Your's is a question that has been asked many times over the years. You can use the search button (upper right-ish corner) to check out the more definitive answers.
But: in a nut shell: The ladies are taking the greater risk- so you must take a smaller risk. 1) In order to get a good reputation you will need to schedule with approx. 2-3 or more 'Newby Friendly' ladies (also searchable) whom although may not be your 'cup of tea' but will agree to see you, to get a vouch for ladies you do want to do want to visit
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2) Get accepted by the P411 verification service. This service verifies the Gents, but also the ladies in order to give both a sense of safety & security. Again 'Search' is your friend.
Other lads & the lassies will give you further advise. This is the 'Readers' Digest' version. Happy Hobbying & by all means STAY SAFE!
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