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Guest041513 · 10-25-2012, 11:00 AM

I have seen the Fetish/Domme section on bp and thought about posting my Domme add there. I do not use bp anymore bc of all the rift raft but are there any mistress who have luck using bp for bdsm . I would think since it is "legal" it would not be as much LE traffic as the Escort part. Please let me know your opinions . I also have a Fetlife but that seems to be a lot of play and no pay lol. Any input from experienced Dommes would be great .

Thanks MistressVixxen

ElisabethWhispers · 10-25-2012, 11:55 AM

Fetlife isn't a good place to get any clientele.

I use backpage all of the time. Works for me, at least!

Guest041513 · 10-25-2012, 12:09 PM

Thanks I also seen Mistress of the woods so I thought it might . Do you screen the same as with refrence checks? I wasn't sure how open some dommes would be with sharing refs. Thanks for the info.

ElisabethWhispers · 10-25-2012, 01:42 PM

Some ladies are great with references and others either don't do them or are picky about it. Sadly, some ladies are rather territorial about their clients and there have been a few examples of me asking for a reference only to lose the appointment.

Why? Because the person I called for a reference turned around and called my soon to be client and offered him a better deal. It's disgusting when ladies do this but they do!

But this is in the escort world and not the Domme one.

I don't think that there would be a difference between ladies who are regular sex workers and Dommes, in terms of references.

When I screen, I do the same screening for men who are kink inclined as I do for my regular escort guys. I have found the men who are interested in alternative activities are often flakier at times.

And I screen for reasons other than LE as well. I want to know if we're a good match, if we're not it's best that we not meet.

Screening is something that I do for a myriad of reasons.

Just my thoughts on the topic!
Elisabeth

X-rated · 10-25-2012, 02:55 PM

Backpage has become the GO TO source for Professional Dommes (at least here in DFW).
I would stick with P411 because while i know for a fact that most Pro Dommes understand that their some clients desire variety, i can imagine that the clients might not want to be "tracked" quite like that. It may be part of the fantasy to "belong" only to the one you are with.
Just my .02

Ms. Athena · 10-25-2012, 03:49 PM

As most Dommes do not mix sexual activities in their session most I have found really dont screen, as beating ass is not against the law. If I am asking for a references from a Domme I have the client contact them first and ask permission to give me their info, prior to me contacting them. Even with that said and done the BDSM side of p4p is a whole different ballgame then the hobby. This is the main reason I left the BDSM side and crossed into the hobby. I am a sexual sensual Mistress whom loves controlling the pleasure giving and receiving.........Its all about the pleasure in my playhouse......Yum!

Guest041513 · 10-25-2012, 11:49 PM

Yes I decided to use it like everyone said pro dommes do not mix sexual activites with there sessions so I think it should be Okay. Thanks for the advice everyone.
I am also looking for a sub (male or female) to help me finish my training .

Thanks MistressVixxen

fetishfreak · 10-26-2012, 11:56 PM

Did someone say training?

Dominique · 10-27-2012, 01:20 PM

Its funny you ask... I have been posting Domme for Bp for a little while. Only because i am comfortable being more sensual with my clients. Despite the "Rules" of BDSM which is crap. I feel that the pressure for sexual activity is higher on BP than on other sites.

As far as screening goes.. Who cares about all the previous Mistresses they had, women are funny when it comes to sharing men. Especially other Domme's when they feel like they own each submissive that comes to see them... Escorts not so much but not exempt. As long as they arent crazy which having an interview with them should put a lot more into perspective for you.

http://www.mistressdommenique.com/

Mistress Dommenique
GFE Fetish Queen

Guest041513 · 10-30-2012, 02:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by fetishfreak

Did someone say training?

Why are you interested in being my Sub ?

Guest041513 · 10-30-2012, 02:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Fetlife isn't a good place to get any clientele.

I use backpage all of the time. Works for me, at least!

Quote:

Originally Posted by X-rated

Backpage has become the GO TO source for Professional Dommes (at least here in DFW).
I would stick with P411 because while i know for a fact that most Pro Dommes understand that their some clients desire variety, i can imagine that the clients might not want to be "tracked" quite like that. It may be part of the fantasy to "belong" only to the one you are with.
Just my .02

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ms. Athena

As most Dommes do not mix sexual activities in their session most I have found really dont screen, as beating ass is not against the law. If I am asking for a references from a Domme I have the client contact them first and ask permission to give me their info, prior to me contacting them. Even with that said and done the BDSM side of p4p is a whole different ballgame then the hobby. This is the main reason I left the BDSM side and crossed into the hobby. I am a sexual sensual Mistress whom loves controlling the pleasure giving and receiving.........Its all about the pleasure in my playhouse......Yum!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dominique

Its funny you ask... I have been posting Domme for Bp for a little while. Only because i am comfortable being more sensual with my clients. Despite the "Rules" of BDSM which is crap. I feel that the pressure for sexual activity is higher on BP than on other sites.

As far as screening goes.. Who cares about all the previous Mistresses they had, women are funny when it comes to sharing men. Especially other Domme's when they feel like they own each submissive that comes to see them... Escorts not so much but not exempt. As long as they arent crazy which having an interview with them should put a lot more into perspective for you.

http://www.mistressdommenique.com/

Mistress Dommenique
GFE Fetish Queen

Thanks everyone , it was nice to have some of the more experienced opinions!

Tylus_amore · 11-01-2012, 10:53 AM

Agreed ... the only issue with backpage clients do tend to be flaky at times. As long I screen I really don't have issues.
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Quote:

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Some ladies are great with references and others either don't do them or are picky about it. Sadly, some ladies are rather territorial about their clients and there have been a few examples of me asking for a reference only to lose the appointment.

Why? Because the person I called for a reference turned around and called my soon to be client and offered him a better deal. It's disgusting when ladies do this but they do!

But this is in the escort world and not the Domme one.

I don't think that there would be a difference between ladies who are regular sex workers and Dommes, in terms of references.

When I screen, I do the same screening for men who are kink inclined as I do for my regular escort guys. I have found the men who are interested in alternative activities are often flakier at times.

And I screen for reasons other than LE as well. I want to know if we're a good match, if we're not it's best that we not meet.

Screening is something that I do for a myriad of reasons.

Just my thoughts on the topic!
Elisabeth

Tylus_amore · 11-01-2012, 10:55 AM

Also agreed..... So many time wasters on there....a shame since its such a popular site

Quote:

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Fetlife isn't a good place to get any clientele.

I use backpage all of the time. Works for me, at least!

dreamvacationdates · 11-01-2012, 06:31 PM

I had a friend that was a BDSM Domme several years ago and she was lesbian, so there was never any sexual activity in her sessions, whatsoever so she never had any legal problems or posting issues on BP,
she was sortta brutal... but her clients ate it up.

bashful1 · 11-02-2012, 01:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dreamvacationdates

I had a friend that was a BDSM Domme several years ago and she was lesbian, so there was never any sexual activity in her sessions, whatsoever so she never had any legal problems or posting issues on BP,
she was sortta brutal... but her clients ate it up.

Sounds like Raven? She was only about 98% lesbian