How do you select a provider for here?

[FishGuy13]

I was just wondering how you select or recommend someone select a provider for AR type of services. I think I am finally ready to come off of the fence and just jump into the deep end so to speak. I am also not entirely sure just what I want. I have heard and try to follow the idea of you never know until you try it, as in food I'll give it 2 -3 or so trys before I say no way not for me, the first time may be a fluke, my taste buds may be off, the chef may be having an off night etc., and the same for most things I belive holds true.
Do looks matter, or as much here as in vanilla FS sex, how does one tell if the personallity may be a match etc.??
A few RL friends who know me have said Oh yeah I am already a freak and just don't know it."
I have never been into pain (giving or receiving) but somehow hot and spicy food that just makes your whole face burn is a turn on.
I have had a few providers play with my prostrate most were out of this world amazing and a few were between ok and kinda unconfortable, but as luck would have it my first was one of the best! I have even used a butt plug while J/O to heighten the sensation and loved it, so pegging is not out of the question either.
I feel bad I almost set something up with a local dom, but then realized the rates I was looking at on some reviews did not match up with her web site and it was out of my price range and just did not want to lead her on too much but still felt some of my questions were left unanswered (my fault because I dropped it too soon upon learning of her current rates).
I have heard of and could easily be talked into some light whipping, sounds, sensory dep, blood loss ie my or her head hanging off the side of the bed while teasing of genatials (not true blood loss), I was even close to trying "?friggin'" or the use of ginger up ones anus and or urethera alone or while some light spanking. But I lost my job and have not seen that provider on in a long time.
& Is it just me or is the AR World a lot more expensive than a regular FS escort?

[FishGuy13]

Another quick thought, the more I hang out and read here, the less it seems that out there? Why is that?

[savak]

l just went with a provider I had seen many times previously, Paris Love. You really just have to find someone your comfortable with and can trust, and get them to see if they would like to do AR stuff. Paris was totally down for the games, and came up with alot of ideas herself.

[Ms. Athena]

It seems your looking more for BDSM Domme type of session. There are a few that cross over and provide as well, but not many. Most Domme's are not providers, thus no sexual activities, ie BBBJ, FS, ect ect...........A few good Dommes are on ECCIE and in your area. Search is your friend. Then pm other clients that have seen them and get feed back. Everyones fantasies and needs are different. Good Luck in your quest for Kink.........
I have found that Domme sessions tend to run cheaper then a FS GFE as there is no sex involved thus less risk. But If you want a mind rocking prostate stimulating session I know myself and Dallas Rain travel your way often.....YUM YUM!!!

[submissiveboy]

From my experience, i tell you that you won't know till you try!
i had domination sessions with some of the most popular dommes which if you ask people about they will tell you that they are the best, but there was no chemistry between us, thus i did not enjoy my time and it was purely physical pain for me. i also had sessions with other dommes and had a great time. The point is in domination, if you were not able to have a connection and trust with your domme (No matter what other people say) you won't be able to surrender and let her take over control, so you won't be able to enjoy your time. Take your time to think about the experience you are seeking and always go with your guts. Feel free to pm me if you have any particular questions.

[DallasRain]

quote---But If you want a mind rocking prostate stimulating session I know myself and Dallas Rain travel your way often.....YUM YUM!!!


ditto!


Ms A will be that way soon....then I will be that way a little bit later


Have you checked out Elizabeth Whispers??? She is a cool chick who provides fetish type services too

[captnzen]

Research and mondo communication with the provider or domme prior to the session. One of the more protracted Q & A's I ever had was w/Mistress Montana of Dallas...a domme, not a provider. At one point, I almost said enough..let's start...but went ahead and let her explore me and my desires via chatting. As a result...one of the best bdsm experiences I ever had! (Her electro-sounds probably played a role in that as well....tee hee)

[FishGuy13]

Thanks guy and gals ... will keep you posted.

[houston_switch]

I look for people here, I also ask in this forum if I'm seeking someone in a different part of the state to play with... the recommendations here are terrific... usually someone here will know of someone who will fill your requirements.... this is a great place to start out. Once you find a provider you might be interested in... read her profile, read every page on her website, read all her reviews and pm her to start a conversation and see what happens.
Good luck!

[Dawgs]

Communicate, communicate, communicate. Just ask, you may be surprised at how many of our wonderful providers are willing to meet your desires. The most that they will say is sorry but no. OK they may go ewww, no way you sick bastard. But still you can even have fun with that!!!