what's a guy got to do????

[zrex69]

I know I've never been active on this board, I've just been lurking for a while. But what has a guy have to do to actually book an appointment with a provider in KC? I have politely pm'd 5 different girls asking a few days in advance about availability on a specific day. Three messages have been outright ignored and I got 2 not so friendly replies and then put on ignore by these two providers. I guess I'm just a frustrated visitor to your city.

[ez2plz]

A few of the other members on here recommend a P411 membership as a method of establishing a reference. Can't blame the local providers for wanting to screen potential clients in this uptight city.

[zrex69]

My point is that I haven't even been given a chance to be screened.

[SinsOfTheFlesh]

What are you asking in your PM's? If they went the extra mile to block you, I'm wondering what you said that made them block any further contact.

[zrex69]

Example 1-Hi ****, my name is ***. I'm coming to KC for a few days and will have some free time Mon. Would you be available Mon, maybe around lunch time? And can you tell me about your "specials"? Thanks!!

Example 2-Hi ****, I seen your reviews here, and wanted to see if you would be available Mon afternoon around lunch time. I will only be in town a couple of days, and this will be my only free time. Also, what is your donation for 1hr?

What did I say that was wrong??

[bigryan222]

Basically you are unknown and you ask about donations right off the bat. Being an unknown and doing that might spook some. Especially since you say you have read their reviews which will have their donations.

If I were you I would look at their showcases here and see if they mention they need references. If they don't mention it or say they are newbie friendly you will have a lot better chance. Ask about getting verified instead of donations. Especially since you are listed from a different location and I would assume you do some traveling, spring for p411. It will do wonders after you get verified through them. Even then though, some girls require a few "Okays".

[SinsOfTheFlesh]

1. Never ask about specials. If she's running a special it will be advertised. Asking just gives the impression that you are cheap and a haggler.

2. You saw her reviews. Why are you asking about her donation? You shouldn't need to. Huge red flag.

Never ask about donations in any form. You shouldn't have to. The information can be found in ads, in reviews, or on her website. Asking is always going to set off a red flag that most ladies won't even respond to.

[Kourtney Lynn]

I know it can be hard for a new guy on this board, since rates aren't allowed to be advertised. But I think most ladies have a website or have their specials/rates located on their profile. Otherwise, yes, discussion donations is a very sensitive subject, especially for a gent that has no posts. Try contacting them through their board or email, or perhaps offer an alternative type of screening (i.e. p411, datecheck, etc.) in the initial email so that the lady will know you just aren't another BS'er.

Hope this helps.

xoxo Kourt

[zrex69]

Well, I have gone to see a girl and not double checked with her on the donation, and then when I get there she tells me that her donation listed was wrong. As far as asking about specials, that provider posted in the ad section, and stated in her post to pm her and ask about her special. I know you have to be careful but...

[Guest102513-1]

So it would be interesting to hear who this is...especially since there was an issue regarding her listed donation...sounds like a back door upsell

[Guest032514-1]

Must be a KC thing. Have had more "whats your special" in pms from ECCIE KC than anywhere at any other time.

Research.

NOBODY (in their right mind) should discuss $$. After screening, after you have sent a "hello! like to see you, here is the info you require, hows Tues at 2pm?"..after screening, after, not before, not during, get screened first, did I mention screen before anything else is discussed? After screening, that rule might relax, just to verify everyones on same page. Maybe.

God made the DEL button for the "what are your rates & services?" pms/emails.

[Guest090920]

Originally Posted by babee

Must be a KC thing. Have had more "whats your special" in pms from ECCIE KC than anywhere at any other time.

Why does that statement not surprise me?

[catnipdipper]

The home of Barleycorn and Deacon the master of the Ancient Asian Art of $60 HJ's with no tip.

Embarassing. I say no review allowed unless you spend a certain amount per minute?

[buzzworm86]

Originally Posted by zrex69

I know I've never been active on this board, I've just been lurking for a while. But what has a guy have to do to actually book an appointment with a provider in KC? I have politely pm'd 5 different girls asking a few days in advance about availability on a specific day. Three messages have been outright ignored and I got 2 not so friendly replies and then put on ignore by these two providers. I guess I'm just a frustrated visitor to your city.

you need to send me $50.00.





lol, just kidding

[SinsOfTheFlesh]

Originally Posted by zrex69

Well, I have gone to see a girl and not double checked with her on the donation, and then when I get there she tells me that her donation listed was wrong. As far as asking about specials, that provider posted in the ad section, and stated in her post to pm her and ask about her special. I know you have to be careful but...

Well, if her ad said ask about specials, then you certainly can't be faulted for doing just that.

I admit, this has become a bit problematic since BP no longer allows any mention of half hour rates. I have had to resort to "ask about my 120 special" rather than simply indicate that is my HH rate.

Sorry for the bad responses you got.