PEPPER: I read the other thread you started, and it just blows my mind that your friend got stabbed in the back like that...and to be betrayed by a girl that he obviously must really liked, too, makes it even more hurtful. (Sounds like he should have taken you instead, lol.
.) How well did he know her, and had they ever done an overnight before doing the whole out-of-town thing?
ROVER14: I have a lot of experience with overnights, and, in my opinion, there's really only one way to ensure they work, and that's to really like each other. Anything else, is just wishful thinking...on both sides-ladies, how many times do we have to hear "not all money is good money"?
Overnights, especially when they require leaving your little bubble, lol, require more chemistry than an ordinary session...it's one thing to party a little bit (an hour or two), but spending the whole evening and waking-up together, showering, et cetera...it's kind of like playing house. There's got to be at least basic trust and appreciation for each other or it would just suck (in a bad way), lol. If you don't really click in that way, you're probably not ready to do a weekend.
Personally, I think the installment plan, lol, would be a red flag to a provider that their partner is lukewarm about them, and, I don't know...it would probably make me rethink my commitment and the way I felt about the client. From a provider's perspective, we're always heaing about some girl getting screwed-and not just literally, lol. (Case in point, anybody remember Amber Housekeeper's alert from not too long ago...?) I think we can agree that it would be dumb for any girl to go out of town with a guy they weren't 100% cool with... But, then again, perhaps it should prompt the client to re-evaluate his own feelings about the provider, if he finds himself wary of his choice...maybe there's a little bell going off in the big head that he needs to follow-up on. Screw maybe's about moonlighting as a pickpocket, if you're suppressing subconconscious suspicions that your mate for the moment doesn't even really think your jokes are funny, hmmm, time to reconsider spending the night together...9/10, second-thoughts mean "don't do it" for a reason, lol.
Anyway, point (and, yes, there is point, lol) is that it creates a fugly lil' 22: how do you enjoy yourself around someone you suspect distrusts you, and, inversely, how on earth are you supposed to be yourself around someone you don't trust? My advice to both sides: Not gonna happen, so don't book the date.
For what it's worth, I remember last year I had a client invite me on an overnight to Beantown. He compensated me up front with the exception of the price of airfare so that I could book the flight myself around my schedule, and promised to reimburse me. I trusted him to do that. I had actually already put the ticket on my card, and was actually shopping for special lingerie the evening before I was to fly out when he called to tell me that his business trip had been canceled indefinitely. I let the ticket and the time lost due to the cancellation ride...Why? Because...I...trusted him, and knew it wasn't his fault. Approximately three weeks later, he called again to tell me that he had been rescheduled for the trip. Luckily, the timing was fine, and I was able to rebook my flight immediately. The client reimbursed me for the tickets, and we had a blast. (We fell out of touch when I went UTR, but, if you read this, feel free to chime in
...it'd probably have more weight coming from another guy). There is just no way that would have worked, if he hadn't been completely upfront with me and we hadn't trusted each other.
Anyway, I feel like the tangent queen, lol, but, whoever this provider is, try not to let that one bad apple...
What would you do (followup)
Friendship.
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