Do you have a problem?

[cookie man]

Ok so I'm sitting at the table with the ole family for Christmas dinner. After all the family gossip, Obama talk, and discussing America going to all the foreigners, the subject turned to Tiger Woods.

He has all that money, a beautiful wife and family, and yet he has had affairs with up to twelve women over the years. The general consensus was that he has a problem and needs help.

I'll bet the vast majority of God fearing Americans would say the same thing. So I ask you in hobby land, "do you have a problem?"

[Jack]

No, I'm not married.

[looiecypher]

never been married.
Plus I don't fear God.

[Kaci Snow]

Im not doing anything wrong I love what I do !!

[cookie man]

Listening to the general public talk about Tiger having sex with many women as a problem struck me funny. His real problem is that he got caught. Rich and successful athletes often feel empowered to spew their seed.
It made me wonder if my family found out I was seeing providers, would they think I had a problem. I'm not married either nor have a steady girlfriend. By seeing a provider I'm not cheating on anyone or leading them on for sex.
We have a lot of married guys here who see providers for various reasons. I'm not judging, but I wonder how a happily married man can justify hobbying, or if he really even tries. Is that a problem or just a life style choice for self gratification.

For a second I thought how my family would react if I told them that he doesn't have a problem...just another horndog looking for strange pussy. Pass the wine please.

[looiecypher]

It really comes down to if you care what others say or what thier opinion of you is.
I decided a while back that I am who I am and if friends ,family or others don't like it ,it's something that I won't let bother me.
My brothers know and certainly don't care.
I agree with you about guys who are married but then again I know quite a few guys who feel stuck in marriages that aren't working.They feel like they either can't leave for fear of losing half of everything or they have kids.
Their wives are shrews for the most part so I wouldn't condemn them for seeing a provider or two.
The guys who do piss me off are the ones who have good wives and ,kids but do this just because their penis controls their lives.
Kaci- I'm with you I enjoy hobbying and don't plan on changing any time soon:-).

[Dharma]

I have my hands so full with my own life, I don't have time or energy to think about Tiger Woods. Who am I to judge? It's really between him and his wife, after all.

[Chevalier]

Originally Posted by cookie man

I wonder how a happily married man can justify hobbying, or if he really even tries.

I could talk about why -- but that would be rationalizing, not justifying. I doubt if my reasons would make anyone, whether members of the P4P community or civilians, think any differently about my participation. So it's something I mostly struggle with on my own rather than something to discuss with others.

[Tony Patella]

Not married, never been married, never will get married...regardless, the hobby is my own secret and my own choice. We all have one thing in common, and that's the fact that every morning when we look in the mirror we see who we really are. You'd better liek the person staring back at you, or else change who that person is. There are only two worth judges of our character; ourselves and the powers above.

Just my $.02

[npita]

Originally Posted by cookie man

Ok so I'm sitting at the table with the ole family for Christmas dinner. After all the family gossip, Obama talk, and discussing America going to all the foreigners, the subject turned to Tiger Woods.

He has all that money, a beautiful wife and family, and yet he has had affairs with up to twelve women over the years. The general consensus was that he has a problem and needs help.

I'll bet the vast majority of God fearing Americans would say the same thing. So I ask you in hobby land, "do you have a problem?"

First, I'm an athiest, so god is irrelevant. Second, I have a fiancee, so my hobbying days are over. Third, my fiancee knows I have hobbied and has asked that I discuss any inclination to have sex with another person before I do it rather than hide it from her in order to give her the opportunity to deal with any sexual issues that might arise, including possibly dealing with outside liasons, (in which I have no interest). I'd say that I definitely do not have any problem. My fiancee is very open minded (but would definitely be hurt if I pulled a tiger woods).

[Guest030911]

nope. If you have a "problem" then you have to go to those damn meetings and I do not want to go to those damn meetings. Hence, I do not have a problem.

[berkleigh]

WHERE THE HELL WAS I WHEN TIGER NEEDED A DATE!

[Guest012211-3]

According to the tv shows and reports I have seen/heard, Tiger's wifey was well aware of his "playboy" ways before they got married. Does that excuse his behaviour? NO! But just like Oprah says " when people show you who they are, believe them the first time".

Some people (men and women) enjoy the security of a home life ( wife/husband and kids) but still have a desire to act out or explore sexual needs/desires. Why? I don't know, and it's not for me to understand.

Personal opinion, cheating is a selfish act.

[DFW5Traveler]

Originally Posted by dredd1020

never been married.
Plus I don't fear God.

Ding, Ding, Ding!!!! I agree whole heartedly.

[aussie317]

Never been married. So it does not bother me. Tiger is old enough to make his own choices. Hell if I had all that cash, I'd see every provider in Dallas...lol.