The Art of the Ghost

[fluffybear1]

Hello everyone, both gents and ladies, I have a statement and question and am seeking advice.


I have been in the hobby on and off and I have seen only two people, Ms. Tiff, and Ms. Jamie. I have their reviews posted. I maybe go out to hobby maybe once every two to three months. My first question is how do I go about seeing more massage or full service providers when I have limited reviews/references? I am in the medical profession and I want to stay discrete and giving out personal information is very unsettling for me, especially if things happen like the scenario I'm about to describe below.



So the art of the ghost: I contacted a massage provider whose name will not be mentioned for her discretion (PM me for name if you're really interested). I got verified and I even sent a picture. She gave me an appointment time and as the time came near she started making excuses and delaying. My appointment was for 1:00 PM and I contacted her hour before like she requested. She delayed me 30 mins saying her client was still there. I waited for over two and half hours in my car before she texted me saying she had to pick up her kid and asked if I could meet in the evening. I respectfully explained I couldn't wait and if she could meet some other time I would be appreciative. I didn't get a response for over 3 days until I reached out again and to which she gave a cold response.



Is this common with providers or is it because I'm newer to the hobby? I am worried because I sent a picture and she never met with me. Like I said it's very unsettling.



I am perfectly fine with taking a provider out for a cup of coffee or something so we can get to know each other if it means my information and pictures are not all over the internet.



Some advice from you ladies and gents?

[fluffybear1]

BTW the massage provider is reviewed and established in KCMO. It wasn't a fake ad or anyone random.

[Kshunter]

Move on to the next. This isn't Match, and we're not seeking a love connection. I wouldn't have waited the two and a half hours.

[Unique_Carpenter]

Maybe 10 min wait tops.
But, yes move on.
There's quite a few gals that allow newbie screening (which also applies to infrequent hobbiests).

[yourdesire]

I can't believe you waited that long. I'm newbie friendly and would never think to ask someone to wait around when they've scheduled. As UC mentoned 10 - 15 min things do happen but beyond that I'd consider rude. And this is coming from someone who has a hard time with time management. Find someone who will respect you & your time.

[JRLawrence]

Originally Posted by fluffybear1

Hello everyone, both gents and ladies, I have a statement and question and am seeking advice.


I have been in the hobby on and off and I have seen only two people, Ms. Tiff, and Ms. Jamie. I have their reviews posted. I maybe go out to hobby maybe once every two to three months. My first question is how do I go about seeing more massage or full service providers when I have limited reviews/references? I am in the medical profession and I want to stay discrete and giving out personal information is very unsettling for me, especially if things happen like the scenario I'm about to describe below.



So the art of the ghost: I contacted a massage provider whose name will not be mentioned for her discretion (PM me for name if you're really interested). I got verified and I even sent a picture. She gave me an appointment time and as the time came near she started making excuses and delaying. My appointment was for 1:00 PM and I contacted her hour before like she requested. She delayed me 30 mins saying her client was still there. I waited for over two and half hours in my car before she texted me saying she had to pick up her kid and asked if I could meet in the evening. I respectfully explained I couldn't wait and if she could meet some other time I would be appreciative. I didn't get a response for over 3 days until I reached out again and to which she gave a cold response.



Is this common with providers or is it because I'm newer to the hobby? I am worried because I sent a picture and she never met with me. Like I said it's very unsettling.



I am perfectly fine with taking a provider out for a cup of coffee or something so we can get to know each other if it means my information and pictures are not all over the internet.



Some advice from you ladies and gents?

Move on and don't ever think about tolerating that type of contact ever again. Be sure to post her name for all to see. Due to her behavior, you owe he no respect or consideration. What the hell guy, just because she is a woman doesn't mean you have to put up with crap. Your mother must have taught you to be respectful of woman: all women are not worthy of respect. You just have to be respectful of those who rate it.