s.o. has no sexual fantasies?

[gold-fish]

Is this common?
For a woman to have no sexual fantasy?not 1?
I've asked and tired to find out.
And nothing.dead end road.
Suggested new things.dead end road.

Maybe she hasent opended up or isn't comfortable talking about this subject.
I've known her well over 4 to 5 years.
Seems now that I have this s.o. I'm beating it more than when I wasn't.
Pretty sad.lol.
I know I'm not the best but I'm willing to do more to satisfy her.
I don't even have to get mine or finish.I usually do more to her than
She does me.its usualy me that has to ask or offer for her pleasure.half the time
Its a turn down.
I've tried to talk to her and nothing.its either "that's gross" or "you need you a freak".
Wtf?
Cheers for great partnership huh?lol
Most of the people I've known complain about the man not cuttin it in bed.
Totally opposite for me...my luck I guess.

What would you think?how would it make you feel?any suggestiions?

Maybe I'm just tripping and a idiot lol..

[technoid_x]

I was married to someone like that. I tried margaritas, lingerie, showers , massages date night. It was just her not me.

Sorry man. Just know that you are normal.
It's not an easy situation to be in. I hope the best for you but it may not last and it's not the end of the world. You will find one or more that will be good for you.

By luck I partied with a porn star after I got divorced. Her boyfriend was one of my favorite producers. Around 3 in the morning she was reflecting saying how she thought she helped marriages. I smiled gave her a hug and thought to my self. When I saw those films I wanted out !

Hang in there man.

[Ms. Athena]

Some woman have raised that "Sex is your duty, your not supose to enjoy it" mindset. I feel so sorry for them as they are being untrue to themselves and to their SO. If one goes through life unfulfilled then one is not really living. Meeting your needs, By first admitting you have needs, then meeting them will always make you a better person......ie SO, employee, employer, father, son, ect ect..For you will be more fulfilled and relaxed, able to deal with RL. If she told you to go find a freak , then baby cum and find a freak........lol

[sardyop]

Originally Posted by gold-fish

Is this common?
For a woman to have no sexual fantasy?not 1?
I've asked and tired to find out.
And nothing.dead end road.
Suggested new things.dead end road.

Maybe she hasent opended up or isn't comfortable talking about this subject.
I've known her well over 4 to 5 years.
Seems now that I have this s.o. I'm beating it more than when I wasn't.
Pretty sad.lol.
I know I'm not the best but I'm willing to do more to satisfy her.
I don't even have to get mine or finish.I usually do more to her than
She does me.its usualy me that has to ask or offer for her pleasure.half the time
Its a turn down.
I've tried to talk to her and nothing.its either "that's gross" or "you need you a freak".
Wtf?
Cheers for great partnership huh?lol
Most of the people I've known complain about the man not cuttin it in bed.
Totally opposite for me...my luck I guess.

What would you think?how would it make you feel?any suggestiions?

Maybe I'm just tripping and a idiot lol..

I am in the same boat. My wife will have sex but looks at it like a chore. She wants to get it over quick and looks at it as a task. I have also tried lingerie, toys tried to initiate conversations about fantasies but she is not interested. She will give me BBBJ's to keep me happy but it would be nice if she got horny once in a while. I don't understand I take care of myself also. I am in good shape,icy weights and workout every day. I am 51 and in better shape than most 30 year olds. She says something is wrong with me because I'm horny all of the time.

[this_side_up]

A woman can say no in a lot of ways......refusing to share is method of control....she has it, you want it, she can control wether you get it or not.......sucks, but that's where you are.

[7071949597]

Originally Posted by this_side_up

A woman can say no in a lot of ways......refusing to share is method of control....she has it, you want it, she can control wether you get it or not.......sucks, but that's where you are.

TSU is correct. And if this behavior is going on, it means you're not in a healthy relationship and need to break it off.

And I LOLed when Sardyop posted what his SO said, as he's the perfectly normal. Abstaining from or not wanting sex is perhaps one of the most abnormal things a person can do.

