Face pictures

[PleasantSurprise]

If a client were to ask a provider for face photos, and if the provider was unwilling to provide any, how would you want her to tell you no?

Say for example, a person for whatever reason is uncomfortable sending pictures of their face; even though their face is what they consider to be their best feature and probably a 9 on a scale 1-10, they just aren't comfortable sending them.

What is the best way to state this on a personal website?

Is there a way to express it so it doesn't come across as rude, but yet also keep it clear so there are no misunderstandings? If a provider doesn't want to give a person hope that if they are nice enough or if they provide enough information or if the see me enough times that I will send one….. what's the best way to be informative and insightful, direct and to the point to where people will understand pictures will not be sent?

Any advice, from those of you hobbyists, on how a provider could be extremely polite, precise, and very clear at the same time?

Providers, any ways you have said it that worked well for you?

[Guest092813]

I don't send face photos, and I don't see myself sending any...ever.
I just let people know that i have a civie job and just as they don't know me, i don't know who is sitting behind the other end of the computer, phone, whatever. I explain that while I love to provide, its not my primary source of income so I can't take any chances on having someone from real life stumble across a face photo.
Most men won't push, and if they do, I just ignore them.

Grace

[bartipero]

Originally Posted by PleasantSurprise

What is the best way to state this....

How about a gunny sack over her head while screaming, "I am not an an-i-mal!"

[Steev]

Originally Posted by bartipero

How about a gunny sack over her head while screaming, "I am not an an-i-mal!"

LOLOLOL

[Allie_Kat]

I don't ever give someone face pictures.
I let them know that it is for my privacy and security.
They're USUALLY understanding, but then again, I've had the, "Oh, you must be ugly then!" reply a few times. Or, "Then I'm not seeing you."
You just have to shake it off and do what works best for you.

[ElumEno]

This is just my opinion... but I believe the straight forward "NO sorry don't do that" is the best way... when you start to sugar coat things is when things get misconstrued and misunderstood.

Remember ladies, that most of the time when dealing with things like this is also when we guys are thinking with our "little head", so keep that in mind when dealing with us.

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by Graceutr

I don't send face photos, and I don't see myself sending any...ever.
...
Most RESPECTFUL men won't push, and if they do, THEY'RE NOT RESPECTFUL AND I just ignore them.

slight but important additions to your thought, if that's ok.

Originally Posted by Allie_Kat

I don't ever give someone face pictures.
I let them know that it is for my privacy and security.
They're USUALLY understanding, but then again, I've had the, "Oh, you must be ugly then!" reply a few times. Or, "Then I'm not seeing you."
You just have to shake it off and do what works best for you.

grace and allie, that's perfect.
only thing i would suggest is to just reply w/ your answer.
i learned a long time ago in interpersonal negotiations training that you only have to give an answer; you dont have to give any reasons.
if you do, some folks might attempt to argue/convince you that your answer is b.s. or unacceptable or unreasonable, etc.
rather than get into a discussion over that [which dilutes and deflects from your answer], just state your answer, period.

guy: say, i would appreciate it if you would send me a photo of yourself, esp. your face and lips.
gal: sorry, i dont send photos of my face [or whatever part you wont send photos of]. i can send you other photos.
guy: what? i swear to god/on my grandmother's grave i wont share or post them.
gal: sorry, i dont send photos of my face.

and both of you are absolutely in your right that if the guys attempts to convince you otherwise, then you just ignore them or tell them no once again.

Originally Posted by ElamEno

This is just my opinion... but I believe the straight forward "NO sorry don't do that" is the best way... when you start to sugar coat things is when things get misconstrued and misunderstood.

like i said, if not misconstrued or misunderstood, then argued.

this is just another one of those things that i believe the women have the sole discretion on [like rates, locations, activities, etc.].

be safe, have fun, and enjoy the delites!!!

[Guest092813]

Good fix! Thanks

[Vyvian]

Originally Posted by Allie_Kat

I don't ever give someone face pictures.
I let them know that it is for my privacy and security.
They're USUALLY understanding, but then again, I've had the, "Oh, you must be ugly then!" reply a few times. Or, "Then I'm not seeing you."
You just have to shake it off and do what works best for you.

This is pretty much how I handle the conversations about sending face pics. I'll tell anyone that I dont do it for my own discretion. If they don't/won't understand, I'm done w/ the conversation. Some of them really do try to pull the "then I'm not seeing you" or "you must be ugly" crap...but I know better than to let that get to me cuz I know the truth. Since it's obvious that these ones dont do any research, every once in a while I try to point out that if they did, they'd also know that I'm not ugly.

[b@ileythepistol]

I post my real pics on my ad and still people ask me to send a pic to prove I'm real... I don't send pics and if it makes someone mad I tell them I have done my job to build reviews and a good rep if you want you can google my phone number and see all that. If they choose to be to lazy to get on google I just ignore further requests to send pics from them... It's not like I couldn't just send a fake pic anyways if I was using fake pics

[Kshunter]

PleasantSurprise...I don't want to be a dick. It appears that most of the feedback here is coming from providers, which is fine. BUT - I've taken a look at your site and your rates. I think that, the higher a provider's rates are (and yours are among the highest in KC), the less willing a hobbyist is going to be to take a chance. I (and if you want to insult me, say that I'm not the 'elite' type of client you want, etc...knock yourself out but remember that I'm trying not to be rude)....I wouldn't spend that kind of money on any provider without seeing the full head-to-toe picture. Elite rates = elite experience = elite looks. And that's a 'show me,' not 'tell me' thing.

Nothing against Allie Kat or Grace (both have been on my must-see list for awhile), but I'd be more likely to spend their rates without seeing a pic...and hope for a "pleasant surprise."

[Helicopter206]

I had a great time with Grace, I never asked once for a face shot. Her body photos spoke more about her beauty. She is very cute, and has a great smile.
Thanks for your time Grace.

[Karyn Lovely]

If you're confident in your beauty you can always tell the guy that if he doesn't see what he likes at the door then you'll leave. When gentlemen ask me for face shots (or any other photos for that matter) I say the only photos available are the ones on my site, I do not send photos or allow them to be taken of me during a session. And there you go that squashes it. Sometimes hobbysits take for granted their anonymity. I'd like to see how many hobbyists would choose to see a provider that required face shots of them first.

[Kshunter]

Originally Posted by Karyn Lovely

Sometimes hobbysits take for granted their anonymity. I'd like to see how many hobbyists would choose to see a provider that required face shots of them first.

Very few. So few that you'd be broke. Let's not forget what we're doing here....and who's the paying customer.

[Allie_Kat]

I hope that any girl who is contemplating sending face shots is screening first, then sending them.
Let's not make it too easy for the cops to identify you.