Stage fright or performance anxiety

[scottish.wolf]

ok this is embarassing and I am sure I might get poked fun of but hey its worth asking and I don't know any of you so why not.

I am new to the hobby (i was tired of the bars) and since it seemed no one here was newbie friendly so I found a girl off backpage. I know risky but seemed a solution and went for it. After a little bit we got things going and then it all went south. The turtle hid and didn't want to come back out. No release nothing.

Ideas besides the obvious kick me while I am down statements. Anyone else had this happen first go round or anything?

[Hugh_Genitals]

Perhaps subconsciously you knew what you were doing was/is wrong (to you and for whatever reason).

[Amaranth]

You probably realized that you're now going to hell. Sinner.

[Guest013121]

maybe it was 1st time jitters or nervousness babe. No biggie

[ElumEno]

No kicking of you while your down from me.
I had the same thing happen to me my first time out.
I think almost all of us have at one time or another.

[Misawahawk]

You aren't a machine. Don't beat yourself up it happens to the best of it. I've heard on porn sets they require all the men to take vit v. Look at it this way- it's still better than titty bar.

[scottish.wolf]

well true that, and I appreciate the non-criticism so far. I really thought I would try this after my divorce as an alternative to hitting the bars and dropping a load of dough on a girl who walked out the door without me anyways.

[i'va biggen]

Get a hotter woman.

[billtunes]

You need someone who wants to be there with you and will take some time.

Now, after my prostate surgery, I can't so the quick bang anymore, as much as I'd like to be able to!

... And sometimes I don't finish the way I'd like - but sometimes I do with the right help.

[lacrew_2000]

I second what Ive a Biggen said. I've had stage fright....but only with disinterested 'are you done yet' girls. Get a girl with lots of outstanding reviews (hopefully your bp girl can give a reference). Hot is not just looks...but also really 'into' the session. Book at least an hour, so Big Ben doesn't psych you out either.

[Guest013121]

Go to the bar and have a drink with the lady. The suspense and alcohol will get mini-you hard as a table leg!

[Guest091013-1]

I wouldn't get down on yourself. The more you replay it in your mind, the more likely that it will repeat the next time. Hit the reset button on your brain and dial the phone.

[Jagger67]

Hey with my first girl things went south also she was a control freak and should not break Mish pos, so I got a little weak sauced and then got mad and finished quick. But yes even my I have been with a few ladies I and get the jitters when I meet someone knew. Look at it this way you will slowly get better, I know I did too it's really fun meeting new ladies since each one is unique in their own special way. I love it how each one is different ! Girls rock !

[Guest013121]

Originally Posted by Jagger67

Look at it this way you will slowly get better, I know I did too it's really fun meeting new ladies since each one is unique in their own special way. I love it how each one is different ! Girls rock !

Hell yea we rock! Lol! Its the same for us ladies too, each client is different and my favorite part is finding that one special thing that makes him happy

[ScubaBad]

SW - if you aren't finding a newbie friendly provider here that floats your boat, you may want to consider P411 to get started. There are several threads on here about it. Good luck and happy hunting