[junior samples]

my so was the exact same until she found my hobby email and figured out my password and looked at some provider's messages now it's better than ever (just saying it worked for me) now I have more money than I have in a long time sorry girls

[exoticdanceweardealer]

In all honesty this is why I plan to stay single. I would rather be alone than laying next to a woman who wants to deny me the sex I expect to have as her monogamous S.O. (as she so expects). Of course, she probably isn't monogamous at all, at least that seems to be the case with my phone full of ex girlfriends who are regularly hitting me up even though they are married. Of course I have trust issues as you might be able to tell.

[cumalot]

My SO's fantasies are limited as well, but I figure it's her loss not mine, thats why I hobby. Telling her I think she would look good in a strap on would wind me up in the ER with a dildo shoved so far up my ass that the surgeons would have to flip a coin to see who was going in after it. No thanks, I have my ATF that I can talk to about anything and do most anything and it's better that way.

[gold-fish]

Originally Posted by Ms. Athena

Some woman have raised that "Sex is your duty, your not supose to enjoy it" mindset. I feel so sorry for them as they are being untrue to themselves and to their SO. If one goes through life unfulfilled then one is not really living. Meeting your needs, By first admitting you have needs, then meeting them will always make you a better person......ie SO, employee, employer, father, son, ect ect..For you will be more fulfilled and relaxed, able to deal with RL. If she told you to go find a freak , then baby cum and find a freak........lol

I will be on the hunt for "my freak" somtime after september.me and her have totally opposite work schedules after labor day.right now I can bearly leave the house by myself
Without getting questioned.or she tries to tag along.

[gold-fish]

Originally Posted by sardyop

I am in the same boat. My wife will have sex but looks at it like a chore. She wants to get it over quick and looks at it as a task. I have also tried lingerie, toys tried to initiate conversations about fantasies but she is not interested. She will give me BBBJ's to keep me happy but it would be nice if she got horny once in a while. I don't understand I take care of myself also. I am in good shape,icy weights and workout every day. I am 51 and in better shape than most 30 year olds. She says something is wrong with me because I'm horny all of the time.

Same here..I've bought a few toys.offer to use..and get rejected.
When she goes down on me or I on her,she's told me hurry up and just fuck me.
I get pissed because that moment doesn't hapen often and I'm trying to enjoy it.
And I enjoy licking her front to back.id do that anyday no questions asked lol.
She does get horny but she will get dry after a bit.
She see's it like a chore too...com to think about it.she doesn't do chores really around
The place to begin with..mostly keep the bed warm..

[gold-fish]

Today she tried to ask for some but I told her I was busy sleeping.
Owell,another day of beating it wouldn't hurt me..been doing it for awhile.
She once asked"why I do it so much".my thoughts....hmmm,duhh!
But I was pissed for some other odd reason that day and my response was"it
Became a habit since I got with you".lol.ya I can be an asshole at times.who isn't.

I meen,I've never heard someone not needing sexual pleasure to live.
The body needs it.from what I thought?lol.
god didn't give us the instinct for no reason other than to produce.
I dunno..maybe I'm crazy...but looks like I'm somewhat normal..or so I hope ha!!

I need a drink now.

Also like to say thanks everyone for chiming in.thank you very much for thoughts and experiences.very much appreciated

[Ms. Athena]

gold-fish, I feel for you. I came out of a 17 long year marriage and even though we had good sex, it was never GREAT sex. And he was a very jealous man so I always had to surpress my very sexual sensual side........Not a way to live life. Once I choose to break free, I have really started living and exploring all their is to enjoy about sex and the pleasures of our bodies.So when you get that break be ready and take it..............Life is to short not to have fun...........Yum!!

[DallasRain]

My SO is living out his fantasies as much as he can......He says he is the luckiest man in the world.....lol!

I understand that if you love someone that you stay with them...but I can not understand not being able to "feel free to explore life and what all it has to offer that peaks my sexual interest"

[RickO'shayRabbitt]

When I was young--which I was when I got married--everyone with experience said that sex was not that important. It was more about being friends, and having other areas of compatibility. I agree with that in general. But sex is more important to some people than it is others. So, if I'm ever in the process of marrying again, I would totally consider sexual compatibility and adventurousness more seriously.

Sigh