Follow your initial instinct and fall back. If she has moved on, the most useful thing you can do in my opinion is to reflect on your actions and exhibit more mindfulness in the future with other companions you may meet.
From my perspective, being contacted incessantly by someone I no longer wanted to interact with made me feel awkward, and really consumed my mental space to the point where I was dreading even checking my messages at all. The way I processed these feelings derailed/ delayed me being responsive to other people whose company I did enjoy.
The lesson I took away is that I wish I made a clearer cut, sooner. Because even while the onus is only on me as to how together I am in terms of my TCB skills, it didn't really help that I was experiencing low-key stalking for a few weeks.
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I can't be 100% certain if she is dropping me, but I don't want to contact her anymore if she is out of respect.
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In the example I alluded to, in the end, I did not hint. I sent a very thorough, yet civil parting ways note. Which in my opinion is a courtesy and not an obligation as I expended immense amounts of energy to make sure I was articulating myself in ways that were transparent yet gentle.
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What types of hints do you give to the clients to let them know you may want to end the client/provider relationship?
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