Reasons for not seeing someone. Provider or Hobbyist

[Guest021716-4]

How much does board persona influence your decision to see or not see someone and why?

After an experience I had with a client who thought I was real type-A, was intimited by me because, well, I still don't know why, I thought I would ask.

Me- I am guilty of paranoia about first timers due to a bad experience years ago. I can be overly cautious. I won't respond to one liners, but have found in a few instances, the gentleman was serious about a date.

Sometimes if I think a guy might be a jerk or I read his post history and he is mean on the board, I won't see him.

Do we tend to overlook people that we think might challenge our own belief systems etc. etc. ? Do you ever wonder if sometimes people just have extremely tough defensive mechanisms?

[3daygetaway]

Originally Posted by Scarlett Rossi

How much does board persona influence your decision to see or not see someone and why?

There is no doubt that the words a provider chooses to use in her showcase/ads/signature line influence my conception of them, but it's the everyday posts that shed light on the persona.

When I am looking to meet someone new, I almost-always find them in Co-ed (not in ads, weekend lineup, or showcases). I like providers who participate in discussions and show their intelligence...even though in a session I don't want any talking!

And sometimes, their opinions turn me off/away, but not as quickly as bad grammar. Even if I disagree with a provider's stance, I am still more inclined to see them than a non-poster, because they are active here, and this place is my happy place!

[Guest021716-4]

No talking in session! That's funny!! Helpful Hint... Just bring a ball gag.
or convince her you are deaf! I am guilty of talking, but I am cool with, "Scarlett, ssshh, get to work"!

I am in trouble with the bad grammer & I say fuck a lot, when I write! Two strikes against me! I wish I had an editor.

I would think most guys on here would not like a girl that posts alot. Hmmm, interesting.

This is my happy place too. I find I care less and less what people think & use the board as a creative outlet & for my own ammusment!

Is that bad? It sure is fun though!

[MARTlAN]

I don't really discriminate, but there are a couple that I have met personally non bcd and have no desire to see them because of their attitudes towards certain things. I have seen several girls with bad reviews some with alerts and had some stellar times. But to answer your question yes there is a couple of providers that I just refuse to see for personal reasons

[Claire She Blows]

Originally Posted by Martianman

I don't really discriminate, but there are a couple that I have met personally non bcd and have no desire to see them because of their attitudes towards certain things. I have seen several girls with bad reviews some with alerts and had some stellar times. But to answer your question yes there is a couple of providers that I just refuse to see for personal reasons

So that's why you've never scheduled with me! LOL

[nuglet]

Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

So that's why you've never scheduled with me! LOL

That's his error then. I've seen you and am now looking for a 7-11, or bank to hijack so I can spend more time with you...

[shayla84]

I think the board has alot to do with peopole seeing people. There have been times where I havent seen someone because there assholes on here and not very nice, the reason I dont see them is cause I dont want to be put in the middle of him being an ass at my home with me. Or the only thing they post ever is for $40- 50 dates, and well I am not taking the chance.

Guys I know have seen me even though I might not be there type but they liked how I responded to critism, or I took responsibility for my actions and didnt make excuses, or they say they like my posts and attitude.

Personality and how you present your self on here has alot of influence when it comes to seeing someone I think.
But again this is my opinion !!!

[Guest021716-4]

Originally Posted by Martianman

I don't really discriminate, but there are a couple that I have met personally non bcd and have no desire to see them because of their attitudes towards certain things. I have seen several girls with bad reviews some with alerts and had some stellar times. But to answer your question yes there is a couple of providers that I just refuse to see for personal reasons

I must say, honestly, I think I would be intimidated by you! You have more reviews than me. I would be stressed out due to my competitive nature...thinking dang, I am going to have to stick a sparkler in ass or something to impress this one!!!

[shayla84]

Originally Posted by Scarlett Rossi

No talking in session! That's funny!! Helpful Hint... Just bring a ball gag.
or convince her you are deaf! I am guilty of talking, but I am cool with, "Scarlett, ssshh, get to work"!

I am in trouble with the bad grammer & I say fuck a lot, when I write! Two strikes against me! I wish I had an editor.

I would think most guys on here would not like a girl that posts alot. Hmmm, interesting.

This is my happy place too. I find I care less and less what people think & use the board as a creative outlet & for my own ammusment!

Is that bad? It sure is fun though!

Send it to claire lol I am about to send her my posts, I write how I talk and most times dont take the time to grammerize my post lol She can be our English teacher lol, I dont know how I passed through college lol

[ElisabethWhispers]

I have one small requirement for visiting with someone, new or otherwise, and that's to speak to them over the phone for just a few moments.

