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bizzly1001 · 10-25-2015, 07:44 PM

I have my reasons. Wondering what my comrades have as their reasons.

Mine: love my wife but she doesn't ever want sex and there's no romance. It's more a warm comfortable friendship with two opposing schedules.

jwood · 10-25-2015, 08:27 PM

Variety

JackHammer007 · 10-25-2015, 08:38 PM

I 2nd Jwood's statement...variety!

Island_Gent · 10-26-2015, 12:16 AM

I don't consider myself cheating at all. Blissfully happy in my situation, I just thoroughly enjoy strange.

bistraight69 · 10-26-2015, 04:46 AM

During the marriage the man will ask for or mention greek,COB,3sum,strip club,lifestyle,etc.. and the wife will say NOoooo and then ask you do you want to do that and you say NOoooo honey to save face. After you get caught cheating she gets mad because she knows she's not taking care of busines BCD. The husband does bear some responablity for marrying a girl that he knows can't fufill his needs when you need her to be more then just mother of your children.

I have been married for 24 years I'll never forget the words of advice my father gave me when I told him about my plans to get married. Remember my father was the ultimate monger, he was a monger before there were mongers with his 4 marriages and divorces and his numerous girlfriends/SB. He told me that at the beginning of your marriage you won't be watching training videos(Porn)together but you will want to do those things in the videos so make sure you marry a girl that will eventually be willing to participate. You need her to be more then just the mother of your children or you'll be going down my road of not spending quality time with your mate, heartbreak and costly divorces.

Divorce means she would take half. Which in turn means you will no longer have the $$$ for your SB, GF, provider, etc. Ever heard of the saying, "It's cheaper to keep her!"

butt_her · 10-26-2015, 04:59 AM

Most wives really don't understand how important sex is to us.

Not to hijack the thread but I've wondered if ex-providers remember this when they finally settle down.

Satyrrical · 10-26-2015, 08:07 AM

Wife decides she no longer needs to perform oral.

dls587 · 10-26-2015, 08:23 AM

My wife believes her job is done after the kids and wants a platonic relationship now. Hell if I wanted that I would move in a guy friend for help with heavy lifting and help cutting grass lol.

67cree · 10-26-2015, 10:32 AM

My wife found religion and no longer does oral.

SlowHand50 · 10-26-2015, 10:42 AM

For some women, sex becomes physically painful after menopause, and some then lose interest in any alternatives like oral, anal, etc. A guy still has needs, so he goes looking. Simple as that.

MaxiMilyen · 10-26-2015, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by dls587

My wife believes her job is done after the kids and wants a platonic relationship now. Hell if I wanted that I would move in a guy friend for help with heavy lifting and help cutting grass lol.

Which of you is gonna be makin' sammiches and moppin' floors?

Come_and_gone · 10-26-2015, 01:00 PM

I've been married a little over a year. I love my wife, and the sex is pretty damn good... When I get it. I moved to another country two weeks after we got married (we knew this was going to happen). We've spent maybe 3 of the past 15 months in the same city. She just moved for work too, but not to where I am, so it's not like I'm the bad guy for abandoning her, we are both just passionate about the work we do.

Obviously I have needs. Fortunately, she understands. Even before we got married, she said
"You're going to be far away and you'll get lonely. Don't cheat. But if you do,
1. Don't get a disease
2. Don't get emotionally attached
3. Don't ever let anyone who knows us find out
4. Don't let me find out. Ever. Even on our death-bed."

My wife is nothing if not pragmatic, one of the reasons I fell in love with her. I haven't taken the opportunity yet, but I'm looking. I think a provider is the best choice. Fewer complications, reduced chance of it percolating back through social connections, reduced chance of emotional entanglement. I've been on Eccie for about six months, but I'm not desperate, so I'm taking the time to be selective.

cabletex7 · 10-26-2015, 01:25 PM

"Wife is no longer interested in sex".

Tell yourself whatever you want to keep yourself sobbing like a little girl who has just been told that unicorns aren't real but you're forgetting two little words at the end of that statement - "with you".

I used to "know" a wife like that.
Fucking insatiable and the BJs . . .

bizzly1001 · 10-26-2015, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by cabletex7

"Wife is no longer interested in sex".

Tell yourself whatever you want to keep yourself sobbing like a little girl who has just been told that unicorns aren't real but you're forgetting two little words at the end of that statement - "with you".

I used to "know" a wife like that.
Fucking insatiable and the BJs . . .

Good point. Here I was being a like victim as if I was forced into it. Maybe she has a ravenous appetite that I'm not fulfilling. I am certain that I couldn't be more direct that I'm willing to do anything to satisfy supposed appetite but you know maybe it is just good old fashion rejection. Burns a bit... But hey I could have a lot less guilt to carry as I enjoy the hobby.

Boudin3112 · 10-26-2015, 03:42 PM

She no longer does BJs, sex often, she is horny as hell, but always sex her way, no foreplay, no BJs, No hands, we have lots of romance still with flowers, dinners, special occasions. I love her but she gets angry with me when I want something that is not Mish, touch my fucking dick! Lick the damn thing! We used to have BJ day once a week when we were dating, she has not done oral and I don't get to do it to her either because she would feel guilty, and only suck on me out of guilt. I try to make her happy but she has no interest in making me happy in a sexual way. I cant remember last time she wore sexy clothes or anything sexy. We go out and when we get home she says "lets fuck!" and we do and it is over in 15 minutes. Then to sleep. At least my wife still fucks me, but not good fucking. She does not get how much I love her and how much I dream about things she did years ago. I have told her I will seek my needs in other women, she does not believe me though and I let her not believe. So, fucked up, why ever get married, I had BJ day once a week with lots of fucking in between, when we were dating. Women?!