself of this:
I'm SINGLE - if I wanted to, I could go out and have drunken passionless sex with 2, 8 or 900 men. FREEDOM. HOPE. FUTURE. ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.
You know how you're going to meet someone? Being yourself. For instance, I love sports - when a big game is on, I'll go to a sportsbar alone. MissPriss and 400 men (2 even single!) If I feel like eating at a restaurant, I go ... alone. Usually there is single men and I've been asked out and had meals paid for. Whatever I like to do, I do. Eventually something will happen. In 6 months I could be married or under a protective order - there's excitement in that...albeit pathetic, at least it's open ended.
I hate to admit this next part but I will - the Hobby has an upside for single people. Men can spend time with women and move right past formality into f&ck
I had a Superbowl date for the first time in three years and then a Valentine date - backtoback.
The best thing the hobby has done, made me aware of my own sexuality. In that there's confidence. A year ago, I'd never eat alone at a restaurant. Why? Because women who are with men stare...as if a lady eating alone is a freak. That used to kill me.
Now? I'll stare her right back in the eye until she stops staring. I think to myself...THE IDIOT IS MOST LIKELY YOU - MEN EXACTLY LIKE THE ONE SITTING ACROSS FROM YOU PAY FOR AN HOUR WITH ME! Yay
My biological clock is ticking. At least for the men, they have time. As one guy suggested, join a Thai dating site - you can go find a wife. If you want an American, keep me in mind. If I'm still available in 6 months, I'll marry you. Even if we have nothing in common, so what? It can work, you can change