My saying "I am drink in hand more often than not." (Not a drunk, I just enjoy drinking because I'm somewhat new to it &&& it's social) I don't watch/have tv, drama, etc. So I like to go to a bar & drink & talk to people & watch a game.
Granted.... I don't like "thirsty folk" in any bar. I don't like to feel intruded upon in a public environment unless that conversation is had before than & I know them.
Very much more often than not, I go home alone from a bar.
With that said, I look at the hobby as more of a very friendly & realistic friendship. I've found that it's the most blunt & probably the coolest relationship you can have with someone. It ends up being the most honest. So I try not to tangle up drama in social life with what is actually realistic.
I avoid drama at almost all cost if I can evacuate. So I like what the hobby does for Women even though it's looked down upon & even shamed at times. I don't usually ever talk intimately with men in a bar because I consider it in the category of "I collect resumes & I need no man to buy my drinks". I'd rather buy my own & sit there by myself at times than waste their && my time. I think respect is huge when it comes to my space. Anyone &&& everyone is welcome to grope their own balls in the public restroom.
I've definitely had people intrude. Meh............ But they usually get the hint. We can be friends without Men feeling entitled & disrespectful.
"What does a nice date cost a man in Dallas with a beautiful woman that he's guaranteed sexual activity?" Yes. I said I collect resumes.
I hate to say it. But... every man pays for it one way or another & I'm the least dramatic of the options. More often than not, it's in the shape of a diamond on the second to the farthest finger on her left hand.
I care, but we're not here for a long time. We're here for a good time.
I love to dress nicely & go out. I love shopping & finding very fashionable effort worthy outfits. I love initiative & I'm complimented more often than not. That is effort. That, to me, is initiative. But I probably won't go home with you ....... & either should anyone else TBH.
I have socialized publicly with several people I've hobbyd with and they have always been more than respectful which is that much more appealing than not. No expectations. Just drink in hand. Enjoying what time we have.