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bubedude · 08-14-2012, 04:54 PM

i was wondering if anyone has had any actual hook ups from these types of sites (adult friend finder, ashley madison, etc...)

?????

curious......

rockerrick · 08-14-2012, 05:17 PM

They are all computer gernerated profiles , designed to scam you out of your money . The only real ones on there are the others who have been scammed out of their money .

unagi · 08-14-2012, 05:27 PM

Think you'd do better on OKCupid.

atxsd · 08-15-2012, 03:47 AM

adultfriendfinder used to be loaded with providers...I don't see as many on there anymore. I've talked to a number of women on there. Overall, I'd say not worth the money to be able to contact other members.

I've had some limited success with the instant messaging on there - you can sort the women online by distance from you. Mostly dead in there, but occasionally there are real local women who are looking to get together. If you're a good looking guy with some game, I think you could find a gem or two. I'm not all that good looking and my game is rusty, so it's not as good for me. But, I still do find some who are looking to make a few bucks. And, there are older bbw's who are just plain horny and don't want anything but sex, and often pretty freaky sex at that. If attitude matters more to you than looks, that might work for you. The best part is you can join for free, and use the instant messenger with the free membership, so not much reason not to look around. There are also chat rooms...the Texas room used to be loaded with Austin people a few years ago, but not so much the past couple of years, at least when I have looked. The chat rooms are free too. Unfortunately, you can't read profiles or see more than a thumbnail of the profile pic, and can't email other members, without paying.

ashleymadison has seemed really fake to me. I only have a free membership there, but they send me matches regularly, and they almost all look fake to me.

seekingarrangement.com has a decent number of real girls, and a fair selection of known providers. I've gotten a lot of digits off there, but most of them seem to be looking for arrangements on the order of thousands per month. Still, I've found a number of cute girls willing to go on a visit by visit basis...but generally still asking a lot. Most of the time once I have their digits, I google the number and find them turning up on bp and other escort sites. You can view profiles for free, but can't contact anyone without paying. I recently joined for one month and had contact with more than a dozen girls that I believed were real. Of those, I was interested in 4. I fumbled the followup on 2 of them. One of them dropped me. The last one, I'm still texting back and forth trying to find an opening in our schedules. If she works out, the membership will have been well worth it. If not, I may join for another month and make sure I follow up better next time.

BTW, I did notice that I received a flurry of emails right after my paid membership expired. And, many of them looked like fake profiles to me. Definitely felt like they were trying to get me to re-up by sending fake emails.

sugardaddyforme.com is similar to seekingarrangement. The main differences: they have online chat with paid membership, and if a woman has a paid full access membership, you can contact each other even if you're not a paid member (I've had that happen a couple of times). Many looking for thousands per month. But not all.

I would suggest skipping ashleymadison, set up a new free email somewhere (gmail, yahoo, etc.), then use that email to get free memberships on the other 3 sites. Look around, and if you see anyone you want to contact, then you can consider paying.

Just note - if you can look at a screen full of bp pics and pick out the real ones from the fakes, you'll be ok. If you can't tell them apart and think every professional photo shoot is the girl next door taking a mirror pic, you will waste a lot of time on fake profiles.

And if all this seems like a whole lot more effort than reading ads here and calling a well reviewed provider, you are 100% correct.

nuglet · 08-15-2012, 01:00 PM

Ashley Madison isn't all BS. My S.O. has a friend (female) that runs on that site all the time, much to her pussy assed husbands grief. He just doesn't have the balls to tell her to get the fuck out of the house. Talk about cuckcold... he sits home and watches their kids while she goes out a screws half a dozen guys.. then bitches at her when she gets home cause he was "lonely". I personally think he's gay but that's another story. She's good looking (on the outside) but is just a free hooker in our book.

RALPHEY BOY · 08-15-2012, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by nuglet

Ashley Madison isn't all BS. My S.O. has a friend (female) that runs on that site all the time, much to her pussy assed husbands grief. He just doesn't have the balls to tell her to get the fuck out of the house. Talk about cuckcold... he sits home and watches their kids while she goes out a screws half a dozen guys.. then bitches at her when she gets home cause he was "lonely". I personally think he's gay but that's another story. She's good looking (on the outside) but is just a free hooker in our book.

send her my way Nuglet... I will show her a good time!!! you know what I look like..

nuglet · 08-15-2012, 01:22 PM

LOL REB. I'll find out her handle and pm you if I get it. She's good looking no doubt, but since I know her the way I do, I just think she's trash.. not that THAT's a bad thing. I thought once, I'd like to have her to play with, but after seeing how shitty she treats her old man, I'm just waiting for him to grow a pair and throw her out.. she's pretty secure since she talked him into adopting a couple of kids a couple of years ago, and he takes home a good paycheck... he's fucked. She calls him her "social security". He's a puss, but you might teach her a thing or two buddy. And I'm sure she's good in the sack.

RALPHEY BOY · 08-15-2012, 05:57 PM

i just want to fuk her good!!!

bubedude · 08-16-2012, 07:26 AM

thanks for the replies, much appreciated. my game is a little off as well, but times are tough economically (duh), so hitting providers like i used to is difficult (back in the ASPD days), but that doesn't subside the drive.

nuglet, feel free to throw a dog a bone....i'd like to meet your S.O.s female friend....that's the type i'm looking for (you can shoot me a PM)

CentTex77 · 08-16-2012, 10:17 AM

My wife and I hooked up with another couple on sdc.com - swingers date club.

texasfeet · 08-16-2012, 03:04 PM

nothing good to say about adult friend finder.

nuglet · 08-16-2012, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by CentTex77

My wife and I hooked up with another couple on sdc.com - swingers date club.

and SLS is a pretty good be for couples play..

SpeedRacerXXX · 08-16-2012, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by CentTex77

My wife and I hooked up with another couple on sdc.com - swingers date club.

Not very difficult to do on a swinger's website. However, much more difficult for a single male to hook up with others. Very few single women, and most of them are looking for bi-females or couples with a bi-female. Very few couples looking for single men, although it certainly does happen.

nuglet · 08-16-2012, 05:39 PM

I think you would be surprised how successful single males are on swingers sites. MFM are a big + for a lot of couples, also Unicorns (single females). Some couples prefer to play with one or the other, but not big into other "couples". A clever profile, good manners, respectful attitude will put you farrrrr ahead of the game, if ya GOT game.. REB could probably give classes on how to attract the "real" ones. Just signing in with a "ya wanna fuck a buck?" attitude turns most off. and looks aren't it either. More smooth, polished banter is the key.

SpeedRacerXXX · 08-17-2012, 07:07 AM

Unicorns are always popular because the number of married bi-female swingers is huge. Not many single women looking for men, though. Certainly there are couples looking for a second (or third and fourth) male to join them. Looking at the members of SDC on-line, right now, only 2 out of the first 20 are looking for males, and 1 of those 2 is looking for a bi-male (very, very rare in swinging circles). I would say 1 out of every 10 SDC members is looking for an extra male. And, for many, it is low on their priority list. And I certainly agree with you that the personality of the male goes a long way in being successful.

As an aside -- re-met a couple recently at Live Oak Resort (actually same guy, new wife) and his thing was and still is to watch his wife with other guys. Seems like it's the only thing that turns him on. So it does happen guys.