It's surprising what those phone calls can accomplish, even if I have screened them already.

There have been a few times that I've declined an appointment after speaking to someone. Why? It varies.

When a guy has written and he's asking about situations that I'm not comfortable with (ex. scat, blood, fetishes that are out of my comfort zone, etc. ), then I have no problem telling him, as nicely as I can, that we're just not a good match.

If he's fairly inarticulate, that might be another reason.

Another reason for not seeing someone is if he really doesn't treat me as a human being, or has really backwards thoughts about women in society, I've been known to not see him again or refuse to see him in the first place.

A few months back, when I asked someone calling me (out of the blue) that I needed some screening, he told me that he had cash. And that was screening enough. He called me like three times and had this "Do it and I mean now, bitch" type of attitude.

It's very difficult to push me around. I generally do not argue with someone but if they wish to give me an attitude, I have no problem with saying no to seeing them.

Interesting topic. Someone really has to be obtuse and difficult for me to not see them. Hair, bad nails, color, complexion, movement ticks, ED, weight, special needs, wheelchairs, etc., doesn't bother in at all when meeting someone.

However, I have a few "no no" things that just turn me off.

Hard to tell what might do that but generally, it's a rare thing.

Elisabeth

[Guest021716-4]

Originally Posted by nuglet

That's his error then. I've seen you and am now looking for a 7-11, or bank to hijack so I can spend more time with you...

I have heard this several times!!! Claire is a perfect example. Some guys do not get her, but when they do....they really get her!!

And +1 Shayla!

[shayla84]

Originally Posted by 3daygetaway

There is no doubt that the words a provider chooses to use in her showcase/ads/signature line influence my conception of them, but it's the everyday posts that shed light on the persona.

When I am looking to meet someone new, I almost-always find them in Co-ed (not in ads, weekend lineup, or showcases). I like providers who participate in discussions and show their intelligence...even though in a session I don't want any talking!

And sometimes, their opinions turn me off/away, but not as quickly as bad grammar. Even if I disagree with a provider's stance, I am still more inclined to see them than a non-poster, because they are active here, and this place is my happy place!

I talk alot lol but like others have no problem with someone saying " Here talk into this" lol Gag me if you like, my main goal is you leave happy and satisfied.

[Guest021716-4]

Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

I have one small requirement for visiting with someone, new or otherwise, and that's to speak to them over the phone for just a few moments.

It's surprising what those phone calls can accomplish, even if I have screened them already.

There have been a few times that I've declined an appointment after speaking to someone. Why? It varies.

When a guy has written and he's asking about situations that I'm not comfortable with (ex. scat, blood, fetishes that are out of my comfort zone, etc. ), then I have no problem telling him, as nicely as I can, that we're just not a good match.

If he's fairly inarticulate, that might be another reason.

Another reason for not seeing someone is if he really doesn't treat me as a human being, or has really backwards thoughts about women in society, I've been known to not see him again or refuse to see him in the first place.

A few months back, when I asked someone calling me (out of the blue) that I needed some screening, he told me that he had cash. And that was screening enough. He called me like three times and had this "Do it and I mean now, bitch" type of attitude.

It's very difficult to push me around. I generally do not argue with someone but if they wish to give me an attitude, I have no problem with saying no to seeing them.

Interesting topic. Someone really has to be obtuse and difficult for me to not see them. Hair, bad nails, color, complexion, movement ticks, ED, weight, special needs, wheelchairs, etc., doesn't bother in at all when meeting someone.

However, I have a few "no no" things that just turn me off.

Hard to tell what might do that but generally, it's a rare thing.

Elisabeth

"Another reason for not seeing someone is if he really doesn't treat me as a human being, or has really backwards thoughts about women in society, I've been known to not see him again or refuse to see him in the first place". Me Too!!

[MARTlAN]

Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

So that's why you've never scheduled with me! LOL

Not at all. You are one of the few I'm surprised I haven't seen yet. I see us meeting in the not so distant future and having an epic time.

[MARTlAN]

Originally Posted by Scarlett Rossi

I must say, honestly, I think I would be intimidated by you! You have more reviews than me. I would be stressed out due to my competitive nature...thinking dang, I am going to have to stick a sparkler in ass or something to impress this one!!!

No sweetie no need for a sparkler, besides I have seen that before and that was not as fun as you think, specially doggy, ouch that burned... But you my dear are definitely on my radar and has been for while now. I feel like I need to bring my A game and B game and maybe my C game ,which really is just me trying not to sob, but kidding aside I do feel a little intimidated by you, but now that I know you share a similar feeling I think it might be time to meet so that we can intimidate each other, now I can't guarantee that you won't be disappointed, but you probably will. ..