Musing on a Lazy Sunday afternoon

[IABart]

There have been some fun threads on ATFs, some interesting comments on reviews, and I thought I'd just talk out loud for no particular reason other than I can. It fits for both providers and clients, either can wear the hat:

1. It's intimidating to post too much unless you're a long-time veteran
2. Quality over quantity, definitely
3. The veterans know what they're doing and talking about-follow their lead
4. Having chemistry goes a long way. No, it's not love, but it is comfortable, for everyone. When you meet someone you connect with, it's really nice.
5. Being smart goes a long way. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.
6. When you make a mistake, admit it, and they'll cut you slack-they're professionals after all.
7. If you appreciate someone, tell them-if you can brighten someone's day, do it.
8. Amazing people live here, and amazing people pass through. We have it good in DSM, for sure.
9. When someone is good to you, be loyal to them, because they didn't have to be.
10. ??

[livn2do]

I love these kind of posts. Nice job Bart.

Originally Posted by IABart

1. It's intimidating to post too much unless you're a long-time veteran
I used to think the same thing then one day I just decided, fuck it, I'm gonna say what I want and if it helps someone out great. If they don't like what I say they can lick my taint. Contribute away my friend

2. Quality over quantity, definitely
Yes sir, that was a hard lesson for me to learn even though most of the ladies told me that from day one.

3. The veterans know what they're doing and talking about-follow their lead
I don't know about that. Half the time I'm under the influence of some mind altering substance of the liquid variety or I'm so drunk on pussy I'm delusional. Kinda like now. By the way. I am not advocating drug use of any kind. What I am referring to is alcohol which does not violate Eccie's term of use.

4. Having chemistry goes a long way. No, it's not love, but it is comfortable, for everyone. When you meet someone you connect with, it's really nice.
True it is nice but its also a fine line brother. A very fine line. This one I can speak to because I've been there. Love can and does happen on both sides and that is a very dangerous place to be especially when you have something to lose. Tread lightly because good intentions only go so far. I was once told by a fellow hobbiest after my own journey down the wrong road, a journey which led me to be literally within days of ending an almost 30 year marriage. If you read a review about your ATF and it bothers you...it's time to move on because you are getting to close.

5. Being smart goes a long way. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.
Yep

6. When you make a mistake, admit it, and they'll cut you slack-they're professionals after all.
Yep, just don't do it again. They can be just as ruthless as they are forgiving. Remember for a lot of these lovelies, this is their livelihood. How would you feel if you traveled to a location only to have your boss turn around and tell you go home because the company changed its mind...and by the way, you won't be getting paid for your time either.

7. If you appreciate someone, tell them-if you can brighten someone's day, do it.
I appreciate you putting this list together Bart. Like I said, I love this kinda shit.

8. Amazing people live here, and amazing people pass through. We have it good in DSM, for sure.
I agree for the most part.

9. When someone is good to you, be loyal to them, because they didn't have to be.
Yep

10. ??
Boobs

[IABart]

#10. "boobs"

Not quite what I had in mind for #10 but it is open mic, after all, so anything goes!

Thanks for the thoughts. Agreed on #4 but I'm not there with anyone. This is a livelihood so the seduction is part of the bait in the trap. See #5...

[DallasRain]

cool post!

! 1...I have been here since day 1....lol
#2...Hell yeah/great motto to live by!
#8....Hell yeahhhhhhhh

[livn2do]

Alright, since "boobs" wasn't keeping in line with the other thoughts, how about this.

10. In most cases a session is as good as you make it, after all you are 50% of the equation. Do your research first to find out if she offers what your into and if you want something in particular, ask her in a nice way. After all, she isn't a fucking mind reader. Pouting also sometimes helps.

and.....

11. Young hard bodied blondes, brunettes, red heads, etc...are highly over rated. You're better off spending your Peso's on a well seasoned, mature lady who screens properly and knows how to handle herself and your needs. And when you are with her, be open to her suggestions. You might learn something and in the process even become a better lover.

[IABart]

11.

Yep

[cyfan769]

Well said Gentlemen and Dallas. Great comments.