Are providers okay with being called degrading names by clients

[citizen44]

While it's all good fun to call BSC providers, and uppity bitches, whores on a hobby forum, it has never even remotely crossed my mind to do that in an appointment.

I'm a huge believer in the old saying "Treat a princess like a whore and a whore like a princess". I'm also just not wired sexually to get off on calling a woman something which is not going to turn her on.

Civvie women like it because deep down, most of them want to feel like a hotly desired sexual goddess to all the guys.

Most hookers already deal with a ton of anxiety with the mainstream views on prostitution and the fears they have with being that exposed to someone they didn't even know ten minutes before. I therefore do not want to do anything that would cause or increase her anxiety like being forceful or even possibly degrading.

In considering my last sentence, I would point out that most hookers are not in the hobby very long. Are there a bunch of lifer hookers mostly immune to social stigma and completely at home with all manner of sexual practices? Sure, but I'm not really into the die hard hooker with a lifer mentality. I like my hookers youthful, fun and only slightly jaded.

[Oralist]

Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

^ by and large I agree (especially on tone and intent) but it also depends on the provider. If she has a cross between a histrionic and narcissistic personality then she may enjoy it. However, would agree most people aren't wired this way. So for most it may hurt although not outwardly shown.

However, if you flip the scenario I do believe it may hurt the guys more if they're role playing and there's no holes barred insults to spice up the session. Not to say it wouldn't hurt, but the providers have likely heard it all in their business whereas the guys haven't or not nearly as much. So if she says let me suck your cock you ugly , disgusting, hairy ass fat belly trick. If he knows or feels there's some truth to it (as women in the RW may said similiar) the guy may not be able to maintain his erection for the session duration. So I'm sure even in role play providers have to be careful what they say, unless of course it's a FEMDOM session. I do think though it cuts both ways we're human it happens despite our best efforts to act tough. However, there's always exceptions to the rule.

rant over time for lunch

Or: Bring that limp needle dick over and I'll see if I can get it hard enough to feel this time.

Dirty talk for most is OK, just not the degrading kind.

Refer to citizen44 above.

[Guest072624]

No.

[Sistine Chapel]

Originally Posted by StinkyFingers

^^^ Speaks from experience

FEMDOM: Totally different situations ... In a FEMDOM session guys PAY specifically to be verbally degraded and humiliated, they get off on it. No one expects to be verbally assaulted and humiliated in a regular session.

hey folk in your haste and excitement to respond and show me I'm wrong you totally misrepresented or misunderstood the point. I'm pretty sure I said except if its FEMDOM. Sure no one expects to be verbally assaulted and humiliated during a regular session However, you conveniently left out a minor detail of my statement which was:

Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

if they're role playing and there's no holes barred insults to spice up the session.

ok you're forgiven for your Ryan Lochte moment.


Carry on if you must.

[Sistine Chapel]

Originally Posted by citizen44

While it's all good fun to call BSC providers, and uppity bitches, whores on a hobby forum, it has never even remotely crossed my mind to do that in an appointment.

I'm a huge believer in the old saying "Treat a princess like a whore and a whore like a princess". I'm also just not wired sexually to get off on calling a woman something which is not going to turn her on.

Civvie women like it because deep down, most of them want to feel like a hotly desired sexual goddess to all the guys.

Most hookers already deal with a ton of anxiety with the mainstream views on prostitution and the fears they have with being that exposed to someone they didn't even know ten minutes before. I therefore do not want to do anything that would cause or increase her anxiety like being forceful or even possibly degrading.

In considering my last sentence, I would point out that most hookers are not in the hobby very long. Are there a bunch of lifer hookers mostly immune to social stigma and completely at home with all manner of sexual practices? Sure, but I'm not really into the die hard hooker with a lifer mentality. I like my hookers youthful, fun and only slightly jaded.

^ pretty good analysis

[Sistine Chapel]

Originally Posted by Oralist

Or: Bring that limp needle dick over and I'll see if I can get it hard enough to feel this time.

Dirty talk for most is OK, just not the degrading kind.

Refer to citizen44 above.

amended to include needle dick insults and guys that like to seriously degrade for whatever reason may be borderline or potentially violent and probably should be avoided in my humble opinion.

[StinkyFingers]

Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

hey folk in your haste and excitement to respond and show me I'm wrong you totally misrepresented or misunderstood the point. I'm pretty sure I said except if its FEMDOM. Sure no one expects to be verbally assaulted and humiliated during a regular session However, you conveniently left out a minor detail of my statement which was:




ok you're forgiven for your Ryan Lochte moment.


Carry on if you must.

See ... not even you have the patience to go back and read all the blathering crap you post.

Learn how to get to the fucking point, man.

[Sistine Chapel]

Originally Posted by StinkyFingers

See ... not even you have the patience to go back and read all the blathering crap you post.

Learn how to get to the fucking point, man.

Then why even respond in the first place. You looking for approval from someone? Looking for people to circle jerk with you in agreement? Don't try to run from me now; stick to the point. If you're gonna take the time to respond and be all catty and emotional fine it's your prerogative but don't try to misrepresent and then pivot to either ignorance or impatience cuz you can get ghost with that shit.

[Slitlikr]

Originally Posted by StinkyFingers

^^^ Speaks from experience

FEMDOM: Totally different situations ... In a FEMDOM session guys PAY specifically to be verbally degraded and humiliated, they get off on it. No one expects to be verbally assaulted and humiliated in a regular session.

Agree

[StinkyFingers]

Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

Then why even respond in the first place. You looking for approval from someone? Looking for people to circle jerk with you in agreement? Don't try to run from me now; stick to the point. If you're gonna take the time to respond and be all catty and emotional fine it's your prerogative but don't try to misrepresent and then pivot to either ignorance or impatience cuz you can get ghost with that shit.

Learn how to get to the fucking point, man.

Not my problem if you can't even interpret what you wrote. i don't be misrepresentin

See ... it's easy. Be direct.

[Sistine Chapel]

Originally Posted by StinkyFingers

Learn how to get to the fucking point, man.

Not my problem if you can't even interpret what you wrote. i don't be misrepresentin

See ... it's easy. Be direct.

Ha...You couldn't even handle a simple reference to FEMDOM in comparison to role play without melting down and now you're on a rant for being succinct. Yeah ok I tell you what to help cut down on your silly emotional rants if Taco Tuesday go the way I envision this Presidential election I may consider it.

[Thickems]

I see nothing wrong with it! I love it when my clients get into it

[KaitlynDior]

I'm not going to lie, that shit turns me on...
I love hearing you call me your dirty lil whore while I get to work on your dick. I'm definitely a freaky PSE loving provider

[StinkyFingers]

Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

Ha...You couldn't even handle a simple reference to FEMDOM in comparison to role play without melting down and now you're on a rant for being succinct. Yeah ok I tell you what to help cut down on your silly emotional rants if Taco Tuesday go the way I envision this Presidential election I may consider it.

I see ... the problem is that you don't know how to speak English. Make sense much?

[Caligula1]

Please never call the providers with degrading name ever. You are a genetleman. I understand this is business but...remember you have a mother, wife or SO, ATF, sister , nephew and and female co workers. Try calling the female coworkers working at work for you with degrading names trust me you will not be warned but your ass will be fired on that day typically within the hour sir. That's business too. If the service is poor move on sir with due respect.