SB Advice Needed---Help!

[swguy101]

OK, so after reading all the posts about SD-SB relationships, I decided to take the plunge. I struck up a conversation 4 or 5 months ago with someone way out of my league at one of the DFW area breastaurants (I am not revealing the one, so please don't ask). For the record, she is early 20's, and I am early 50's. I see her several times at work every week and we have even been out for drinks once, but I have not yet brought up the SD topic. I am kind of hesitant to as I am not sure how she will take it. While she works at an establishment that is obviously geared to men, she seems a bit shy. She is amazing eye candy, so I don't want to ruin what I have going on. She seems open to going out more, but here is the curve ball, she wants to have me over for dinner to meet her parents

So is she viewing me as someone to potentially date for a period of time? Also, how do I handle meeting the parents, as I may be older than them? I could easily pass for early 40's as I have all my hair (little grey) and am Ok looking, but still she is early 20's.

So has anyone else had this happen before? I am pretty sure that it would be considered bad form to bring up the SD-SB thing in front of the parents, but other than that, I am a bit confused as to how to proceed. Thanks in advance for any advice...

[blue3122]

Run Forest Run!

[hd]

I've never had or done a SD situation, not that I wouldn't want to, but going to meet her parents!!!!!!!!! Dude, IMHO, NO WAY. Even assuming you aren't married since you didn't bring it up, age difference is too much IMO. SD-SB is good but I think she's too serious if she's talking about the parents.

But then what do I know? I just wish I was in your spot!

[Spike21]

I wouldn't necessarily say run. Depends what you are looking for here my friend. Her wanting you to go to her parent's for dinner is definitely a red flag I would say. Either she has interest in you as a possible BF, considers you a friend, or is just weird and asks random dudes to meet her family. I can not say for sure what the case here is, but I am sure you have some idea. Seems like you have known her awhile, if nothing has gone on physically with you guys at all, then it could just be that she enjoys your company as a friend. If you have had something going on then I would say the friend factor is out the window.

As you said you could pass for early 40s, does she actually know how old you are? In my line of work I run across married couples all the time with large age differences. If you like this girl then I would stay away from the SB topic and see how things progress. If your just looking to hook up then bring it up, worst thing that happens is she gets offended and doesn't wanna see you anymore.

[trynagetlaid]

You have never been out on a date with her like drinks, dinner, and a movie, and she already wants to take you to meet her parents? I would say that SD-SB or P4P is the farthest thing from her mind. Definitely don't go meet the parents!!!

You've said nothing about her financial situation - is she knocking down some serious bucks at the breastaurant and keeping her bills paid, or always complaining about being short on cash? Talk to her towards the end of the month when rent and bills are due; if she's stressing, that's your opportunity to get your foot in the door and trade a ben or two for some yum yum. Then you might have a chance to get something steady going.

[swguy101]

Blue3122, I almost split my pants laughing, so thanks for that. FYI, i am single, so no worries with an SO. It is a huge age difference, so I wonder as well what is going on.

[swguy101]

trynagetlaid, just the one night for drinks after a test is all we have seen each other outside the restaurant. When she mentioned the "meet the parents" thing, I asked her if she had told them I was "older", and she said she had. She has an 26 year old brother at home with his college degree and no job, so maybe someone reasonably successful is appealing to both her and the parents.

In any case, I don't seriously believe this will ever lead to anything lasting. But I don't want to be a jackass and play along just to have some fun, and hurt her feelings either. I would really like to figure out how to carefully bring up the P4P thing, that way, it is a win-win. She has never mentioned money at any time, and I have always tipped her a $20, so she probably gets $200 a month on just my visits. She does live on her own, so I like your idea on testing the waters at the end of the month...

[jafun]

SDs don't meet reral Dads .... That is called SO path - not SD!

[Prolongus]

I wanna be a fly on the wall for this dinner date with the parents...

[Guest082216-1]

Be sure to check out the Sugerdaddy forum. Lots of great advice there about SBs. As for dinner, don't.

[ShysterJon]

What's a sugar baby?

My real answer is:

If you want to date her, meet her parents. I don't think you know much about the girl. She may be really old-fashioned and want her parents' approval before she dates you. Don't think about this so much. Just go along with her and see where it leads.

If you want her to be only your SB, it's probably not a good idea to meet her parents, especially since you haven't been in a SD-SB relationship before. One thing you learn as a SD is it's likely your SB will develop feelings for you that you do not want. Meeting her parents could foster that.

If you're not comfortable dating her because of your age difference, don't. If you have confidence, date her. Meet her parents. Hell, fuck her mother if you want to.

btw, I've met the parents of two of my SBs. The father of one of my SBs is one of my best friends.

[pmdelites]

Originally Posted by ShysterJon

If you're not comfortable dating her because of your age difference, don't. If you have confidence, date her. Meet her parents. Hell, fuck her mother if you want to....

i was thinking a similar thought.
perhaps she wants to take you home so dad can check out your wallet and ...
mom can check out your johnson.


seriously, if it were me, i wouldnt go visit the parents.
but i would find out why she would want me to go visit them.
it might tell me how she thinks/feels/lusts/loves about me [allusion to Fawn's recent thread].

like bubba said, go check out the SD:SB forum on the home page.




btw, #4600 for me.

[ShysterJon]

pm, congrats on your 4600th post. I liked number 1,294. All the others sucked. j/k Haha.

[anita]

Originally Posted by Prolongus

I wanna be a fly on the wall for this dinner date with the parents...

Lmfao!!!

[Fort Worth Punk]

I wouldn't meet the parents on a first date for someone I was trying to date. Forget about it for a Sugar Baby.