What do you think when you see marks on a provider?

[TemptationTammie]

If you see bruises or other marks on a provider, where does your mind go?
Do you assume she has an abusive partner? Or maybe that she was in a fight?
Maybe you feel it is consensual in BDSM play with either a client or personal life?

Is this a deterrent or a turn on? Or do you just ignore them?

[sexykarma]

Depends on where the marks are at, if I see a black eye I have to think it was abuse from a boyfriend/husband or being she’s a provider maybe it was a pimp or some John went bad......fight with another female....???? I’ve seen women with a black eye walk into a bar with a guy and there’s that quick thought that he’s the one that did it but I’ve skipped that rush to judgement full well knowing it may not have been him. Then I wonder how many other people in the room are thinking the same thing about him.

I’m not aware of any black eye fetishes so I would assume it was related to non consensual violence. Don’t know if I’d ask, never been in that position and if I did ask I don’t know if I would trust her answer as being truthful.

Marks on her ass or thighs make me think it’s more bondage related and of consensual origin. I watched a woman bend over and take super hard bare ass hits with a paddle full of tacks sticking out, she didn’t flinch one bit, made the rest of the participants in the dominatrix show look like pussies. Her ass was raw.

[TemptationTammie]

Originally Posted by sexykarma

Depends on where the marks are at, if I see a black eye I have to think it was abuse from a boyfriend/husband or being she’s a provider maybe it was a pimp or some John went bad......fight with another female....???? I’ve seen women with a black eye walk into a bar with a guy and there’s that quick thought that he’s the one that did it but I’ve skipped that rush to judgement full well knowing it may not have been him. Then I wonder how many other people in the room are thinking the same thing about him.

I’m not aware of any black eye fetishes so I would assume it was related to non consensual violence. Don’t know if I’d ask, never been in that position and if I did ask I don’t know if I would trust her answer as being truthful.

Marks on her ass or thighs make me think it’s more bondage related and of consensual origin. I watched a woman bend over and take super hard bare ass hits with a paddle full of tacks sticking out, she didn’t flinch one bit, made the rest of the participants in the dominatrix show look like pussies. Her ass was raw.

I couldn’t imagine going that far with tacks or even a paddle yet, but I am a novice to BDSM.
I do not allow it within the hobby, unless I’m the one in control, but limited there.
My man likes to bite, so have bite marks/bruises that I’ve told guys to ignore.

[Fizley]

Marks often make we wonder if they are injecting drugs.

[sexykarma]

Originally Posted by TemptationTammie

I couldn’t imagine going that far with tacks or even a paddle yet, but I am a novice to BDSM.
I do not allow it within the hobby, unless I’m the one in control, but limited there.
My man likes to bite, so have bite marks/bruises that I’ve told guys to ignore.

I forgot to mention, that paddle wasn’t like a ping pong paddle, it was heavy and wooden with a narrow handle, like a bread board......she took a whopping, didn’t flinch or nothing. She acted like nothing was being done to her.

[TemptationTammie]

Originally Posted by sexykarma

I forgot to mention, that paddle wasn’t like a ping pong paddle, it was heavy and wooden with a narrow handle, like a bread board......she took a whopping, didn’t flinch or nothing. She acted like nothing was being done to her.

I’ve seen some of the BDSM paddles, so I figured that.

I’ve got marks from my first experience from a Wartenberg wheel all over my stomach, chest, thighs, and bruises from bites on my thighs. Thought I was going to have other marks from a flogging, but those never came out.
In the past,. I’ve had red marks on my ass from my first barehanded spanking to go along with bruises from his bites. And another time, I had his hand print from slaps to my breasts.

I understand some of these marks may make guys think that I’m abused, but it is completely consensual BDSM play, which I’ve told guys that I’ve seen when I have marks. And I say it with a devilish smile.

[Typo]

It depends upon the marks. Incidental bruising is one thing. Track marks and tell tale signs of other habits are a completely different matter. The latter is a complete turnoff and puts that provider on my personal no-go list.

[BLM69]

I been tricking long enough to know that marks on providers are part of the hobby, they go hand in hand

[JRLawrence]

Originally Posted by BLM69

I been tricking long enough to know that marks on providers are part of the hobby, they go hand in hand

I was staying at a very high quality hotel in Washington DC; at 2 AM I woke up hearing a lady across the hall saying: please don't hit me, please don't hit me - and then I heard him smack her, and then she cried.

I knew it was the pimp I had avoided the afternoon before. There were 4 girls I knew of and the one pimp. I needed the sleep and didn't like the nonsense, so I called the front desk. Someone was there in less than 5 minutes. It went quiet and I went to sleep.

[TemptationTammie]

Originally Posted by JRLawrence

I was staying at a very high quality hotel in Washington DC; at 2 AM I woke up hearing a lady across the hall saying: please don't hit me, please don't hit me - and then I heard him smack her, and then she cried.

I knew it was the pimp I had avoided the afternoon before. There were 4 girls I knew of and the one pimp. I needed the sleep and didn't like the nonsense, so I called the front desk. Someone was there in less than 5 minutes. It went quiet and I went to sleep.

That would be scary. I’m glad I’ve always been independent.

Even my Dom does not have any control over the hobby for me. Rules to follow, but things that are obvious in my opinion and rules that I’ve already had in place in most cases.
No BDSM as a sub to anyone but him but I can play the Domme, condoms are required and no photos or vids.

[BLM69]

Originally Posted by JRLawrence

I was staying at a very high quality hotel in Washington DC; at 2 AM I woke up hearing a lady across the hall saying: please don't hit me, please don't hit me - and then I heard him smack her, and then she cried.

I knew it was the pimp I had avoided the afternoon before. There were 4 girls I knew of and the one pimp. I needed the sleep and didn't like the nonsense, so I called the front desk. Someone was there in less than 5 minutes. It went quiet and I went to sleep.

That's freaking sad for a woman having to get beat by anyone, especially a low life pimp. Next time call PD on his ass